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Old 10-12-2016, 18:32
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In a long term relationship it's important to be comfortable with each other. The way I see it my husband may need my help with something similarly I might need his help with something. We all get old so who knows what the future may bring. If I get ill and need help to the toilet I will have no problem in him helping me and I'd do the same for him
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Old 10-12-2016, 18:32
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Comfort is one thing, complacency is quite another. Failing to keep up interest in the bedroom falls into the latter category.

Familiarity frequently does breed contempt, sadly.
Yeah, keep them on their toes! Keep it spicy!

Variety in everything is key, do new thing's together.
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Old 10-12-2016, 18:34
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This is perhaps a far better way of describing things than how I did. I know that she dressed up and made more of an effort with her previous boyfriends so when she didn't for me (due to her saying she was comfortable) it now made me think if she meant that she didn't feel like I was worth it.
Well if you want her to dress up take her somewhere where you dress up. I mean what are we talking about here? were you going to the opera and she was wearing a pair of sweatpants with juicy written on the arse?
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Old 10-12-2016, 18:36
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Well if you want her to dress up take her somewhere where you dress up. I mean what are we talking about here? were you going to the opera and she was wearing a pair of sweatpants with juicy written on the arse?
Well there goes my outfit choice for my visit to the opera next week
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Old 10-12-2016, 18:49
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Well if you want her to dress up take her somewhere where you dress up. I mean what are we talking about here? were you going to the opera and she was wearing a pair of sweatpants with juicy written on the arse?
No like I said before, I'd take us to a nice restaurant and wear a shirt and trousers, she would have on a pair of jeans and a hoodie. I'd tell her a week in advance so she'd have time to get something ready (often the restaurant was her choice too) but still no effort.

This was some years ago though so can't change it now, just curious about the reasoning.
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Old 10-12-2016, 18:54
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No like I said before, I'd take us to a nice restaurant and wear a shirt and trousers, she would have on a pair of jeans and a hoodie. I'd tell her a week in advance so she'd have time to get something ready (often the restaurant was her choice too) but still no effort.

This was some years ago though so can't change it now, just curious about the reasoning.
If you could get in wearing jeans and a hoodie why the hell were you wearing a shirt and trousers?

Is this you?

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Old 10-12-2016, 19:28
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If you could get in wearing jeans and a hoodie why the hell were you wearing a shirt and trousers?
Because it wasn't a cheap pub? Plus everyone else was dressing smart, she'd always be asked if she was just there to use the bar and would get awkward looks. I don't know how this is confusing you so much.
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Old 11-12-2016, 00:34
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you should have taken her to Claridges, I bet she would have worn her best shell suit
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