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Old 29-12-2016, 14:13
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Appearing edgy on the internet is some peoples only contribution to the world, and they feel the need to remind everyone of that.
Though saying something like "I was sad to hear of the death of X" on Facebook isn't exactly edgy.
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Old 29-12-2016, 15:55
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It's simply that people behave and react in different ways.

One side of my family is very reserved and wouldn't think of displaying an emotion in real life, never mind on social media.

The other side are very open and this is reflected in their behaviour where they talk about anything and everything online.

There's no right or wrong, just different ways of dealing with stuff.

Sadly the internet - as always - seems to bring out an awful lot of people that object to anything different, or exists outside of their personal bubble.

It's a behaviour reflected often in the DS TV forums where posters often call for a show to be axed purely because they don't like it, despite that fact many others do.
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Old 29-12-2016, 16:19
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with mourning the loss of somebody whose work you admire. Sure you may not have ever met them, but their work whether it be music, film, television or art has touched you in someway and therefore have the right to feel sad.

I can't stand people who say "Millions die every day", yes they do and I am sad for each and every one of those people and their families - but I haven't followed every individuals work for it to have an emotional connection.
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Old 29-12-2016, 17:09
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I think part of the reason was well put by Noel Gallagher regarding Princess Diana:

"Half the people wouldn't visit their grandmother's grave...then they go and throw flowers at the coffin of some bird they've never met."
I think in some ways though, grieving over someone you have never met, but who has touched your life is in some ways a 'safe' way to grieve, because it doesn't affect you in the same way as a grandmother dying would. If you were very close to your grandmother, just because you don't visit her grave doesn't mean that privately you are not distraught at her death or think about her every day.But all the people who are sad about the deaths of Carrie Fisher or George Michael are grieving for themselves and for a part of their youth. They can watch Star Wars and listen to Faith for a few days and move on. Real grief is exhausting and long term.
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Old 29-12-2016, 17:31
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with mourning the loss of somebody whose work you admire. Sure you may not have ever met them, but their work whether it be music, film, television or art has touched you in someway and therefore have the right to feel sad.

I can't stand people who say "Millions die every day", yes they do and I am sad for each and every one of those people and their families - but I haven't followed every individuals work for it to have an emotional connection.
I think that's the point. It's the level of emotional connection you have with the person that dies. No emotional connection, no grief. Though I can put myself into the shoes of other people who have lost loved ones and feel sad for them.
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Old 29-12-2016, 17:32
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Although I do not subscribe to the hysterical reactions some people come up with, I nevertheless have been touched, very much so in some cases, by many of this year’s celebrity deaths. Not least because there do seem to have been an inordinate number of them, and many of those were people who have been, as it were, a part of my life for a very long time. In my teens I listened to the music of Status Quo, David Bowie and Leonard Cohen. I still listen to them today. Alan Rickman first came to my attention as the oily Obediah Slope in the Barchester Chronicles and I have admired his acting, and his seductive voice, ever since - whether in Truly, Madly, Deeply, as Snape (he was Snape) in the Harry Potter films or in anything else his presence graced. I listened to Terry Wogan’s radio voice on those occasions I drove to work, and loved the comedy of the Two Ronnies (Mr Corbett has now joined Mr Barker – so sad in both cases). Even Paul Daniels was a part of my television watching in earlier times. Then the comedy talents of Victoria Wood and Caroline Aherne – in how many years has one had the misfortune to list so many people who have had their lives taken away, some incredibly early? Forgive me for the names I have missed, there are just too many.

George Michael and Prince were among those younger than me. Not so much a part of my youth, but still big, recognisable names. Carrie Fisher was young and beautiful when she was in the Star Wars films. Again, a bit younger than me. And too young – which is part of the crux of the matter. None of us is getting any younger, and of course nobody lives for ever.

What binds all of these people is that they died the sort of deaths that, sooner or later, will come to everyone who doesn’t die a violent, unnecessary death. Not a single plane crash, car crash or random lunatic shooter. Not like James Dean, Buddy Holly, John Denver, Rick Nelson, John Lennon and more. Despite living in first world countries, with access to sufficient money, a good diet, modern medicine – when it came down to it there was not one damn thing any of them could do when the Grim Reaper turned up. They didn’t live in war-torn areas, or countries where famine is rife. The horror of deaths in those places cannot be ignored, but neither can we spend our lives tearing ourselves apart about every single death, because there are just too many of them and we would cease to function at all if we did. But these people were all individuals we recognised, “knew”, to a greater or lesser extent and who did touch our lives. Added to which, they remind us of our own mortality. Each time someone famous – particularly one of around my own age or younger - dies the sort of death you or I might suffer one day, there is also a sort of “there but for the grace of the deity of my choice go I” feeling.

May 2017 be a vast improvement on this year.
You mention how non of these people died in accidents, sadly there were several of those this year as well, Viola Beach weren't well known but it affected people enough to give then an posthumous number one album, the tragic death of Christina Grimmie had a huge affect on me even though I didn't know many of her songs, and Anton Yelchin, his death was heartbreaking, I was watching the new Star Movie on DVD and at the end credits it said "For Anton" and I just burst out in tears which I rarely do when you see a film is dedicated to someone who has recently passed.
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Old 29-12-2016, 17:54
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I think that's the point. It's the level of emotional connection you have with the person that dies. No emotional connection, no grief. Though I can put myself into the shoes of other people who have lost loved ones and feel sad for them.
I burst into tears when the news of George Michael's death came up as a BBC newsflash on my IPad (I was watching David Bowie and Bing Crosby's Little Donkey at the time). George Michael songs were the music to a key part of my life in the 80s and remind me of so many things. It also reminds us all in our 50s that we might go at any time.
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Old 29-12-2016, 17:59
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I think it's fake grief and people's reactions are totally over the top. I am a big fan o; Lady Gaga but you won't find me weeping and wailing at her demise.
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Old 29-12-2016, 18:04
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I think it's fake grief and people's reactions are totally over the top. I am a big fan o; Lady Gaga but you won't find me weeping and wailing at her demise.
It's not fake grief for many. It's a loss of your younger years and grief over that loss. You will understand when you are older.
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Old 29-12-2016, 19:59
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I think it's fake grief and people's reactions are totally over the top. I am a big fan o; Lady Gaga but you won't find me weeping and wailing at her demise.
To be fair, most people aren't out in the streets weeping and wailing. However, if you've grown up loving someone's music and maybe they were a teen crush, you'd have to be very hard hearted to just shrug your shoulders when you heard of their demise. Maybe you'll feel differently one day........
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