Originally Posted by max_garfield:
“I'm interested by this particularly for those who consider themselves straight.
I fully believe that you can have same sex experiences and be straight or then decide that wasn't for you etc. It seems harder for the guys to admit to but I was quite surprised and had admiration for Tom Hardy when he admitted he had tried it in the past.”
It is a nightmare scenario for any homosexual, to have a friend or somebody else we know, when they're (usually) drunk or otherwise not themselves to say "You know, I've always wondered what it's like to have sex with another man / woman"
I have been in that situation with other women on two occasions. One was close friend and one was a more casual acquaintance. On both occasions they were very drunk. On both occasions I rebuffed them gently, but very firmly. I think I saved them from themselves and they later thanked me for it.
But when they came on to me, had they been sober I would have been quite offended. I'm not a cheap pick up to be casually used to satisfy somebody's sexual curiosity. As they were drunk at the time though, that made it a little less offensive, but still nonetheless unwelcome. The stereotype of all homosexuals being highly promiscuous and eager to jump into any casual sexual relationship is actually quite false.
I do know of some who have succumbed to the temptation though, only to find that both parties regretted it in the morning. It's been known to destroy friendships, cause great hurt and even, where being unfaithful to a partner is concerned, break up long term relationships.
I can understand why some heterosexual people may feel curious about same gender sex. It can happen for any number of reasons. But please try to remember that gay men and lesbians are human beings too, you know, and anyone who thinks they can just rock up in a gay bar and get off with somebody for a laugh, or to see if they can get some sort of kick out of it is quite irresponsible.
I am not at all curious about hetero sex and even if I ever were, I like to think I would go about conducting myself with a bit more dignity.