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Old 24-12-2016, 18:49
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I think the Advice section is a great resource and, on the whole, the advice given here is well-meaning, constructive and helpful. There are always going to be differing views and different opinions and it's good to hear the OP feels his venture here has been worthwhile. I wish him well and hope 2017 is a happy and fruitful year.
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Old 24-12-2016, 18:49
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Yeah, this has started to go a little off-beam. Not going to join in the whole feminism/misogyny war of words as neither stance really ever figured in my actions or intentions, I just wanted to make sure someone I care about feels happy and confident!

I've now had a couple chances to speak to my beautiful colleague, the first occasions since the party; she confirmed that she is currently "in relationship"; obviously if I'd known previously I'd have been able to temper my affections and approach accordingly: I suppose she's just not as open of a book emotionally as I have been! I did ask if I'd come across as creepy and offensive, given that has been a major worry of mine baaed on some of the earlier comments in this thread, but she confirmed that this wasn't her view at all, which did help calm my fears. I did apologise for being so obsessive and for my poor approach to the party, and we came away on good terms, we are and remain friends and I'm very glad to have her in my life. I will continue to support and show affection for someone I care about very much, because her happiness and wellbeing are important to me. Hopefully there will be more opportunities in future to socialise and just have some fun: it's already been suggested that we drag her fella and some of our other colleagues from around the store out to some event or other to celebrate one or t'other of our birthdays...

But that's all in the future. Hopefully along the way I can find the special someone who will be responsive to my desire to give and give; I don't know whether she's under my nose or far away, but I have more faith in finding her than I have in a long time. And a lot of the worry and doubt that persuaded me to snivel out the starting post is now dissipated - things are in a better place. With that in mind I'm willing to let this one start to sink down the grid, and move on towards 2017 ready to take a new approach and stretch myself a bit socially; any further tips on how to be the better man can be bunged on'ere or thru the usual channels. Thanks again to all those who offered assistance, and the very best of the season to all who sail the Advice section!
Just make sure you don't miss her because your attention is directed towards your friend
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Old 24-12-2016, 20:11
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Yeah, this has started to go a little off-beam. Not going to join in the whole feminism/misogyny war of words as neither stance really ever figured in my actions or intentions, I just wanted to make sure someone I care about feels happy and confident!

I've now had a couple chances to speak to my beautiful colleague, the first occasions since the party; she confirmed that she is currently "in relationship"; obviously if I'd known previously I'd have been able to temper my affections and approach accordingly: I suppose she's just not as open of a book emotionally as I have been! I did ask if I'd come across as creepy and offensive, given that has been a major worry of mine baaed on some of the earlier comments in this thread, but she confirmed that this wasn't her view at all, which did help calm my fears. I did apologise for being so obsessive and for my poor approach to the party, and we came away on good terms, we are and remain friends and I'm very glad to have her in my life. I will continue to support and show affection for someone I care about very much, because her happiness and wellbeing are important to me. Hopefully there will be more opportunities in future to socialise and just have some fun: it's already been suggested that we drag her fella and some of our other colleagues from around the store out to some event or other to celebrate one or t'other of our birthdays...

But that's all in the future. Hopefully along the way I can find the special someone who will be responsive to my desire to give and give; I don't know whether she's under my nose or far away, but I have more faith in finding her than I have in a long time. And a lot of the worry and doubt that persuaded me to snivel out the starting post is now dissipated - things are in a better place. With that in mind I'm willing to let this one start to sink down the grid, and move on towards 2017 ready to take a new approach and stretch myself a bit socially; any further tips on how to be the better man can be bunged on'ere or thru the usual channels. Thanks again to all those who offered assistance, and the very best of the season to all who sail the Advice section!
You really do sound like a great guy. Good luck and all the best for 2017, I hope you find true happiness in whatever form that may take.
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Old 25-12-2016, 21:38
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You really do sound like a great guy. Good luck and all the best for 2017, I hope you find true happiness in whatever form that may take.
Same.
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Old 26-12-2016, 00:06
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OP, you sound like a right player.
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