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Ha.
And I'd definitely be complaining if they served me quiche as a starter on Christmas Day! Unreal that she seemed to admit that the guests paid so she didn't need to. I appreciate that it can be very expensive, especially if the guests are in double figures. When I have been flush I've done it many times, but intentionally never added it up. When other family members have volunteered, especially if they're on a budget ( or it's a big workload), I've always made a course/sides/loads of booze or at least stumped up for a really good turkey. (It can work really well as often someone else will suggest they'll make dessert etc. and often enjoy doing it.) Even simpler as others say - rotate hosting it each year or just don't offer. woman in that article reminds me of the the wife character, Monica, in Mike Leigh's Secrets & Lies. Sheesh, some people. |
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I'm not interested enough to read about their greed and selfishness but the couple in the op's article sound really horrible.
I wouldn't dine among company like that even if paid to!
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This one's a characteristic Daily Mail article about a woman, (primary teacher, combined annual household income of £85,000. ) from South London who require that any family member who wants to attend her Xmas dinner has to pay up front, set amount. It claims that this is "a growing phenomenon. "
None of the guests are unemployed and none appear to be low-waged. Husband is , apparently, an executive chef. For the cooks out there she is worrying that her "signature dessert- pavlova" turns out OK and serves a quiche option as a starter as an alt to smoked salmon. Apparently it's "restaurant quality." Where do the Mail find these suckers, so lacking in self-awareness? Cue her in-laws sniggering about her press.. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...es-profit.html how the winter nights must just fly past in their households
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Even when really hard up I've never thought to do that, I did one year ask if everyone could bring something if I provided the turkey, we were really near rock bottom at that point and no one minded I found. It actually started a tradition who ever hosted provided the meat and everyone coming brought the rest, it's meant we get to have a less frantic time cooking each year who ever was hosting.
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Also breathtakingly, arrogant, conceited and self important. It's pretty much akin to thinking your company is so compelling, that guests are willing to pay so they can sit in your house and be hosted by you.
Sheesh, some people. Hahahahaaaaa its well funny |
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I can't help wondering how many 'guests' do attend. I certainly wouldn't, family or no family. Is her name Hyacinth Bucket?
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Also breathtakingly, arrogant, conceited and self important. It's pretty much akin to thinking your company is so compelling, that guests are willing to pay so they can sit in your house and be hosted by you.
Sheesh, some people. And I am compelled to be a bitch here and add that if she is stressing about making a pavlova, as she says, she is def not providing the "restaurant quality meal" she is claiming. (Her words. )ETA - yes ^ a touch of the Hyacinth Bouquet perhaps too. |
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Will it be tiny-portion, poncey, Nouvelle Cuisine too? (please excuse my non-PC terminology)
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Will it be tiny-portion, poncey, Nouvelle Cuisine too? (please excuse my non-PC terminology)
Anyway yes - - will the guests be allowed to take a doggy bag home? - what happens with the left over turkey- do they split a carcass at home time and she throws a cold sprout in each or do her guests get a refund? |
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Will it be tiny-portion, poncey, Nouvelle Cuisine too? (please excuse my non-PC terminology)
You don't need to pile a plate full but you can still make it look attractive whilst making sure a client feels that they have had the food they have paid for |
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What your mother did was gross
Ma and I shared what we had, and if she didn't have it and I did, I'd give it to her. I'd never in my wildest dreams charge anyone for anything.My father would come home at lunchtime - while she was at work - and we had secret meals. When she thought we were eating a packed lunch, we were living it large on a bit of steak. Afterwards he would burn any suspect wrapping paper on the compost heap as she used to check the bins when she came home.
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When I've been invited somewhere for xmas dinner I've always taken something with me as my offering. The year my aunt did it I took the pudding as I really wanted the Black Forest gateaux from M&S. It's like going to a house party I always ask if I need to bring anything with me, always take alcohol though. Similarly when the ex and I did our own xmas dinner and people came they usually brought or offering to bring something.
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I once went on holiday with a group of friends and one of the lads actually charged somebody for 2 rashers of bacon. I think it was something silly like 14p each!
