Originally Posted by patsylimerick:
“I've barely posted this year; but I'll say this much. Anyone who found Bear 'entertaining' worries me. Genuinely.
If what he did was funny, or witty, or original, or anarchic in some way; I could understand it. But it wasn't. It was humourless and merciless and without a shred of empathy or emotional intelligence.
My lasting memory of Bear on CBB will be how unhappy and angry he seemed to be almost all the time. The only time he seemed happy was when he had succeeded in making someone else upset and uncomfortable.
Anyone who finds that 'entertaining' worries me. Not because they're stupid; because that's very disturbing behaviour to find 'entertaining'.”
I agree with this.
I'm wary of making judgements about people or their fans and I still haven't worked out if Bear is genuinely like that, if it was an act for the show or if he actually has some kind of personality or mental disorder over which he has no control. At this point i think I'm beyond caring.
All i know, is that his actions resulted in most of the housemates being wound up, upset, anxious, stressed and depressed at least some, if not most of the time. And he delighted in it.
That, to me is not a nice person (whether his 'true' personality or not) and if he didn't realise how his behaviour was hurting people he either has no empathy and if he did, he's a sadist.
Sadism is not something I find entertaining to watch and certainly not something I find admirable - ie if it has been an act, he might have been clever to think of it and done well to keep it up for 4 weeks but it was calculated to cause people pain.
As it is not something I enjoy watching, and just feel sorry for those he's affected, I guess i find it hard to understand anybody that has enjoyed it as, to me, they are enjoying seeing somebody inflict emotional pain.
I have heard, and do understand those that state they don't approve of him, they wouldn't want to know him in real life but enjoy watching him in a tv show. But to me, those were still real people he was winding up, sometimes to the point of torture in my opinion. Yes of course they could have walked and forfeited their fees but they shouldn't have to.
It's probably more to do with me as a person. I've never found practical jokes particularly funny, and I detest those that make other people the butt of their jokes and then pass it off as banter and it being the other persons fault if they get upset as they "can't take a joke". . It's only banter if it is two ways, otherwise it is victimization and funny only to the attacker and anybody in their gang or 'squad'.
I wouldn't be friends with somebody that enjoys that behavior in real life (and I imagine they wouldn't want to be friends with me anyway) and I doubt i'd want to be friends with anybody that has enjoyed watching it. Indeed, I know, of my friends that do still watch it, they universally despise Bear.
I don't know if it is education, intelligence, class, empathy but my 'type' of person that i become friends with is completely different to Bear and the people in the House that found him funny or defended him.