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**** the women are judging prospects?
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Is that not because the men are judging looks and the women are judging prospects?
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The whole dating website thing seems so artificial to me. All of my relationships have started when I have been socialising, or at work/school. You get to know the person and after a while realise you both like each other quite a lot - this can happen over the course of months or in one evening.
People I know who do online dating seem to meet people who are, at worst, frauds, or at best, being less than honest. There are an awful lot of players out there. |
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Reading all these replies, internet dating really appears to sound awful? Never tried it myself but it sounds quite bad? That and the stories you hear who weren't even a woman or a woman went on a date in turn it was another woman and that didn't turn out well. So many scenarios.
Let alone the stories you hear about people traveling over 100 miles and further. Some even to another country.
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Every dating website I've been on, I have to lie on my profile. Just having a stable job and a great personality isn't enough. Some of the women on them are VERY materialistic. There's even options as to what someone must be earning before they can actually message them.
Men tend to lie about their age, height and income. Age because women tend to prefer older men with income, they are more mature, have their life in order, have a career, house, car and ability to raise a family. Height because one of the characteristics women look for in a man is how tall they are - taller men provide security and provide a sense of comfort. As juliancarswell mentioned, it is due to hypergamy. Both men and women exaggerate about holidays, going out and their social lives - tends to make up a lot of profile pictures - it demonstrates excitement, happiness and confidence. Weight isn't so much of a factor with either men or women unless someone is unhealthy - either too skinny or too fat. Whilst women can be more self-conscious about their weight, women tend to lie about their age - because men are generally attracted to young, fertile women. As seen in the ONS statistics for marriage by age, women marry younger than men. On a different note, it is telling that dating websites, both free and paid, are promoting more social aspects of dating - such as events, nights out and groups. I think they are aware that fatigue has set in to online dating, people are becoming more disillusioned with the model behind online dating and they are adapting accordingly. Social situations where those painting a false picture of themselves behind a profile and its pictures cannot hide. |
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they can't be that unrealistic, because most of them all end up with pig ugly gits
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Every dating website I've been on, I have to lie on my profile. Just having a stable job and a great personality isn't enough. Some of the women on them are VERY materialistic. There's even options as to what someone must be earning before they can actually message them.
Males can be just as materialistic as women. |
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they can't be that unrealistic, because most of them all end up with pig ugly gits
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yeah we live in our perfect dreams
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Reading all these replies, internet dating really appears to sound awful? Never tried it myself but it sounds quite bad? That and the stories you hear who weren't even a woman or a woman went on a date in turn it was another woman and that didn't turn out well. So many scenarios.
Let alone the stories you hear about people traveling over 100 miles and further. Some even to another country. ![]() |
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Maybe these attractive single ladies bat for the other side and don't want to come out?
i.e. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41HT21ARlgg |
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OP, perhaps they are single by choice and are enjoying their freedom. We don't all need man to 'make us complete'.
![]() I am single and love the freedom and being able to do as I please, whenever I like. I am not against relationships or men at all - but for me, I prefer not being 'shackled' to another. |
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I used to wonder about that how such beatiful women end up with some fat ugly men... Yet so many women say they go after looks. Or they're rich...
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I used to wonder about that how such beatiful women end up with some fat ugly men... Yet so many women say they go after looks. Or they're rich...
![]() Clearly a baffling concept to the hordes of superficial sheeple that exist in this world. |
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OP, perhaps they are single by choice and are enjoying their freedom. We don't all need man to 'make us complete'.
![]() I am single and love the freedom and being able to do as I please, whenever I like. I am not against relationships or men at all - but for me, I prefer not being 'shackled' to another. Even now I'm older, I still get asked why I'm not married. Patients adopt very 'pitying' looks when I tell them I don't have children. I still get asked out occasionally by random men who I meet who think they're in with a chance because I'm single (even though we would have virtually nothing in common). I'm puzzled why they believe my single status is not through my own choice. |
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The only women I know who are single in their late 20s or early 30s seem to be the pickiest. Then again perhaps they are happier being on their own than with someone they consider to be "not right" ... they may feel differently though if alone with no kids at 40 or 50.
