Indeed.

Not sure how any partner doesn't have an issue with getting a private dance though. I can understand being accepting of just being there but private dances are definitely cheating.

Does it work both ways - if you found out your bride to be had slept with a male stripper and not told you, would you still want her walking up the aisle?

As the old saying goes, 'you can window shop, but hands off the merchandise'.

that's fair enough

We are all different and think differently

But window shopping is dangerous, it leads to purchasing eventually

Only if she performs

LMAO...!!

Have you ever spent a Friday night in a lesbian nightclub..?

Whenever we're in London, my wife and I have at least one night out "doing the scene", where we can let our hair down and go dykie-wild for a night.

The less experienced strippers who do their act in lesbian clubs are often taken aback. For a start, it's quite alien for them to be performing in front of an audience of wildly whooping, hollering women, and several hundred lesbians in a nightclub, on the lash is, to say the least, er..... different to what she's used to.

Does my wife object to me being in a club where a stripper performs..? Nah. She's there with me. And is loving it as much as I am..!!

If that were true then I'd need a walk- in wardrobe with multiple bunk beds!

I found out on my wedding day that my husband had been treated to a blow job from a prostitute on his stag night!

I never trusted him again and the lack of trust was a big part of what wrecked our marriage. I often wonder how different it would have been if he'd not gone along with what was expected of him by his mates - or if I'd never been told.

Strange how some people do what is so called expected. And give in to peer pressure.

Find yourself a strong independent individual is my advice. A leader, and example setter not follower.

I'm very happily single and independent these days. Free to travel the world and enjoy my life....

Nice. That can definitely work to.

Okay, so I'm going to go way out on a limb with this, but if your groom was blown by a hooker on his stag night, the fact that his friends may have thought that he was Jack the lad for getting the blowjob probably never entered his head.
I'm inclined to think that he thought, "Well I'm here with an erection, she's on her knees, mouth open, looking up at me, let's get it on."

Yes, you may well be right and nobody can blame others for their own actions, no matter how drunk they are. Ultimately we have to take responsibility - never his strong point tbh.

That means he can't be trusted to go out on his own. What a thing to find out on your wedding day.

Never been to one. Don't fancy want to.

This description though sums the whole reason up. Uncomfortable girls being hooted at. Sordid, sleazy and nasty.

No I haven't. Not somewhere I would enjoy going to, but each to their own.

I exercise my right to free speech that we have thankfully pretty well in the UK. Skip along if you see me post in threads like this. I don't remember forcing you to read these posts. The only people that are going to censor me on here are the people that run the forums, i.e. not people like you. And that's it.

Most likely made up.

I replied because this is an open forum, not a private 1-1 discussion. That's how it works. And yes I'm quite happy for you not considering me as a 'go to' guy for anything. I don't know you, so no skin off my nose.

I find it interesting that a lot of people don't see the appeal. I am the opposite.
Strip clubs make perect sense but I can't really see the value of being in a relationship.
In a strip club, I go in, have a few light-hearted conversations and watch women strip as I get turned on. Seems like a great way to spend an evening.
I like the atmosphere of the clubs, I like looking forward to going to the clubs - it's part of my lifestyle.
Being in a relationship and having to deal with another person every day - can't see the point of that.

I have been going to strip clubs since 1988. Since started counting in 2003, I have spent approximately £25,000 on visits. As i wouldn't have wanted to spend that on anything else, I think it has been money well spent. If I had my time over again I'd probably spend more.