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Old 16-08-2016, 16:47
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Better start off by saying all this is JUST MY OPINION lol....

I feel that he's a predator, and abusive as well... He's an Emotional Vampire, which is why so many housemates are tense/down. These people feed off peoples souls, creating instability, unhappiness, fear, rage etc & THRIVE on it.

The "Baby Voice" thing is all a HUGE part of the passive/aggressive abuse... Although he's being blatantly sarcastic & very often there's also a palpable air of menace to his tone, if you pull him up on it he can just say (Probably with heavier sarcasm) "But I'm Being Niiiiice, I'm Not Shouting... " I've many years of experience with an abusive/controlling ex partner & mother & LOADS of Bear's behavioural traits are soooo similar. Kind of like saying something snidey then saying "Lol" afterwards, cos that makes it "Bantz, Innit" .
Google something called "Gaslighting" & it might make sense to you regarding Bear.
It's a form of emotional abuse, where you deliberately try to create insanity in others... Seriously, he's a prime example of UBER passive/aggressiveness too!!

They engineer situations that make it able for them to do S**T things, then turn it back onto the victims. He wound Renee up & she bit, allowing him to sit back & bask in the chaos & the fact he had so much control over her. They'll windup/manipulate others to do their dirty work, so they can sit back, watch their Flying Monkeys cause chaos, if challenged "Well, I Didn't Even Do It!" "What, It's Just My Opinion, I'm Not Being Nasty..."
"Don't Take Things So Seriously"

He gives me chills, NOT nice ones... He's dangerous, cunning, vindictive & abusive (In my opinion obviously) it's no wonder Sam, Ricky, Katie are so quiet - they are constantly walking on eggshells & they don't want to engage with him!!
It's like you can only cope by: 1, Putting up with it & try to get some enjoyment (But risk being seen as two faced), 2, Rant/Rage Every So Often (But fueling him), 3, Limit your contact as much as possible (But get dubbed Boring & be bored!)

Yes, BB is a GAMESHOW, but Bear's "Game" is being intimidating/passive/aggressive/menacing/wasteful/petty/immature/spiteful/vindictive etc etc... He's CONSTANTLY on at the housemates he despises the most, like the school photo - he was grabbing Ricky, pulling him closer so he could lick his face... Um, personal space?! If Bear wanted to do a funny face, cool - but he just HAD to test Ricky, see if he could make him react. Well done to Ricky for not allowing himself to be controlled.

And if people wanna bash me for saying this, then go ahead - although I tend to go for civil discussion of opinions myself - but Bear is a BULLY & a COWARD, but he also has intelligence, which in my book makes him even more dangerous cos he learns from mistakes.

Bear's experience with the security guard proved him as a bully/coward (He knew it as much as we did lol!) & since then, he's learned not to risk being around someone who can control/expose him, so has instead ramped up the passive/aggressive stuff to ridiculous levels so that he can control and/or abuse/bully the housemates he dislikes, all whilst under the blatant facade of being "Friendly" "Helpful" "Aving A Laugh"etc....

He knows EXACTLY what he's doing & he's playing his game very well - he's an Emotional Vampire & a Predator, I find it hard to believe that there are not more people that can see it... He not only feeds off the negativity, he THRIVES from it, he gets a kick out of hurting people that he sees as weaker than him & uses Emotional Terrorism to wear down people, especially ones that might be strong enough mentally to challenge him.

He's not Fun, he's Calculated, Vindictive, Narcissistic & Scary.
Sam summed it up perfectly in the diary room bless her - it's exhausting dealing with someone like that, it does make you depressed/weary/fearful/drained/tense cos there's no let up from it!! Broke my heart to see her so weary/upset.

I feel sorry for everyone, not Lewis, Marnie or Heavy D cos they lap it up, yes, even Heavy -said from the start he's as bad as them. He's quite happy to start playing up with Bear when he feels like it, so he's a hypocrite to then kick off at him when he's not his "Friend". I feel sad that without the toxic behaviour, primarily by Bear-the housemates would be given a chance to not be "Boring"... There's been little glimpses, but far & few between, how can people not be boring when they're walking on eggshells??? I know it sounds extreme to call it "Emotional Terrorism", but it's a form of torture what he's doing... A constant dripping tap of negativity & pure nastiness.