I suppose there are hopeful stories out there though, one of my cousins was feeling very jaded after a divorce and went onto Tinder looking for casual sex. One of her would-be hookups is now her fiance with whom she has a new house and adorable stepson, she's happy as the proverbial pig in sh*te
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Money has to be a factor. The average man is wealthier than the average woman. A wealthy small/medium size business owner might not have the looks or style of a sometimes employed model/actor but he could offer a low paid woman, who may be struggling to pay the bills, financial security. I've seen women turn down really nice affluent guys for complete wasters who've got the gift of the gab and little else and then regret it years down the line.
People put so much emphasis on money these days. For some people it is not the most important thing in life. Yes you need a certain amount of money to have any quality of life but not everyone is driven by money. It always annoys me when people(mostly men) assume that the only reason a woman would be with a guy deemed "unattractive" is because he must be wealthy. Yes there are women who are gold diggers, I don't dispute that, but there are plenty of women who are not. |
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The only women I know who are single in their late 20s or early 30s seem to be the pickiest. Then again perhaps they are happier being on their own than with someone they consider to be "not right" ... they may feel differently though if alone with no kids at 40 or 50.
I suppose there are hopeful stories out there though, one of my cousins was feeling very jaded after a divorce and went onto Tinder looking for casual sex. One of her would-be hookups is now her fiance with whom she has a new house and adorable stepson, she's happy as the proverbial pig in sh*te ![]() But, but, she must have been one of those wonderful un-picky woman if she was married in the first place? People like her are supposed to live happily ever after surrounded by babies wabies and a loving darling husband, aren't they? BIB Yes you're right. Probably better to marry someone you don't love but 'they'll do for now', knock out a couple a kids and then 5 yrs down the line move in with the bloke you've fallen in love with up the street. Tough on the husband and kids, but that's life, eh? By the way, if a woman is 'alone' by forty, does that mean she has to be 'alone' for the rest of her life? Is that where it all ends? |
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OP, perhaps they are single by choice and are enjoying their freedom. We don't all need man to 'make us complete'.
![]() I am single and love the freedom and being able to do as I please, whenever I like. I am not against relationships or men at all - but for me, I prefer not being 'shackled' to another. |
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The only women I know who are single in their late 20s or early 30s seem to be the pickiest. Then again perhaps they are happier being on their own than with someone they consider to be "not right" ... they may feel differently though if alone with no kids at 40 or 50.
I suppose there are hopeful stories out there though, one of my cousins was feeling very jaded after a divorce and went onto Tinder looking for casual sex. One of her would-be hookups is now her fiance with whom she has a new house and adorable stepson, she's happy as the proverbial pig in sh*te ![]() Quote:
People put so much emphasis on money these days. For some people it is not the most important thing in life. Yes you need a certain amount of money to have any quality of life but not everyone is driven by money. It always annoys me when people(mostly men) assume that the only reason a woman would be with a guy deemed "unattractive" is because he must be wealthy.
Yes there are women who are gold diggers, I don't dispute that, but there are plenty of women who are not. Merely simplifying hypergamy to mere gold diggers to dismiss it is fallacious. |
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BIB She ended up divorced and single again?
But, but, she must have been one of those wonderful un-picky woman if she was married in the first place? People like her are supposed to live happily ever after surrounded by babies wabies and a loving darling husband, aren't they?Quote:
BIB Yes you're right. Probably better to marry someone you don't love but 'they'll do for now', knock out a couple a kids and then 5 yrs down the line move in with the bloke you've fallen in love with up the street. Tough on the husband and kids, but that's life, eh?
My cultural background treats marriage/kids as pretty much an obligation and something that's done for the benefit of parents and the family, not so much the couple themselves. I tend to agree with that, but I think it's down to the individual. Quote:
By the way, if a woman is 'alone' by forty, does that mean she has to be 'alone' for the rest of her life? Is that where it all ends?
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Third page and nobody seems to have mentioned the deliberate smuttiness in brackets in the OP...
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Dating: Are women unrealistic?
Only the cheaper models are unrealistic, you can get much better ones in Japan that even vibrate, so are better than the real thing. Allegedly.
![]() And it's humour like this which explains why I'm such a hit with the ladies. |
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