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Old 06-12-2016, 12:53
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Ok, maybe because I don't think either of those things are bad I don't think it's such a big deal - sleeping around and having abortions are free and legal activities, so I'm probably under-reacting to those.

I still think the original action of the OP was unnecessary - itself an overreaction - and that it would be a gracious action to explain herself to this person, apologise and move on.

It doesn't mean she has to be friends with this person, just not all act like drama queens about perceived and actual slights.
Well for one I had an miscarriage and 2 don't sleep around all harsh things to say I have kept pretty quiet on it all
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Old 06-12-2016, 12:54
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A bit of advice needed..... I deleted this girl off my facebook who is in my circle of people I see regularly. She found out and got a mutual friend to message me to ask why.

I told this person it was because I felt she was false when out and didn't really make any effort with me in general this was relayed to her.

I then found out she put a barrage of abuse on her fb account saying how I had an abortion slept around and id know what was going on around me if I wasn't too busy being drunk and having abortions.

None of this was true apart from fact I do get drunk now and again. We fell out before in past for the same reason of her not bothering with me when someone better came along. I felt this was too much and way too much of a over reaction to what id done but heightened why I deleted her in the first place.

Ive kept quiet and tried not to make a scene like she has and majority of mates were supportive and said she was a bully. Was I in the wrong or was she?
Obviously she was in the wrong.

The End.

Also, you need to reconsider your friendship with people who consider her to be their friend and yours as she sounds mental.
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Old 06-12-2016, 13:04
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Obviously she was in the wrong.

The End.

Also, you need to reconsider your friendship with people who consider her to be their friend and yours as she sounds mental.

There's only one really that's taken her side her lapdog who was the go between
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Old 06-12-2016, 13:09
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Sounds like a typical Facebook drama to me. Best thing is probably to delete your own account and find some other way to keep in touch with people.
I've been so close to deleting FB but i post in a couple of closed groups and want to stay involved with that being honest.
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Old 06-12-2016, 13:10
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There's only one really that's taken her side her lapdog who was the go between
Fair enough, that's cool then.
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Old 06-12-2016, 13:11
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I've been so close to deleting FB.I post in a couple of closed groups and want to stay involved with that being honest.
Don't delete it, just unfriend and/or unfollow the people that annoy you.

It's so easy to cut people out of there that you don't want to see, the idea that deleting her account was the way to go seems odd.
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Old 06-12-2016, 13:35
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Don't delete it, just unfriend and/or unfollow the people that annoy you.

It's so easy to cut people out of there that you don't want to see, the idea that deleting her account was the way to go seems odd.

Just found even by unfollowing she was pinching stuff off my wall and commenting on any post on other people I did
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Old 06-12-2016, 13:46
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I despair at today's youth.
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Old 06-12-2016, 14:05
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I despair at today's youth.
I'm 33 shes 27 she just got on my nerves too much
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Old 06-12-2016, 14:42
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Just found even by unfollowing she was pinching stuff off my wall and commenting on any post on other people I did
Seems like you need to block this crazy bint.
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Old 06-12-2016, 14:56
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Seems like you need to block this crazy bint.
I have don't worry
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Old 06-12-2016, 15:29
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I have don't worry
Good.
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Old 06-12-2016, 16:01
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It just heightened what I already knew that she wasn't a nice person
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Old 06-12-2016, 17:47
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Yes she overreacted. But why on earth did you delete her in the first place? The unfollow button works just fine for me when people I need on Facebook for various reasons post stuff I'm not interested in seeing.

And as for her 'not bothering with you' - couldn't you be accused of doing the same when you deliberately exclude her from things that include BOTH your friends?

We can't get along with everyone in life, and there are certainly friends in my circles that I get on less well with than others. Excluding them creates a horrible situation for everyone else though, and won't improve strained relations when you DO have to see them with other friends. You can't force them to see her the same way as you do, or to cut her out of their lives because you want to.

I think in this situation - for the sake of your other friends - you should talk to her in person, giving a simple apology for deleting her, explaining why in brief, and saying that you were hurt by her reaction to it.

Be the bigger person - other people may or may not choose to estrange themselves from her.