BB has blown it in my eyes, this series hasn't been much fun at all, it's been painful to watch & I keep hoping it'll get better but that hope's dwindling fast.. Too much hypocrisy, unclear/not shown/not given warnings, dodgy nomination twists, aggression, Marnie & Lewis's cringeworthy blatant "Scriptwriting" Bear's reign of Emotional/Mental Terrorism etc...
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Old 16-08-2016, 16:48
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No. Just annoying and has no respect for others.
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Old 16-08-2016, 16:56
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Better start off by saying all this is JUST MY OPINION lol....

I feel that he's a predator, and abusive as well... He's an Emotional Vampire, which is why so many housemates are tense/down. These people feed off peoples souls, creating instability, unhappiness, fear, rage etc & THRIVE on it.

The "Baby Voice" thing is all a HUGE part of the passive/aggressive abuse... Although he's being blatantly sarcastic & very often there's also a palpable air of menace to his tone, if you pull him up on it he can just say (Probably with heavier sarcasm) "But I'm Being Niiiiice, I'm Not Shouting... " I've many years of experience with an abusive/controlling ex partner & mother & LOADS of Bear's behavioural traits are soooo similar. Kind of like saying something snidey then saying "Lol" afterwards, cos that makes it "Bantz, Innit" .
Google something called "Gaslighting" & it might make sense to you regarding Bear.
It's a form of emotional abuse, where you deliberately try to create insanity in others... Seriously, he's a prime example of UBER passive/aggressiveness too!!

They engineer situations that make it able for them to do S**T things, then turn it back onto the victims. He wound Renee up & she bit, allowing him to sit back & bask in the chaos & the fact he had so much control over her. They'll windup/manipulate others to do their dirty work, so they can sit back, watch their Flying Monkeys cause chaos, if challenged "Well, I Didn't Even Do It!" "What, It's Just My Opinion, I'm Not Being Nasty..."
"Don't Take Things So Seriously"

He gives me chills, NOT nice ones... He's dangerous, cunning, vindictive & abusive (In my opinion obviously) it's no wonder Sam, Ricky, Katie are so quiet - they are constantly walking on eggshells & they don't want to engage with him!!
It's like you can only cope by: 1, Putting up with it & try to get some enjoyment (But risk being seen as two faced), 2, Rant/Rage Every So Often (But fueling him), 3, Limit your contact as much as possible (But get dubbed Boring & be bored!)

Yes, BB is a GAMESHOW, but Bear's "Game" is being intimidating/passive/aggressive/menacing/wasteful/petty/immature/spiteful/vindictive etc etc... He's CONSTANTLY on at the housemates he despises the most, like the school photo - he was grabbing Ricky, pulling him closer so he could lick his face... Um, personal space?! If Bear wanted to do a funny face, cool - but he just HAD to test Ricky, see if he could make him react. Well done to Ricky for not allowing himself to be controlled.

And if people wanna bash me for saying this, then go ahead - although I tend to go for civil discussion of opinions myself - but Bear is a BULLY & a COWARD, but he also has intelligence, which in my book makes him even more dangerous cos he learns from mistakes.

Bear's experience with the security guard proved him as a bully/coward (He knew it as much as we did lol!) & since then, he's learned not to risk being around someone who can control/expose him, so has instead ramped up the passive/aggressive stuff to ridiculous levels so that he can control and/or abuse/bully the housemates he dislikes, all whilst under the blatant facade of being "Friendly" "Helpful" "Aving A Laugh"etc....

He knows EXACTLY what he's doing & he's playing his game very well - he's an Emotional Vampire & a Predator, I find it hard to believe that there are not more people that can see it... He not only feeds off the negativity, he THRIVES from it, he gets a kick out of hurting people that he sees as weaker than him & uses Emotional Terrorism to wear down people, especially ones that might be strong enough mentally to challenge him.

