What do you think?
OH and I have been invited to his best friend's wedding. It's in Cyprus, although neither the bride and groom have any links to the place. OH really wants to go, even though we can't afford it, and he can't say no anyway as it's his best buddy. I don't want to go at all but that's not an option as it would be seen as a snub, and OH has always been my plus one for things so it would be unfair.
But I'm already worrying about how we're going to pay for all this - it will be hundreds of pounds for flights, hotels, food, and that's before you even start on the outfits, gift, drinks etc. I resent having to get into debt, using my annual leave and having to cut our own holiday plans short to go somewhere I've no particular interest in, for people I don't even know that well.
Now, I know in the UK a wedding is all about the bride and groom and what they want. But in my culture (I'm not from here) it's ALL about the guests i.e. treating friends and family to a great party and you don't let them pay for anything at all. The idea of doing anything that would put them out of pocket or inconvenience them would be very frowned upon. Well, anyway I know it's not like that here and it wouldn't be a problem if we were rich, but we're not!
OH and I have been invited to his best friend's wedding. It's in Cyprus, although neither the bride and groom have any links to the place. OH really wants to go, even though we can't afford it, and he can't say no anyway as it's his best buddy. I don't want to go at all but that's not an option as it would be seen as a snub, and OH has always been my plus one for things so it would be unfair.
But I'm already worrying about how we're going to pay for all this - it will be hundreds of pounds for flights, hotels, food, and that's before you even start on the outfits, gift, drinks etc. I resent having to get into debt, using my annual leave and having to cut our own holiday plans short to go somewhere I've no particular interest in, for people I don't even know that well.
Now, I know in the UK a wedding is all about the bride and groom and what they want. But in my culture (I'm not from here) it's ALL about the guests i.e. treating friends and family to a great party and you don't let them pay for anything at all. The idea of doing anything that would put them out of pocket or inconvenience them would be very frowned upon. Well, anyway I know it's not like that here and it wouldn't be a problem if we were rich, but we're not!



