As another asexual I couldn't be bothered to experiment at all, just don't find sex that interesting to bother with tbh.

I'm a gay male but have done stuff with a woman and her husband,I only watch straight porn ,and no I am not bi

OK, here goes.

I always considered myself heterosexual. I saw a lot of naked men in changing rooms when playing sport and don't recall ever being remotely interested. I fact, distinctly recall feeling queasy st the thought of it. I found men's bodies repulsive.

I had no problem with guys who were gay/bisexual, but just couldn't see it.

When I was about 30, I suddenly felt differently. It's weird, I'll go months without thinking about it, then suddenly go through a little phase when I think about it a lot.

It's very, very different to the way I feel about women - I could never have a relationship with a guy etc.

If you'd told me I'd be thinking like this 25 years ago, I'd have said absolutely no way, you're mad. I've also met quite a few guys who seem to have taken the same path. There are an amazing amount of guys who are curious out there, many who seemed to have developed these urges as they get older.

I absolutely guarantee you that someone in this thread who expresses revulsion at the idea will be "crossing swords with, erm gay abandon in ten years time .

No, i love the taste of a Woman , i personally can't think of anything more repulsive than for me to experiment sexually with another Man.

Don't get me wrong, I understand what you mean in terms of never wanting to "go there" with a man etc. But repulsive? I don't find anything between two consenting adults repulsive.

Does a gay person find the thought of straight sex repulsive? Probably not, just no feelings/interest at all.

I feel some people's wording is far too strong for such a basic matter lol

Hey if consenting adults wanna have sex then who am i to judge, whether they be Straight or Gay, it won't change they way i feel about the thought of experimenting with another bloke or what words i use to describe how it makes me feel personally

Thank you for that interesting post and loved that last line.

I've seen the same thing online: lots of older guys wanting to 'experiment' for the first time, or discovering a latent love for man meat.

It's good to see them throwing off the shackles of a repressed bygone era.

Yes you have highlighted a major problem there: Whenever straight men talk about gay male on male sex it's always using very strong derogatory terms. 'Disgusting', 'Repulsive', 'pushing s**t uphill', 'I don't want to see it!'. etc.

I, as a gay man do not see straight sex or any part of a woman's body or what they get up to, repulsive, disgusting or anything else. It merely does nothing sexual for me. That's it, there is just no sexual attraction there. Also, effeminate gay men do nothing for me either as they are too much like a woman in their mannerisms, dress sense and make up. They of course have every right to be and do anything they wish, but again they do nothing for me sexually. So sexually I find myself attracted to men who act in a manly way. If watching porn, then I usually watch straight porn as at least the man is giving off the impression that he is being manly. And of course whilst not doing anything for me sexually, the woman in the porn doesn't repulse or disgust me in any way.

So straight men: Why can't you just say that it's not for you as it does nothing for you sexually and so obviously you have no interest in it?

To be fair, quite a few gay guys express similar sentiments about the thought of going anywhere near a vagina, which a bit disrespectful IMO.

The human body is beautiful in all its forms.

Most couples are happy to enjoy sex together but often one or the other suffers ill health, removing any sexual desire.
This leaves their partner in a difficult position. They can become celibate, spend a life of self stimulation, or seek relief from another person.
If that person is the opposite sex it can become involved and destroy a marriage, with the sick partner feeling guilt ridden.
Same sex relief is a grubby substitute but it can save a lot of pent-up frustration. I know a number of men who have good friends without any emotional hang-ups. Furtive, yes but I am in no position to judge; are you?

So adultery with someone of the same sex is somehow better than adultery with someone of the opposite sex? I have to say that is sick logic. 'Darling, I'm sorry, since you're ill I slept with someone else, but it's OK It was a man, not a woman.'

I'm sure that would make her feel so much better.

I've never been attracted to the idea of having same sex relations but I wouldn't say I was the most women mad person either so I'd define myself as heterosexual but closer to asexuality than most men for most of my life as I don't really have a strong instinct a lot of the time. It really all depends on mood and where I am with that. There have been times where it wasn't even a consideration other than as a point of difference. In recent years I did experience a spell where I was more sexually driven than normally but I think it was just a phase and possibly somewhat chemically influenced.

My lack of interest in women at times (late teens and 20s) was taken by some people to mean that I must be interested in men but that's just because they see things in that binary sort of way. In truth I just never really wanted to fail in relationships and never really felt a need to sleep with people I didn't know so never tried to push myself out there. At an early age I learned to keep a barrier between myself and people. The rest of the world moves a bit faster than me and everything seems so disposable and temporary. I never really felt comfortable with that. I always just got attracted to one person at a time and often I'd idealise them and (when younger) would never approach them or (when older) would discover that they were nothing like the image I had built up of them (which is a disturbing thing as you realise what a fool you were before).

But same sex? No - never appealed. I don't see it as an any better or worse than different sex though. It's just sex. I think people who are so against a thing on personal terms that they oppose it for everyone are very strange. Like the evangelical American pastor who preached about gays burning in Hell through the week and then at weekends goes out and picks up male escorts and smokes crack cocaine. It must be rough to feel the need to be so disingenuous.