He's not Fun, he's Calculated, Vindictive, Narcissistic & Scary.
Sam summed it up perfectly in the diary room bless her - it's exhausting dealing with someone like that, it does make you depressed/weary/fearful/drained/tense cos there's no let up from it!! Broke my heart to see her so weary/upset.

I feel sorry for everyone, not Lewis, Marnie or Heavy D cos they lap it up, yes, even Heavy -said from the start he's as bad as them. He's quite happy to start playing up with Bear when he feels like it, so he's a hypocrite to then kick off at him when he's not his "Friend". I feel sad that without the toxic behaviour, primarily by Bear-the housemates would be given a chance to not be "Boring"... There's been little glimpses, but far & few between, how can people not be boring when they're walking on eggshells??? I know it sounds extreme to call it "Emotional Terrorism", but it's a form of torture what he's doing... A constant dripping tap of negativity & pure nastiness.

BB has blown it in my eyes, this series hasn't been much fun at all, it's been painful to watch & I keep hoping it'll get better but that hope's dwindling fast.. Too much hypocrisy, unclear/not shown/not given warnings, dodgy nomination twists, aggression, Marnie & Lewis's cringeworthy blatant "Scriptwriting" Bear's reign of Emotional/Mental Terrorism etc...
I hear you but I don't think he's dangerous. Narcissistic in the extreme but dangerous? No - he's a little tosser.

I don't see any passivity in him either so disagree with the passive/aggressive thing. The aggression is real but the passivity is fake and a complete pisstake.

I absolutely agree that he's a coward and like every other bully before him, he only picks on those he perceives to be weak. Or he completely takes advantage of the fact that he's in there and protected, before taking on the likes of Renee.

Do you or does anyone seriously think he'd say some of the things he's said to her if they weren't in the BB house? LMFAO - no chance, she'd knock the little shit into next week

As a kid, we used to ask bullies 'why don't you pick on someone your own size?' because even as children, we could see that bullies never do.
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Old 16-08-2016, 16:58
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He's just a prankster. Sam, Ricky, Aubrey, Katie and Renee are much more sinister and disturbing characters.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:06
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Better start off by saying all this is JUST MY OPINION lol....

I feel that he's a predator, and abusive as well... He's an Emotional Vampire, which is why so many housemates are tense/down. These people feed off peoples souls, creating instability, unhappiness, fear, rage etc & THRIVE on it.

The "Baby Voice" thing is all a HUGE part of the passive/aggressive abuse... Although he's being blatantly sarcastic & very often there's also a palpable air of menace to his tone, if you pull him up on it he can just say (Probably with heavier sarcasm) "But I'm Being Niiiiice, I'm Not Shouting... " I've many years of experience with an abusive/controlling ex partner & mother & LOADS of Bear's behavioural traits are soooo similar. Kind of like saying something snidey then saying "Lol" afterwards, cos that makes it "Bantz, Innit" .
Google something called "Gaslighting" & it might make sense to you regarding Bear.
It's a form of emotional abuse, where you deliberately try to create insanity in others... Seriously, he's a prime example of UBER passive/aggressiveness too!!

They engineer situations that make it able for them to do S**T things, then turn it back onto the victims. He wound Renee up & she bit, allowing him to sit back & bask in the chaos & the fact he had so much control over her. They'll windup/manipulate others to do their dirty work, so they can sit back, watch their Flying Monkeys cause chaos, if challenged "Well, I Didn't Even Do It!" "What, It's Just My Opinion, I'm Not Being Nasty..."
"Don't Take Things So Seriously"

He gives me chills, NOT nice ones... He's dangerous, cunning, vindictive & abusive (In my opinion obviously) it's no wonder Sam, Ricky, Katie are so quiet - they are constantly walking on eggshells & they don't want to engage with him!!
It's like you can only cope by: 1, Putting up with it & try to get some enjoyment (But risk being seen as two faced), 2, Rant/Rage Every So Often (But fueling him), 3, Limit your contact as much as possible (But get dubbed Boring & be bored!)

