A man asked for advice on Reddit after he went to a strip club.

He told his girlfriend he,d seen strippers at a bachelor party, in an effort to be "transparent & honest".

But he said on Reddit, his partner now refused to be touched by him or even look at him.

"She thinks its disgusting" he said.

Some of his replies, insist his actions amount to cheating.

The Mail.

So, is it cheating to go and watch strippers?

Would you mind if your partner went to strip shows?

she was probably alright him having a woman on his lap, but then she found out how much money he spent

them strip clubs take bundles

Do they really?

why do you think them clubs always have a cash machine within yards of the gaff ?

If my partner had been to a hen party and they had a stripper there who she watched with her friends then I think I'd be ok.

If my partner had been to a hen party and they had a stripper there, who thrust his junk into her face and she willingly put money down his underwear while screaming it was the best time of her life (sorry, no idea what goes on at these events) then I don't think I'd be ok.

Probably just as acceptable as the countless hens do's that have a male stripper rubbing his cock all over them.

also if she brought a DVD home and made you watch it every night while drinking your horlicks ?

My wife's been to at least one male strip club, which doesn't bother me at all. She's encouraged me to go to one but I don't fancy it.

I don't really understand why men go to strip clubs. I get the hen night thing, but I wouldn't pay to get turned on without a pay-off. Seems like a strange thing to spend money on, and I gather that it's common to spend hundreds.

a lot of them are young naive geezers, very drunk saddos or businessman with clients

I'd rather have a wank and save £300

Yeah, it takes a certain type of lech to sit there and perv over naked women in a club. Some women may not mind, but I expect more respect from my partner, for himself and for me.

I don't think it's something someone should do without speaking to their partner first. It seems a bit disrespectful.

Now that would be taking the p$%s!!

I think that costs more

It was a bachelor party, i'm not really seeing the problem. If he decided to go to the strip club on a thursday afternoon and said it was for the buffet then I could see how that might be a problem.

Yes, I agree.

How much more are we talking ?

I agree with this sentiment, especially the bolded bit.

My husband and I went to one together and he got me a lap dance from the lady of my choice. He asked me how I felt afterwards and I said it was awkward, she was only there because she was paid too, he said he felt exactly the same when having them in the past. He also said he frequented one just before we met but not for the ladies it was for the alcohol as they were only place open late!

If he told me he'd gone to a strip club and had a lap dance it wouldn't bother me. I'd be annoyed if he had done it and not told me though, which I know he wouldn't do.

Strip clubs??? Oh dear...

"He gave us a signal..."

High above Gotham City the twatsignal is shining brightly...

you can always tell, they come home with silicone on their collar

If both parties are fine with it, I suppose it's ok. I do wonder though if some guys might say such a thing to their partner, knowing she's most likely never going to go, just so that he can feel like it's ok for him to do it.

As it's not my thing, I, not sure I'd be ok with my partner going to watch strippers.

The stripper glitter is a dead give away the stuff gets everywhere.

Watching strippers is not be my OH's thing, as I found out in Amsterdam. he has seen at least one on a stag do, which didn't bother me at all. But the stripper then proceeded to cover her intimate parts in cream and got the groom to lick her clean. TBH I would see that as cheating. That would be a problem for me. And it works both ways - brides shouldn't go around making the most of their 'last night of freedom' either.

As for the cream on her lady garden if my husband to be consented to that and I found out I wouldn't marry him. He could've refused, his wife to be should be put first before his stag mates and a stripper. I've been to a pub in Edinburgh years ago when I was 19 where they had strippers and I'd go with my boyfriend. I wasn't jealous, it was a low rent place and the women didn't make much. One of them did something that I thought was a bit off, there was a middle aged man at a table with his wife and a stripper took the man's glasses and rubbed them on her knickers and his wife was furious and upset then the stripper was rude to the woman and belittled her. Maybe the older couple would've been better elsewhere but I think the man probably insisted on drinking there going by his wife's reaction and the look on her face. It was a real dive in there, when one stripper took a pint glass around the pub for tips after her dance a man bit her on her breast which really upset her. I didn't envy those women at all. Years later my now ex boyfriend (a different one) admitted he went to strip clubs and got touchy feely and it angered me. It was another nail in the coffin of our relationship. He lied at first saying he hadn't joined in but his mates told me the truth. Cheap homemade porn which he wanted us both to watch and which he watched by himself, w**k mags hidden under the carpet beneath the bed and asking me to buy him a men's mag with a topless calendar when I went shopping also helped to bury our relationship for good. I think it was the sneakiness and the physical touching that annoyed me about the later boyfriend when I was older. When myself and my boyfriend all those years ago were drinking in the Edinburgh strip bar it was more honest and quite frankly he didn't take that much interest in the dancers. He would still pay me attention while we were in there in the same way he always did and didn't once try to make me jealous. So, I think it's the touching and lying about lap dancing that would annoy me. It very much depends on the behaviour of the man around strippers and lapdancers. Any touching, licking etc is no better than cheating and I would end it if my partner did that.

I think I would too