Have a few dates & see if you get along, there are millions of couples who have had successful relationships with the woman being older.
I'm 20 he's 18
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Originally Posted by Sopheena:
“So I really like this guy who works in the shop opposite me. He's expressed the feelings are mutual and we have exchanged numbers and have been texting quite a bit.
I added him as a friend on Facebook only to find he is 18 (19 in January). I am 20 (21 in December) so that's two years age difference and there will be a few weeks where I will be 21 and he still 18.
Now if it was the other way round and the guy was a few years older than the girl it wouldn't matter but I'm just worried he is too young. It's not just what other people will think (his friends will probably think I'm quite old) but I know what younger guys are like and they can be really immature.
Having seen his twitter etc some of the comments he makes show his age and lack of maturity. He told me my Twitter picture does me no justice and my Facebook photo is more the girl that caught his eye. I wasn't sure whether to feel complimented or offended but either way it was a bit tactless. He is currently on a gap year and will be going to uni in september.
I have only had one relationship in the past and that ended after a few months because the guy announced he wanted to be single for uni. I just don't want a repeat of this.
I also have a younger brother (same name as this guy.. is that weird?) but hes 19 in a week which will make the guy I like younger than my younger brother which to me just seems so not right!
He is really attractive though and when he found out I am 20 he seemed a bit shocked (I do look younger) but he told me his ex was 20 too.
What should I do he asked me out for coffee next week?
Is he too young or am I overthinking this?”
“So I really like this guy who works in the shop opposite me. He's expressed the feelings are mutual and we have exchanged numbers and have been texting quite a bit.
I added him as a friend on Facebook only to find he is 18 (19 in January). I am 20 (21 in December) so that's two years age difference and there will be a few weeks where I will be 21 and he still 18.
Now if it was the other way round and the guy was a few years older than the girl it wouldn't matter but I'm just worried he is too young. It's not just what other people will think (his friends will probably think I'm quite old) but I know what younger guys are like and they can be really immature.
Having seen his twitter etc some of the comments he makes show his age and lack of maturity. He told me my Twitter picture does me no justice and my Facebook photo is more the girl that caught his eye. I wasn't sure whether to feel complimented or offended but either way it was a bit tactless. He is currently on a gap year and will be going to uni in september.
I have only had one relationship in the past and that ended after a few months because the guy announced he wanted to be single for uni. I just don't want a repeat of this.
I also have a younger brother (same name as this guy.. is that weird?) but hes 19 in a week which will make the guy I like younger than my younger brother which to me just seems so not right!
He is really attractive though and when he found out I am 20 he seemed a bit shocked (I do look younger) but he told me his ex was 20 too.
What should I do he asked me out for coffee next week?
Is he too young or am I overthinking this?”
far too young for you, if youre 20 the ideal age for the man should be 63 ish ..
I know an old couple who have been together for over 30 years. She is over 15 years older than he is and they are very happy together.
My husband is nearly 11 years younger than me and it's never been an issue for us at all. 2 years is nothing to worry about. If you like each other just go for it
Originally Posted by Sopheena:
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What should I do he asked me out for coffee next week?
Is he too young or am I overthinking this?”
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What should I do he asked me out for coffee next week?
Is he too young or am I overthinking this?”
Too young to drink coffee ?
Originally Posted by gdjman68wasdigi:
“Women normally like older men.”
“Women normally like older men.”
a bit weird though, it gets confusing, it's like going to bed with your older brother
Originally Posted by Sopheena:
“ And he might feel like as I'm older I don't need protecting as much if that makes sense.”
“ And he might feel like as I'm older I don't need protecting as much if that makes sense.”
I don't think he's the immature one if this post is sesrious.
My husband was 18 when I met him I was 25. 13 years later. Age isn't an issue unless I talk about 80's children's programmes or 80's music then I get told I'm an old fart
Originally Posted by elliecat:
“My husband was 18 when I met him I was 25. 13 years later. Age isn't an issue unless I talk about 80's children's programmes or 80's music then I get told I'm an old fart”
“My husband was 18 when I met him I was 25. 13 years later. Age isn't an issue unless I talk about 80's children's programmes or 80's music then I get told I'm an old fart
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He must've been born in '85... Poor kid probably missed the delights of Sport Billy and reruns of Chorlton and the Wheelies and Jamie and his Magic Torch etc...
No issue IMO. When I was 17 I went out with a 23 year old and when 23 was with a 38 year old. Both were pretty decent relationships and lasted a lot longer than most of my others.
The age gap is far too great and unfortunately people will think you have issues dating a guy who is so much younger than you. I once knew a girl who dated a guy who was only one year younger (she was 29 and he was 28) and everyone thought she was a paedophile and in the end she lost her job because of it! To save yourself all the trouble I think you should wait for someone who you have more in common with to come along.
Originally Posted by ajman:
“The age gap is far too great and unfortunately people will think you have issues dating a guy who is so much younger than you. I once knew a girl who dated a guy who was only one year younger (she was 29 and he was 28) and everyone thought she was a paedophile and in the end she lost her job because of it! To save yourself all the trouble I think you should wait for someone who you have more in common with to come along.”
“The age gap is far too great and unfortunately people will think you have issues dating a guy who is so much younger than you. I once knew a girl who dated a guy who was only one year younger (she was 29 and he was 28) and everyone thought she was a paedophile and in the end she lost her job because of it! To save yourself all the trouble I think you should wait for someone who you have more in common with to come along.”
In which parallel universe did this happen?