If this advice sounds judgemental, understand that I'm stuck in the middle of warring friend groups - three of us being made to choose between other sides of the argument. If you don't have any bigger problem with this girl originally than 'she doesn't bother with you' then I would advise strongly against making any further drama out of this.
I hope you're not suggesting the OP should continue to socialise with this "friend" though? I don't agree with the idea that if your social group all like someone (bar you), then you should grin and bear it and tolerate socialising with said person whenever you're out and about with your group.

If you're not comfortable socialising with someone, then you shouldn't have to, end of. And your social group should be accommodating and understand how you feel. They could always socialise with you and with the other person apart at different times.

Socialising should be a joy, otherwise what's the point in bothering with it?
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Old 06-12-2016, 18:38
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A bit of advice needed..... I deleted this girl off my facebook who is in my circle of people I see regularly. She found out and got a mutual friend to message me to ask why.

I told this person it was because I felt she was false when out and didn't really make any effort with me in general this was relayed to her.

I then found out she put a barrage of abuse on her fb account saying how I had an abortion slept around and id know what was going on around me if I wasn't too busy being drunk and having abortions.

None of this was true apart from fact I do get drunk now and again. We fell out before in past for the same reason of her not bothering with me when someone better came along. I felt this was too much and way too much of a over reaction to what id done but heightened why I deleted her in the first place.

Ive kept quiet and tried not to make a scene like she has and majority of mates were supportive and said she was a bully. Was I in the wrong or was she?
my advice learn to control your alcohol addiction by not getting drunk.
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Old 06-12-2016, 18:39
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I'm 33 shes 27 she just got on my nerves too much
seriously ??
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Old 06-12-2016, 22:09
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I can't believe people on this thread are suggesting that the OP should explain herself to someone who has spread nasty lies about her. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
The OP should cut this person out of her life completely in my view.
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Old 06-12-2016, 22:12
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The day when Facebook replaced real life as the place people interact with friends etc was a sad day indeed. 'deleting' someone is not, nor ever should be of any relevance or note but somehow it is and I despair for those who actually care about such trivial things.

* Note, whilst I actively avoid Facebook, I appreciate others needing it to keep in touch with relatives etc, my issue is the behaviours it drives people to exhibit such as the OP and friend.
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Old 06-12-2016, 23:44
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Just found even by unfollowing she was pinching stuff off my wall and commenting on any post on other people I did
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FFS - try living in the real world with real "friends".
Let that shite go.
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Old 06-12-2016, 23:46
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The day when Facebook replaced real life as the place people interact with friends etc was a sad day indeed. 'deleting' someone is not, nor ever should be of any relevance or note but somehow it is and I despair for those who actually care about such trivial things.

* Note, whilst I actively avoid Facebook, I appreciate others needing it to keep in touch with relatives etc, my issue is the behaviours it drives people to exhibit such as the OP and friend.
Well said 👍
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Old 06-12-2016, 23:59
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Should write to Jeremy Kyle about this
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Old 07-12-2016, 06:40
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The day when Facebook replaced real life as the place people interact with friends etc was a sad day indeed. 'deleting' someone is not, nor ever should be of any relevance or note but somehow it is and I despair for those who actually care about such trivial things.

* Note, whilst I actively avoid Facebook, I appreciate others needing it to keep in touch with relatives etc, my issue is the behaviours it drives people to exhibit such as the OP and friend.
Indeed. I've had a few people who I don't talk to ask why I've deleted them. Well, when you make no effort to stay in touch, I see no point in being "friends".
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Old 07-12-2016, 07:59
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Grow up OP. You should be embatrsssd to behave like this at your age. (Not a "taking sides" post, I'd be saying the same to the other person)
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Old 07-12-2016, 08:06
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Grow up OP. You should be embatrsssd to behave like this at your age. (Not a "taking sides" post, I'd be saying the same to the other person)

All I did was delete the girl maybe could've done it diff but would never of posted what she had was embarrassing for me specially since it was all lies
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Old 07-12-2016, 08:07
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I can't believe people on this thread are suggesting that the OP should explain herself to someone who has spread nasty lies about her. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
The OP should cut this person out of her life completely in my view.


I have she's been like this to others too
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