Having a bit of a panic I've got a wedding to attend in the spring, I'm foster mum of the groom so prominent position.

Problem is I've not worn anything but trainers for about ten years.

Plantar faciatus and balance problems with ms have meant only trainers have felt comfy.

Obviously can't wear trainers to a wedding but not sure I can wear proper shoes any more, tempted to not go it's praying on my mind so much. But I love my boy too much to let him down so any recommendations for shoes I might manage to walk in very gratefully received. Wearing green skirt and cream jacket if that helps with colours.

Help !

I had the same dilema when my son married as I have a foot problem and only wear skechers. What I did was got a cheap pair off ebay. They were very nice shoes and I managed to wear them for a few hours on that day. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be actually. Just take it slow.

After the wedding I binned the shoes.

No-one can suggest shoes for you really - it's up to you to go to a shop like Scholl, Clarkes or Hotter. All of them sell very sensible shoes and you should find something there easily. As for the colours - buying shoes now for a Spring wedding might be a bit difficult - the shops are full of this season's styles and dark colours.

maybe you can get a pair now & wear them for a short time each day to get used to it. ( around your home)

As it's a spring wedding, you may be able to find some dressy looking sandals, with a really tiny heel. An alternative may be a dressy pair of cream trousers which can be worn long enough to hide your shoes altogether.

Whatever you do, don't not go to the wedding. I'm sure your foster son will want you there no matter what shoes you wear.

Get some plain trainers and jazz them up with some crystals and glitter?

That's a good point it's only a few hours I could even take a pair of trainers to the do after so just the church to manage?


Another good point practice a bit I may get there by the spring.


Brilliant idea I wear long skirts anyway wouldn't be too hard to let a hem down a bit more.

I like that !

Hotter shoes are meant to be very good for foot problems.

If you're really stuck maybe get a pair of nice (but sensible) flats from somewhere like M&S and wear them for photographs, then change into trainers for the reception?

Good idea never tried hotter I will have a look for them thanks.

I have peripheral neuropathy in my feet and the best shoes I have found are "Pavers"
Have just looked at their web site and they have some really nice sandal type flatties.
If you feel you can only wear 👟 I really wouldn't worry, I went to the theatre once with a surgical boot on one foot as I had a bad reaction to a wasp bite.
Remember humans are very unobservant, likely very few people will even notice your footwear.🌺

Thank you I'll have a look, your other point is reassuring too I am imagining worse case everyone pointing and laughing

Spring can sometimes be cold so with your long skirt couldn't you wear a a lovely pair of boots, which should be more comfortable

PS: as for humans beings being unobservant, I can vouch for this as I have had a mastectomy and mostly go out lop-sided and either nobody notices or they don't comment.

My Mum is a massive fan of Hotter shoes. They are all she wears now. She tells me its like wearing slippers.

whatever you end up wearing, enjoy the occasion. i agree, no-one will notice, except maybe in the photos, most people are too self absorbed.

Pretend you've broken your ankle, then go in a wheelchair, wearing six inch heels.

Thank you all some good ideas I'll have a good think and a try at walking, got plenty of time to practice.

Ha, ha, ha!


OP - will there be much walking? If you just have to stagger from the car to the church, from the church to the car, then the same at the reception, you could just wear some nice flat sandals, then when all the formal stuff is over, kick them off and stick your trainers on. At worse, you'll just get a name as an eccentric.

You have my sympathy - I've lots of nice shoes I can only wear if I go somewhere I don't have to walk! The ones I can wear are dropping to bits. (I think you contributed to my shoe thread a few months ago. ).

Go and get yourself some FitFlops. They are fab for PF and very comfy to walk in. I have been to 2 weddings this year and worn them, got 2 pairs (one pewter and one lilac colour) with very sparkly dangly bits on them and they looked great with a posh dress.

If you can cope with toe posts, then something like this would be OK for a spring wedding, a little bit sparkle makes all the difference.
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http://www.fitflop.co.uk/en/fitflop-...945955242.html

Or you could just go for the plain loafers, these will be like your trainers but quite possibly a lot more comfortable than your trainers for the PF.

http://www.fitflop.co.uk/en/womens/v...035083236.html

I have problems with my feet also and pretty much live in Crocs. They do some nice smart looking styles that look like regular shoes- Lily and Jayna are my favourites, I wear them to work and formal occasions no problem.

I'm getting married next year and wearing a pair of Toms, screw wearing heels all day! 😁

I was lucky when I actually got married high heels were not the rage, we all wore tiny kitten heels on the day. Much easier to walk in for the bride.

I've had 2 episodes of plantar fasciitis, so empathise with your problem.

I found M&S footglove shoes pretty good, and I put gel heel inserts in them for extra cushioning. Something like ballet pumps may well suit. If it's sandal weather, could you get away with Birkenstocks? My toe-post Birkenstocks are the most comfortable thing I've ever worn on my feet, and they do a great range of colours/finishes, including metallics and sparkly ones.

Thank you looks like I've got more options than I originally imagined thank you all.

Another vote for the sandals here . There are some fabulous flatties around .
As for the trainers themselves ? Well my niece got married in trainers last year . Big white wedding , in church, long white dress, veil , over a hundred guests -------and she opted for trainers . Her groom is much shorter than her and she has foot issues herself so she bought a pair of plain white trainers and jooshed them up with crystals and diamanté. Very unusual and caused much laughter for sure , but laughter with her , not at her . I have a pic of flashing them (and her garter) .I might look it out . Point is, do what you need to do to make sure the day isn't spoiled for you . He'd hate that .
You'll get sorted , just enjoy the day . x

http://www.ambrosewilson.com/shop/fl...bulous%20Flats

I bought some ballernia flats by Heavenly Soles for my daughter's prom - I only wear trainers but needed something; which also come in very wide if you need extra width. The soles are very soft.

ETA: Also not a bad price, many under £20 - you aren't going to want to spend over £50 on a pair you will likely not wear again!