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Old 20-08-2016, 10:25
mrsgrumpy49
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My 16 year old collie has a failing liver and kidneys. She has a good quality of life at the moment but I am well aware that time is limited and everything could suddenly go downhill. She has had a couple of stumbles recently and is a bit deaf and shortsighted. She is also a bit more needy these days. I noticed a while back that the first thing she does after dozing is check out where I am. She will go from room to room looking for me. If I give out signs that I am going out she is there at the door wanting to come with me. She looks so betrayed If I have to leave her (never more than an hour).
Anyhow I was persuaded to go to a village do last night but felt as if I was coming across as an overprotective Mum when I said I didn't want to stay the whole time ie 3-4 hours.
I went home after 2 hours to check her and I'm afraid I stayed
I think I'm beyond help!
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Old 20-08-2016, 10:55
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You may be as softy as well but spending as much time as you can with someone you love, when you know there is not going to be much time is the right thing to do. Its love
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Old 20-08-2016, 13:35
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You are a softie, and your beloved friend is very lucky, she is living out her days with a loving owner and knows it. She sounds as devoted to you as you are to her.

You won't regret spending these precious times with her, and it will be a comfort when the time comes to bid farewell to her.
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Old 20-08-2016, 16:47
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I would be exactly the same, in fact I am. You can't get the time back with her but you can go to social things when she's no longer with you. If you are happier with her at this time then that's your choice and there's nothing wrong with that. If other people don't understand that's their problem and it's none of their business anyway.
Lots of good wishes to your girl x
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Old 20-08-2016, 18:28
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If being a caring owner and valuing the time you have with your pet is being a softie, yes you are. And I wish all pet owners were like you.

Enjoy the time you have left with her. She's a lucky and much-loved dog.
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Old 20-08-2016, 19:05
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Don't go changing MrsGrumpy.

To paraphrase from a thought provoking quote I once heard.

After the loss of a beautiful dog and loved family member, it is all too common to be filled with regret, questions and guilt.
Could you have done something different? Could you have given them more time and affection?

Stop, imagine and feel that grief today. Turn those tears into love. Today, tomorrow and everyday.
Treat every hug and kiss like it could be the last. Cherish every moment.
Don't wait until it's too late to ask yourself why you didn't.
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Old 21-08-2016, 15:56
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Thanks folks.
If some people find it strange well tough I guess. She is my priority and I have to do right by her.
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Old 21-08-2016, 18:38
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My 16 year old collie has a failing liver and kidneys. She has a good quality of life at the moment but I am well aware that time is limited and everything could suddenly go downhill. She has had a couple of stumbles recently and is a bit deaf and shortsighted. She is also a bit more needy these days. I noticed a while back that the first thing she does after dozing is check out where I am. She will go from room to room looking for me. If I give out signs that I am going out she is there at the door wanting to come with me. She looks so betrayed If I have to leave her (never more than an hour).
Anyhow I was persuaded to go to a village do last night but felt as if I was coming across as an overprotective Mum when I said I didn't want to stay the whole time ie 3-4 hours.
I went home after 2 hours to check her and I'm afraid I stayed
I think I'm beyond help!
Softy ? well some might say you are , I would just say you are a person who loves their dog and as you say may not have that long so wants to spend as much time as possible with her whilst she still has quality of life , like humans that can go all to quickly so I say ignore anyone who thinks you are soft and make the most of it, you cannot turn back the clock later. Lets hope she is here for a long while yet.
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Old 21-08-2016, 19:08
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Thanks folks.
If some people find it strange well tough I guess. She is my priority and I have to do right by her.

Good for you, you spend any time you can with her, hugs to you and your girl
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Old 22-08-2016, 09:29
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Softy ? Nah you are a loving dog owner and your dog is lucky she has you. I hope she goes on for ages and you can continue to be a softy for her.
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Old 02-09-2016, 15:02
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I don't think you are. The dog is dependent on you and she's in old age. Why have a pet at all if you don't want to be there for it when it needs you?
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Old 06-09-2016, 14:31
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You're not. You are a Pet lover and a good friend!
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Old 07-09-2016, 00:19
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Softies are not softies, they are good people. You love your dog and it shows. Saw a couple walking two whippets in Dublin yesterday, one had only three legs, what is termed a tripawd dog. It was bounding along happily.

My face beamed a smile towards them as anyone who cares for an animal who disabled has grace and compassion.
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Old 07-09-2016, 20:10
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I used to feel really guilty when I went shopping after work and we didn't get our cuddles before I started dinner. The cat had way of making me feel guilty.

We cancelled going to an evening wedding reception last week as we didn't want to leave the cat on her own as she was ill and we wanted to spend as much time with her as we could as she didn't have long left.
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Old 08-09-2016, 01:34
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This thread is definitely a lovely contrast to the feline phobia gang on the anti-cat spike thread. Why have people become so selfish and unsympathetic, cats and dogs give us so much, can we not simply allow them roam where they wish.
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