(Edit - One thing I have noticed. It's not the topic but follows on from what I was thinking. I've noticed that some of the people who seemed the most sexually aggressive at a younger age (teens say) are people who may have been contending with feelings of attraction for the same sex who might have been trying to combat or challenge that by throwing themselves into heterosexual relationships. I remember my friend in high school dated a girl and they were ahead of the rest of us. About 5 years later she is living with a woman and still is to this day (20 years later). Ditto my sister's flatmate in college who made passes at every man around her. At the time I thought them just very attracted to men but as they are now in long-term same sex relationships it might well have been them finding their way because they had doubts then.)

In what way is what some today call asexuality different to what people in the past would have called a low sex drive? Is it just labelling what would have once just been regarded as part of life previously?

I'm not asexual. I'm just more towards that at times in my life (dependant on mood) than I've found my peers to be -- through school, college, nights out, etc.

I was trying to show how things are a spectrum rather than a defined set thing. Low sex drive fits too though. Asexual - lack of sexual desire - so if sex drive drops to zero then I guess a person is asexual.

the thought of another bloke touching our cock is a bit repulsive to a lot of us, why not accept that ? and another blokes finger up the arsehole, why do you think that many of us don't want to have prostate checkups ?

I don't and never have bought the claim that some straight folk 'experiment' with homosexual sex. If you are think you want to 'experiment', It simply means you are bisexual but don't want to admit it to yourself. I have never wanted to shag a guy (I'm a guy) or do anything remotely sexual (although I've experienced several approaches from guy. It just doesn't do it for me.

You can't commit adultery with someone of the same sex under British law.

As far as gay marriage goes there is no such thing as adultery (or consummation) included in the legislation.

In both the above cases divorce would have to be on the grounds of 'unreasonable behaviour'.

Each to their own. I am a non-effeminate (not that that makes a difference) gay man and I can honestly say that I find anything vagina-related to be repulsive.

If you are truly indifferent to vaginas as you say you are then that would mean that, despite the fact it wouldn't turn you on, you could still experiment with a vagina if you were a bit bored one evening just to see what it was like. Is that the case?

I was debating with some people as to whether being gay was a disability.

I said that being gay was never a disability (even when the medical profession said it was) but someone else said they thought they were disabled as a lesbian because they were only attracted to a small percentage of the population.

I would only accept sexuality as a disability if we were to accept that it is an ability and therefore only Pansexuality (the ability to be attracted to any gender) is the ultimate ability,

Therefore even straight people would be considered disabled if this was the case as they can only fancy less than 50% of the population.

But the percentage argument doesn't work IMO as I would be just as 'disabled' on the Isle of Lesbos, as a Lesbian might be in main stream society.

I don't get how people "disagree" or are against homosexuality when it's found in other 170 species of animals too.

Yes very recently, for the first ever time and I really enjoyed it , would I do it again probably yes , with the same person , definitely I learned so much about myself. We nearly did it again last Fri at the staff christmas do , but it will happen again.

I think most wives would regard adultery as being on the basis of whether their husband has slept with someone else, not legal definitions. Somehow I don't think 'it's OK darling. It was a man I slept with so legally it's not adultery' would cut much ice.

Femme dyke here.

I don't have the slightest inclination to "experiment" with anybody. I'm not repulsed by the male body but when in the company of other (straight) women, and they're talking about this man or that man I'll just roll with the conversation and I might comment on, say, whether or not I think he's intelligent or dumb-as-a-box-of-hammers. Somebody's personal attributes don't always have to be physical, do they..?

I like men. Some make me laugh. Some teach me things I didn't know. Some are capable of selfless acts of altruism (f'rinstance, the gay man who donated his tadpoles for my fertility treatment). Some are highly talented in whatever field they choose to become involved with. All very admirable character traits.

Sexually, I have no interest in them whatsoever, and I've found that actually, they're quite comfortable being in my company because there is no possibility of any sort of sexual frisson developing between us. We could be at ease with each other, like the guy I used to practice my guitar playing with. His wife didn't mind that every week, we met, played guitar, drunk beer and laughed a lot. Our friendship was relaxed and easy going.

Do I think a penis is an ugly thing..? Yeah, I do, but that's not because of any aversion to what it is for, rather, actually, I just think it is a bloody ugly thing. I don't see any aesthetic in it at all.

Perhaps there would be less intolerance towards homosexuals if so many heteros didn't immediately highlight the difference in our sexuality and play it up. My sexuality is an important aspect of my life, but it doesn't define me. It isn't the only thing I am.

I can assure you there are plenty of straight women who consider the penis to be an ugly thing too.

Garfunkel and Oates (female American comedy duo) wrote what I think is a very funny song 'The College Try' - about what it's like as a heterosexual woman experimenting with bisexuality but being er, unimpressed by their experience of getting up close and personal with a vagina.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7n39RzgVNP8