Yes, BB is a GAMESHOW, but Bear's "Game" is being intimidating/passive/aggressive/menacing/wasteful/petty/immature/spiteful/vindictive etc etc... He's CONSTANTLY on at the housemates he despises the most, like the school photo - he was grabbing Ricky, pulling him closer so he could lick his face... Um, personal space?! If Bear wanted to do a funny face, cool - but he just HAD to test Ricky, see if he could make him react. Well done to Ricky for not allowing himself to be controlled.

And if people wanna bash me for saying this, then go ahead - although I tend to go for civil discussion of opinions myself - but Bear is a BULLY & a COWARD, but he also has intelligence, which in my book makes him even more dangerous cos he learns from mistakes.

Bear's experience with the security guard proved him as a bully/coward (He knew it as much as we did lol!) & since then, he's learned not to risk being around someone who can control/expose him, so has instead ramped up the passive/aggressive stuff to ridiculous levels so that he can control and/or abuse/bully the housemates he dislikes, all whilst under the blatant facade of being "Friendly" "Helpful" "Aving A Laugh"etc....

He knows EXACTLY what he's doing & he's playing his game very well - he's an Emotional Vampire & a Predator, I find it hard to believe that there are not more people that can see it... He not only feeds off the negativity, he THRIVES from it, he gets a kick out of hurting people that he sees as weaker than him & uses Emotional Terrorism to wear down people, especially ones that might be strong enough mentally to challenge him.

He's not Fun, he's Calculated, Vindictive, Narcissistic & Scary.
Sam summed it up perfectly in the diary room bless her - it's exhausting dealing with someone like that, it does make you depressed/weary/fearful/drained/tense cos there's no let up from it!! Broke my heart to see her so weary/upset.

I feel sorry for everyone, not Lewis, Marnie or Heavy D cos they lap it up, yes, even Heavy -said from the start he's as bad as them. He's quite happy to start playing up with Bear when he feels like it, so he's a hypocrite to then kick off at him when he's not his "Friend". I feel sad that without the toxic behaviour, primarily by Bear-the housemates would be given a chance to not be "Boring"... There's been little glimpses, but far & few between, how can people not be boring when they're walking on eggshells??? I know it sounds extreme to call it "Emotional Terrorism", but it's a form of torture what he's doing... A constant dripping tap of negativity & pure nastiness.

BB has blown it in my eyes, this series hasn't been much fun at all, it's been painful to watch & I keep hoping it'll get better but that hope's dwindling fast.. Too much hypocrisy, unclear/not shown/not given warnings, dodgy nomination twists, aggression, Marnie & Lewis's cringeworthy blatant "Scriptwriting" Bear's reign of Emotional/Mental Terrorism etc...
Agreed.

The fact he is calculated, for me, means it's not any kind of mental health issue, he simply enjoys playing with people's emotions.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:08
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I totally agree with all your comments - the issue is that I don't think he realises potential psychological damage that he may be causing. He has clearly got a game plan and plays this role. I think he is very unstable and a sociopath.
Imo he shows all the traits of sociopathic behaviour.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:12
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Better start off by saying all this is JUST MY OPINION lol....

I feel that he's a predator, and abusive as well...
....Marnie & Lewis's cringeworthy blatant "Scriptwriting" Bear's reign of Emotional/Mental Terrorism etc...
Good post, well thought out and good points made.

I'm of the opinion now that yes, these are his natural traits and yes, if he was in a relationship with a more vulnerable, quiet girl then that would be a dangerous situation for her to be in.

I also think that he has been employed by the producers to torment the house and horribly, this is something he excels at and employs all the techniques you discussed.

It's a sad situation for all genuine fans of the show.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:16
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I hear you but I don't think he's dangerous. Narcissistic in the extreme but dangerous? No - he's a little tosser.

I don't see any passivity in him either so disagree with the passive/aggressive thing. The aggression is real but the passivity is fake and a complete pisstake.

(I agree with you that it's fake but he's clever enough to know that if they challenge him, he can claim it's real...So I still think it's passive'aggressive.)

I absolutely agree that he's a coward and like every other bully before him, he only picks on those he perceives to be weak. Or he completely takes advantage of the fact that he's in there and protected, before taking on the likes of Renee.

