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Lets face it 95% of adult presents are superfluous and pointless and you diont need or want them. I mean buying a present for say inlaws wtf is that? I think after 16 you dont exchange presents?
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I think that once grandchildren are earning, they should buy the presents for other family members, rather than the parents buying them and putting theirs and the children's names on them
Doesn't have to be anything expensive, but at least it shows they have put thought into it and are prepared to spend their own money |
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I'd say keep your nose out of other people's business and let us decide. If you want to be a miserable g*t that's your problem and prerogative.
why is this so hard to understand?
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I still enjoy giving and receiving presents, and always will.
I buy because I want too. They are always well received.
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you dont decide tho do you, you give because its the done thing
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I think it teaches them not to be selfish
If they can afford to buy clothes and make up, go on holiday and have a social life, they can afford to show they care by choosing a thoughtful gift, for other close family members, which needn't cost a lot. What does it teach them, if Mum and Dad pays for them, yet puts , all their names on the gift tag That's ok when they are small( although I had to save for others gifts from my meagre pocket money), but as they start earning, a small gift won't harm their bank balance |
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I think that once grandchildren are earning, they should buy the presents for other family members, rather than the parents buying them and putting theirs and the children's names on them
Doesn't have to be anything expensive, but at least it shows they have put thought into it and are prepared to spend their own money ). Whatever it is I shall treasure it because she's been thinking about it all this time.
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you dont decide tho do you, you give because its the done thing
why is this so hard to understand? ![]() I love Christmas shopping, for others more than for myself. My presents are usually left until last, as they are unsure what I may have bought
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I won't be stopping anytime soon, but you go ahead if you so wish. For what it's worth I'm also one of those people saying "I don't know" when asked what I want this year, I earn my own money and buy my own things so there's nothing major, however whatever I do get will be gratefully received and it won't stop me for buying gifts for all my family members (adults included)
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and its hideous opening presents in front of people and having to fake delight
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you dont decide tho do you, you give because its the done thing
why is this so hard to understand? ![]() |
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and its hideous opening presents in front of people and having to fake delight
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and its hideous opening presents in front of people and having to fake delight
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yes but sadly all adults follow the norm at the moment and end up wanting millions on crap girfs that they will neither use or want so your theory is a bust
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I have been thinking about this. I don't know where I stand. I think everyone's family is different. I have had a bit off a standoff over the years with one family member. Their belief, presents have to be useful to them and if they're not - raise some money for themselves and immediately sell on eBay. I think this is wrong. So I successfully done a charity exchange for years, both donate to charity instead.
This year, living on my own for first time- Christmas looks pretty expensive so am contemplating the no presents option - but then you start overthinking. (I should point out I've always thought Christmas is an excessively commercial nonsense, so its not a new development because of having to watch the budget. It just seems its an infliction of needless agony each Christmas trying to try think of something that someone else might like. Sometimes you just don't have time for all that malarkey, particularly when busy with work- last thing you want on a day off plunging into busy mad crowds all in the same mad chase.) The Scrooge connotation follows if you don't get something- Such tightness, a chance to celebrate Christmas, the beginning of the winter season, and you have not engaged in the festivities. Instead opting for a blank, and hollow Christmas- all to measly count pennies. Not to mention next year one relative may no longer be with you. I suppose idealistically what I think is Christmas should not be about what capitalistic novelty you can buy with your money. Idealistically, it would be what you could actually make. This does mean having a craft though, and also sufficient time to spend upon this craft. Perhaps this is why the popular opt of buying instead, a saving of far more time. Anyway I haven't solved this. Eg I will probably engage in the madness. |
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I like to buy my mam and dad a present.
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If I get on PC I will rewrite that post to be legible. That's a 'write as you think' post.
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I have always loved giving and receiving gifts at Christmas but I am finding it increasingly difficult each year to come up with new ideas after 15 or 20 years. I am lucky I don't have many to buy for but it is still quite stressful.
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I have always loved giving and receiving gifts at Christmas but I am finding it increasingly difficult each year to come up with new ideas after 15 or 20 years. I am lucky I don't have many to buy for but it is still quite stressful.
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I stopped all present giving many years ago.
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With the advent of facebook, I've actually fouind it easier and easier to find gifts for people by having a quick scan of their fb page for pages they've liked to get ideas. A coupe of years ago, looking for ideas for my sis-in-law i noticed she liked steam-punk jewellery. I knew she was into crafts so got her loads of bits and pieces to make her own steampunk jewellry with. She loved it. Thanks fb.
![]() Etsy is really handy because if the item disappears from her wishlist she assumes someone else has bought it |
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Lets face it 95% of adult presents are superfluous and pointless and you diont need or want them. I mean buying a present for say inlaws wtf is that? I think after 16 you dont exchange presents?
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My partner asked what do you want for christmas and my reply was nothing (in my head I said because I am not a child)
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I'm 65 now and in my childhood and teens gifts and Christmas was a religious event and essentially for children, I don't ever remember adults getting anything except a packet of shortbread ,times change and christamas is a wholly different occasion.
I'm fortunate that this Christmas all my children and grandchildren will be with me. They are all in good health with excellent jobs and in a far more fortunate position to buy what they want and need than I am. This year I have counted my blessings and I have many and with all their support I will donate what I would spend on them to their nominated charities. As a family we have so much , but it's entirely my choice. |
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I won't be stopping anytime soon, but you go ahead if you so wish. For what it's worth I'm also one of those people saying "I don't know" when asked what I want this year, I earn my own money and buy my own things so there's nothing major, however whatever I do get will be gratefully received and it won't stop me for buying gifts for all my family members (adults included)
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). Whatever it is I shall treasure it because she's been thinking about it all this time.