Originally Posted by ajman:
“The age gap is far too great and unfortunately people will think you have issues dating a guy who is so much younger than you. I once knew a girl who dated a guy who was only one year younger (she was 29 and he was 28) and everyone thought she was a paedophile and in the end she lost her job because of it! To save yourself all the trouble I think you should wait for someone who you have more in common with to come along.”
“The age gap is far too great and unfortunately people will think you have issues dating a guy who is so much younger than you. I once knew a girl who dated a guy who was only one year younger (she was 29 and he was 28) and everyone thought she was a paedophile and in the end she lost her job because of it! To save yourself all the trouble I think you should wait for someone who you have more in common with to come along.”
Utter nonsense.
Originally Posted by ajman:
“The age gap is far too great and unfortunately people will think you have issues dating a guy who is so much younger than you. I once knew a girl who dated a guy who was only one year younger (she was 29 and he was 28) and everyone thought she was a paedophile and in the end she lost her job because of it! To save yourself all the trouble I think you should wait for someone who you have more in common with to come along.”
“The age gap is far too great and unfortunately people will think you have issues dating a guy who is so much younger than you. I once knew a girl who dated a guy who was only one year younger (she was 29 and he was 28) and everyone thought she was a paedophile and in the end she lost her job because of it! To save yourself all the trouble I think you should wait for someone who you have more in common with to come along.”
Agreed. I think a few months either side of your Birthday is OK but anything other than that will end in certain disaster. At 20 you are considerably more mature than at 18 with 2 whole years more life experience - as is demonstrated ably in this thread.
Originally Posted by TWS:
“You're a grown woman, why do you need a man to protect you? Do you cause lots of hassle and want a defender? If you need to ask the question I don't think you're mature enough for the relationship”
“You're a grown woman, why do you need a man to protect you? Do you cause lots of hassle and want a defender? If you need to ask the question I don't think you're mature enough for the relationship”
Lots of women like to feel protected by their man. It has absolutely nothing to do with maturity. Do you speak to many women about what they want in a man?
Originally Posted by sarahj1986:
“My husband is nearly 11 years younger than me and it's never been an issue for us at all. 2 years is nothing to worry about. If you like each other just go for it”
“My husband is nearly 11 years younger than me and it's never been an issue for us at all. 2 years is nothing to worry about. If you like each other just go for it”
I always assumed you were born in 1986!
Originally Posted by fizzycat:
“I don't think he's the immature one if this post is sesrious.”
“I don't think he's the immature one if this post is sesrious.”
A feminist I presume?
[quote=John_Clunes;84696066]Lots of women like to feel protected by their man. It has absolutely nothing to do with maturity. Do you speak to many women about what they want in a man?
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Its the terminology she used need to be protected as much.....Needing someone to protect you a lot is a sign of immaturity, a feeling of protection is one thing but a need for it is something different. I feel protected being near my mother but I don't need her to protect me.
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Its the terminology she used need to be protected as much.....Needing someone to protect you a lot is a sign of immaturity, a feeling of protection is one thing but a need for it is something different. I feel protected being near my mother but I don't need her to protect me.
Originally Posted by Sopheena:
“Is he too young or am I overthinking this?”
“Is he too young or am I overthinking this?”
Too young? Are you insane?
Originally Posted by John_Clunes:
“Lots of women like to feel protected by their man. It has absolutely nothing to do with maturity. Do you speak to many women about what they want in a man?
I always assumed you were born in 1986!
A feminist I presume?”
“Lots of women like to feel protected by their man. It has absolutely nothing to do with maturity. Do you speak to many women about what they want in a man?
I always assumed you were born in 1986!
A feminist I presume?”
Lol must have been half asleep! that should say my husband is nearly 11 years older
I know a lot of people are saying age is just a number, but it depends on how mentally and emotionally mature the OP is, and how mentally and emotionally mature the lad is. One of my mate's sons is in a long term relationship, and even though he's 21 his world does tend to revolve around his XBox and football. His girlfriend is 18 and she's actually had quite a few rows about it. He's lucky that she's mature enough to voice her opinion and let him know stuff is annoying her, but when it happens the initial reaction from him is to take it as a personal attack as opposed to her just letting him know how she feels. At 18 and 21 there's a world of difference between boys and girls, in regards to what goes on in their heads. As they get older they start to tally up more, but at 18 the difference can be noticeable.
OP, if you want to go for it then do, but don't jump in with both feet. Spend time getting to know him and see if he's on the right level as you, and if he is then great, but expect to be making exceptions and compromises a lot with him.
OP, if you want to go for it then do, but don't jump in with both feet. Spend time getting to know him and see if he's on the right level as you, and if he is then great, but expect to be making exceptions and compromises a lot with him.
Originally Posted by Ginger Daddy:
“You are worrying about a two years age difference?
Christ.”
“You are worrying about a two years age difference?
Christ.”
Hello, welcome to Digital Spy: Advice. The forum populated by people who can't even make the most simple of life choices or decisions for themselves.
OP - if Cheryl can go out with Liam and that's a much bigger age gap , you can out with this guy .
I am 11 years older than my partner and it never even crossed my mind until you started this thread
I am 11 years older than my partner and it never even crossed my mind until you started this thread
Originally Posted by barrowgirl:
“OP - if Cheryl can go out with Liam and that's a much bigger age gap , you can out with this guy .
I am 11 years older than my partner and it never even crossed my mind until you started this thread”
“OP - if Cheryl can go out with Liam and that's a much bigger age gap , you can out with this guy .
I am 11 years older than my partner and it never even crossed my mind until you started this thread
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Cheryl Baker is going out with Liam Gallagher?
She's almost twenty years older than him!
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