Do you or does anyone seriously think he'd say some of the things he's said to her if they weren't in the BB house? LMFAO - no chance, she'd knock the little shit into next week

(TOTALLY agree with that!! I expect when he does his P.A stuff he's got a big security man of his own haha!!)

As a kid, we used to ask bullies 'why don't you pick on someone your own size?' because even as children, we could see that bullies never do.
(What a lovely quote!)

I mean dangerous more in the sense of being able to manipulate people really, and being so vindictive/narcissistic... He holds grudges, there's an awful lot of people out there that will follow/blindly believe things without checking facts & that can be dangerous.

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Old 16-08-2016, 17:16
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He's just a prankster. Sam, Ricky, Aubrey, Katie and Renee are much more sinister and disturbing characters.
He is not a prankster, he is unkind and self centred. The whole show has been about him.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:22
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Prankster!!???
Sociopath. No true feelings for others. Vile man. Goes way beyond a bit of fun. BB producers are the ones at fault really. He should have been removed for the week 1 aggression.
BB has allowed the escalation of his behaviour. He plays these 'pranks' - passes them of as 'banter' and ends up with people apologising to him!
A true bully.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:23
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This kind of behaviour, when seen in children, is known as 'reactive bullying' i.e. initiating a negative emotional response in others - which takes a degree of intelligence on the part of the bully and can provoke very distressing and violent reactions on the part of those is is used upon. The bully can then play the victim. It is a very difficult situation to handle within schools.

In an adult, you are right, it is emotional vampirism and it is very difficult to watch the impact on others, without letting it engender emotional responses in ourselves too.

I actually fear for Bear post CBB as, especially amongst young men when alcohol is involved, violence may certainly be involved. So many like to say that 'banter' is harmless - it is not, I'm sure the police & ambulance services see the results of 'only joking, it's just bantz' in town centres every weekend.

Incidently, research seems to show that children who use reactive bullying behaviour have often been the victim of bullying within the family or outside school - and this is their form of revenge. I just wonder what Bear's childhood was like. Bullied or bully - or both.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:34
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He is not a prankster, he is unkind and self centred. The whole show has been about him.

It's not his fault the whole show has been about him, that's down to the producers and editing, they decide what to show or not to show.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:40
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Prankster!!???
Sociopath. No true feelings for others. Vile man. Goes way beyond a bit of fun. BB producers are the ones at fault really. He should have been removed for the week 1 aggression.
BB has allowed the escalation of his behaviour. He plays these 'pranks' - passes them of as 'banter' and ends up with people apologising to him!
A true bully.
Even if you can only read the first couple of bits, this is what I'm talking about... True manipulative/narcissistic/sociopathic bullies/abusers very often end up with the victim apologising, it's how skilled they are!! That's why I call it Emotional Terrorism, it's a form of torture & brainwashing, it really is. To experience it, you know it. Trust me, I know.

http://narcissisticbehavior.net/the-...ctim-syndrome/
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:40
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He reminds me of Pinky in Brighton Rock.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:41
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It's not his fault the whole show has been about him, that's down to the producers and editing, they decide what to show or not to show.
I bet he's heard that his entire life. From his mum, his nan, his siblings.....

Now look at the state of him? A complete and utter unlikable mess because as long as nothing's ever his fault, he never need do any behavioural modification.

How's that working for him?
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:44
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He's just a prankster. Sam, Ricky, Aubrey, Katie and Renee are much more sinister and disturbing characters.
Oh give up lol Katie Aubrey Katie was voted the funniest in the house and we've been deprived of that! I already like Aubrey and find Renee more interesting than I thought !
Three women!!
Wonder if they'd run away from the security guard I doubt it ! Didn't two of these women hold the bag longer than 3 of the guys
Oh yes very scary 😀
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:46
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Even if you can only read the first couple of bits, this is what I'm talking about... True manipulative/narcissistic/sociopathic bullies/abusers very often end up with the victim apologising, it's how skilled they are!! That's why I call it Emotional Terrorism, it's a form of torture & brainwashing, it really is. To experience it, you know it. Trust me, I know.

http://narcissisticbehavior.net/the-...ctim-syndrome/
True he does have most of those qualities!!!!
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:47
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Thank you for totally putting my feelings into words - I find him very disturbing.

