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I found out at around 5, when my older brother ran into the bedroom to tell me as he'd seen Dad putting the presents under the tree.
With Jr it's difficult, or complicated - as she's 16 with the mental age of about 8, she believes in Santa but also knows that I buy presents. She knows her music teacher is Santa at school. She seems able to accommodate the knowledge of some of the realities of Christmas and yet maintain the fantasy too. She wants the PNP video from Santa, wants to track him, to leave out an apple and milk for the reindeer, yet isn't oblivious to the fact that I buy presents and that they cost money. I tried telling her in November that Santa wasn't real, but it didn't really sink in so I decided to leave her be and let her enjoy Christmas in her own way. . ![]() ![]() Well, we had our first Xmas with the kids knowing and nothing changed except for a minor blip with a moody daughter on Xmas morning. Every year the youngest wakes first, grabs his stocking, runs in to wake his big sister and they both come in to us all excited to go through their stocking stuff. This year our youngest came into our room alone said "I went to wake Girl but she just said I'LL GET UP WHEN I'M READY!" She must have had a change of heart and was up with her stocking with the rest of us a couple of minutes later. Moody madam. |
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I was 6 when i caught my dad in a santa suit, he told me santa was proper busy and needed some help, so he was giving him a hand. Went off to school after xmas, v proud my dad helped santypants deliver my classmates pressies only to be told by the teacher that he didnt exist
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I was 6 when i caught my dad in a santa suit, he told me santa was proper busy and needed some help, so he was giving him a hand. Went off to school after xmas, v proud my dad helped santypants deliver my classmates pressies only to be told by the teacher that he didnt exist
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() The teacher?! What a sh*te! If that happened now that teacher's name would be all over Twitter and they'd be driven out of their job, broken. |
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No idea why you would think I didn't have happy Christmases as a child. Maybe because you can't seem to cope with children enjoying it unless they think santa is real. Christmas is much more than santa to me, presents, a good party, family and friends getting together, good stuff on telly, pretty lights and trees etc. It makes me feel kind of sorry for you if you don't think kids can enjoy any of that if they know the difference between fantasy and reality.
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The teacher?! What a sh*te! If that happened now that teacher's name would be all over Twitter and they'd be driven out of their job, broken. |
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I was 6 when i caught my dad in a santa suit, he told me santa was proper busy and needed some help, so he was giving him a hand. Went off to school after xmas, v proud my dad helped santypants deliver my classmates pressies only to be told by the teacher that he didnt exist
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She was a right old windbag, sucked the life out of every thing. I didn't know this back then but my mum went up the school to confront her and called her a sad pathetic lonely old woman who needed to get laid. in which case mum wld prob be arrested these days lol.
In my case this was a male teacher, probably the same reasoning though haha
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I can't remember what age I was when I found out but it didn't come from my parents. We were sort of left to it to figure it out on our own.
Is it that big of a deal to have 'the talk' with them? I remember being disappointed and some of the magic was lost, but I didn't sob or dwell on it for long, and neither did my siblings. I find it a bit mean to take away the magic of it all if they still believe by revealing it to them - let them dream a little longer! They'll soon figure it out. I think kids pick apart the whole fairytale bit by bit as the years go by. It was quite obvious this year that my seven year old niece has twigged some of the things she's been told don't quite make sense. |
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No idea why you would think I didn't have happy Christmases as a child. Maybe because you can't seem to cope with children enjoying it unless they think santa is real. Christmas is much more than santa to me, presents, a good party, family and friends getting together, good stuff on telly, pretty lights and trees etc. It makes me feel kind of sorry for you if you don't think kids can enjoy any of that if they know the difference between fantasy and reality.
Santa's all about the build-up really, once the gifts are being opened they don't care if Santa, the tooth fairy or the make believe lord above himself bought the presents. Like pretty lights and trees - it's all magic and make-believe. As for 'good stuff on the telly' - it's the 30th December, I'm still waiting for that myth to become reality
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I cope just fine thanks - seeing as I never told Jr that Santa was real. Kids pick up on these things, it's all around, no need to ever say Santa is real although - as I mentioned a few posts above - I told her he wasn't real. She chose not to believe me.
Santa's all about the build-up really, once the gifts are being opened they don't care if Santa, the tooth fairy or the make believe lord above himself bought the presents. Like pretty lights and trees - it's all magic and make-believe. As for 'good stuff on the telly' - it's the 30th December, I'm still waiting for that myth to become reality ![]() |
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I was 11, almost 12 when I found out. My mum told me as I was at secondary school and she realised the horrible kids in class, who weren't very nice to me anyway at the best of times, would just have more ammunition, if she didn't. She was not prepared for my reaction. I was heartbroken, completely and utterly devastated, I refuse to believe her and ran off to my room sobbing. Indeed I didn't believe her, I thought she'd only said it just to make me fit in with what the other kids said, it's only when I heard her and my dad the following Christmas Eve that I realised she had actually been telling me the truth and I was so upset I cried myself to sleep over it. Maybe some will think that was a heck of an overreaction, but I had believed so completely and unquestioningly in this magical man since the second I had heard of him, I had never once had any reason to question let alone doubt his existence ( not even when I never got the puppy I kept asking for, I accepted that he wouldn't bring one to me because my parents didn't want him to) that finding out he didn't exist was like finding out your adopted. Traumatising. I feel sorry for those who found out at 6/7 or even less, I couldn't handle it being spoilt at 12 never mind any younger
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