He was the type of person who would always go for the buy one get 2 free offers on drinks even if he didn't like the drink. |
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I've known people be like this even at "normal" times of the year.
Last year a friend was invited over for a catch-up by another mutual friend. He'd cooked a steak and ale pie and offered her some whilst she was over which she gratefully accepted. They had a chat for a good hour or so then when she was leaving he said "You can pay me back for the pie when you've got the money, it's only about £3-4!". She laughed thinking he was joking but it turned out he wasn't. She got a text message a few days later with him saying he'd worked it out and it'd be £3.16 and she could drop it over when she'd got it. Despite invitations no one from our friend group has been there for dinner since. I can't believe the tightness of some people. By all means, if strapped for cash, everyone mucks in by bringing bits and bobs towards the meal but to charge people is just
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When I've been invited somewhere for xmas dinner I've always taken something with me as my offering. The year my aunt did it I took the pudding as I really wanted the Black Forest gateaux from M&S. It's like going to a house party I always ask if I need to bring anything with me, always take alcohol though. Similarly when the ex and I did our own xmas dinner and people came they usually brought or offering to bring something.
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I've gotta say that I do find it baffling really so I'm going to assume it's one of those Daily mail made up stories.
Turkey is cheap as are vegetables and a Christmas dinner is one of the easiest meals to prepare so I cannot believe anyone that says it's exhausting or need to charge their family. |
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Fantastic idea, don't know why I never thought of it myself. I will present Mrs Wombat with an invoice for her half of the meal.
Do you think it would be cheeky to invoice her for her Christmas presents too? |
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Fantastic idea, don't know why I never thought of it myself. I will present Mrs Wombat with an invoice for her half of the meal.
Do you think it would be cheeky to invoice her for her Christmas presents too? ![]() Good luck Wombat, I think you're going to need it. Merry Christmas wherever you may end up spending Christmas
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Fantastic idea, don't know why I never thought of it myself. I will present Mrs Wombat with an invoice for her half of the meal.
Do you think it would be cheeky to invoice her for her Christmas presents too? |
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Only if she can submit her own invoice for washing, ironing, dusting, hoovering, cooking, shopping, child rearing etc etc throughout the year
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This one's a characteristic Daily Mail article about a woman, (primary teacher, combined annual household income of £85,000. ) from South London who require that any family member who wants to attend her Xmas dinner has to pay up front, set amount. It claims that this is "a growing phenomenon. "
None of the guests are unemployed and none appear to be low-waged. Husband is , apparently, an executive chef. For the cooks out there she is worrying that her "signature dessert- pavlova" turns out OK and serves a quiche option as a starter as an alt to smoked salmon. Apparently it's "restaurant quality." Where do the Mail find these suckers, so lacking in self-awareness? Cue her in-laws sniggering about her press.. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...es-profit.html |
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Interesting that the emphasis is on the decision being the woman's, not the man's. Weren't the OH's involved in the decision or is it another 'bash women' story from the Mail?
( I hadn't read it properly, it wasn't just one family but 3 separate ones that were practising this new custom. No idea where they find these people. ) |
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Would you make your family pay for Christmas dinner?
No, I would pay them to eat it.
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I'm sure the mother will be adjusting the daughter's inheritance accordingly downward.
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Well, considering that her husband's an Executive Chef and the food comes from his 'preferred supplier,' - translation: a freebie/heavily discounted; I think that it's pretty tacky.
We spread the cost by each leg of the family preparing and supplying a course with the host doing the veg. Everyone takes a bottle or two. If someone offered me a bill in advance, I'd be having Christmas lunch somewhere else. I cant see how anyone gets to £60 quid each anyway, so if there's five eating the food (only the food, no booze) the meal costs £300!!! What the heck are they eating ( and at mates rates at the most). |
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how the winter nights must just fly past in their households
and add that if she is stressing about making a pavlova, as she says, she is def not providing the "restaurant quality meal" she is claiming. (Her words. )
Ma and I shared what we had, and if she didn't have it and I did, I'd give it to her. I'd never in my wildest dreams charge anyone for anything.