It's also very short sighted of the CBB Producers to be actively encouraging all Bear's antics. Any prospective future "Celebrities" considering signing up will probably run a mile now that they've seen what the current ones have been subjected to, in the name of entertainment. I haven't been entertained in the slightest, I've been upset to see so many good and interesting people crawl into their shell and be controlled by Bear - its not funny, its not interesting, its not healthy, and in my opinion the nails are already being driven in.

I no longer watch the three programmes 'live' - I tape them so that I can fast forward through Bear's ridiculous actions, Heavy D's obnoxious behaviour (which for the most, he doesn't even understand why he's doing it), and of course Lewis and Marnie trying to sell us their 'love at first sight' performance. Best part of the Series is the 1hr "Live" each night - its the only time we get to actually meet the other celebrities, which is a travesty. But not so much a travesty as the fact that they are all huddled in the bedroom trying to avoid being caught up in the Bear Show.
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:50
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He seems to be someone who likes to deliberately inflict discomfort/upset, then enjoy the reaction. If the reaction suggests he has gone too far he pulls his best Frank Spencer voice and whines on about it being a bit of fun.

He is dangerous because he does seem to get a kick out other's discomfort. and he is dangerous because he is sending a message to gullible attention seeking bullies that this is the way to get fame. The ones that set up a form of cruel behaviour that is classed as a "prank" film it and get joy from a reaction, then share it on social media probably think bear is the best thing ever and shout the mantra of "the show would be boring without him".
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:54
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This kind of behaviour, when seen in children, is known as 'reactive bullying' i.e. initiating a negative emotional response in others - which takes a degree of intelligence on the part of the bully and can provoke very distressing and violent reactions on the part of those is is used upon. The bully can then play the victim. It is a very difficult situation to handle within schools.

In an adult, you are right, it is emotional vampirism and it is very difficult to watch the impact on others, without letting it engender emotional responses in ourselves too.

I actually fear for Bear post CBB as, especially amongst young men when alcohol is involved, violence may certainly be involved. So many like to say that 'banter' is harmless - it is not, I'm sure the police & ambulance services see the results of 'only joking, it's just bantz' in town centres every weekend.

Incidently, research seems to show that children who use reactive bullying behaviour have often been the victim of bullying within the family or outside school - and this is their form of revenge. I just wonder what Bear's childhood was like. Bullied or bully - or both.
Good post.
I'm pretty sure Bear will have big security people/drivers around him after he leaves, any trouble involving alcohol/violence is highly likely to be of Bear's own making lol -I'm not advocating violence on any one's part, he doesn't deserve to get physically attacked just for being a knob!!

And with respect, because you make some interesting & valid points, I don't really care too much about his childhood. I & many, many others have been through HORRENDOUS abusive childhoods/growing up, and don't behave the way he does!!! He doesn't seem to appreciate anything, he's just got a huge sense of entitlement - his narcissism is off the scale....
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Old 16-08-2016, 17:56
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He's about as dangerous as a melted action man. One look at the security guard and he shat his little knickers
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Old 16-08-2016, 18:00
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Bear is on a television show.

He has a quick improvisational mind. His ability to be mischievous is a talent.
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Old 16-08-2016, 18:02
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He's about as dangerous as a melted action man. One look at the security guard and he shat his little knickers
True.
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Old 16-08-2016, 18:03
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OP - you're just imagining things , getting yourself all wound up .

what's Bear actually done ?---
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Old 16-08-2016, 18:04
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Better start off by saying all this is JUST MY OPINION lol....

I feel that he's a predator, and abusive as well... He's an Emotional Vampire, which is why so many housemates are tense/down. These people feed off peoples souls, creating instability, unhappiness, fear, rage etc & THRIVE on it.

The "Baby Voice" thing is all a HUGE part of the passive/aggressive abuse... Although he's being blatantly sarcastic & very often there's also a palpable air of menace to his tone, if you pull him up on it he can just say (Probably with heavier sarcasm) "But I'm Being Niiiiice, I'm Not Shouting... " I've many years of experience with an abusive/controlling ex partner & mother & LOADS of Bear's behavioural traits are soooo similar. Kind of like saying something snidey then saying "Lol" afterwards, cos that makes it "Bantz, Innit" .

Google something called "Gaslighting" & it might make sense to you regarding Bear.
It's a form of emotional abuse, where you deliberately try to create insanity in others... Seriously, he's a prime example of UBER passive/aggressiveness too!!

They engineer situations that make it able for them to do S**T things, then turn it back onto the victims. He wound Renee up & she bit, allowing him to sit back & bask in thechaos & the fact he had so much control over her. They'll windup/manipulate others
to do their dirty work, so they can sit back, watch their Flying Monkeys cause chaos, if challenged "Well, I Didn't Even Do It!" "What, It's Just My Opinion, I'm Not Being Nasty..."
"Don't Take Things So Seriously"

He gives me chills, NOT nice ones... He's dangerous, cunning, vindictive & abusive (In my opinion obviously) it's no wonder Sam, Ricky, Katie are so quiet - they are constantly walking on eggshells & they don't want to engage with him!!
It's like you can only cope by: 1, Putting up with it & try to get some enjoyment (But risk being seen as two faced), 2, Rant/Rage Every So Often (But fueling him), 3, Limit your contact as much as possible (But get dubbed Boring & be bored!)

Yes, BB is a GAMESHOW, but Bear's "Game" is being intimidating/passive/aggressive/menacing/wasteful/petty/immature/spiteful/vindictive etc etc... He's CONSTANTLY on at the housemates he despises the most, like the school photo - he was grabbing Ricky, pulling him closer so he could lick his face... Um, personal space?! If Bear wanted to do a funny face, cool - but he just HAD to test Ricky, see if he could make him react. Well done to Ricky for not allowing himself to be controlled.

And if people wanna bash me for saying this, then go ahead - although I tend to go for civil discussion of opinions myself - but Bear is a BULLY & a COWARD, but he also has intelligence, which in my book makes him even more dangerous cos he learns from mistakes.

Bear's experience with the security guard proved him as a bully/coward (He knew it as much as we did lol!) & since then, he's learned not to risk being around someone who can control/expose him, so has instead ramped up the passive/aggressive stuff to ridiculous levels so that he can control and/or abuse/bully the housemates he dislikes, all whilst under the blatant facade of being "Friendly" "Helpful" "Aving A Laugh"etc....

He knows EXACTLY what he's doing & he's playing his game very well - he's an Emotional Vampire & a Predator, I find it hard to believe that there are not more people that can see it... He not only feeds off the negativity, he THRIVES from it, he gets a kick out of hurting people that he sees as weaker than him & uses Emotional Terrorism to wear down people, especially ones that might be strong enough mentally to challenge him.

He's not Fun, he's Calculated, Vindictive, Narcissistic & Scary.
Sam summed it up perfectly in the diary room bless her - it's exhausting dealing with someone like that, it does make you depressed/weary/fearful/drained/tense cos there's no let up from it!! Broke my heart to see her so weary/upset.

I feel sorry for everyone, not Lewis, Marnie or Heavy D cos they lap it up, yes, even Heavy -said from the start he's as bad as them. He's quite happy to start playing up with Bear when he feels like it, so he's a hypocrite to then kick off at him when he's not his "Friend". I feel sad that without the toxic behaviour, primarily by Bear-the housemates would be given a chance to not be "Boring"... There's been little glimpses, but far & few between, how can people not be boring when they're walking on eggshells??? I know it sounds extreme to call it "Emotional Terrorism", but it's a form of torture what he's doing... A constant dripping tap of negativity & pure nastiness.

BB has blown it in my eyes, this series hasn't been much fun at all, it's been painful to watch & I keep hoping it'll get better but that hope's dwindling fast.. Too much hypocrisy, unclear/not shown/not given warnings, dodgy nomination twists, aggression, Marnie & Lewis's cringeworthy blatant "Scriptwriting" Bear's reign of Emotional/Mental Terrorism etc...
In short - HE IS A PRICK
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