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Old 02-01-2017, 17:47
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Hi all!

I'm seriously thinking of going to Ibiza on my own, I don't want to go with friends as last year they were miserable... I've also spoken to a friend who went on her own a couple of years ago and she had a brilliant time.. but I'm scared of asking my mum and dad as they'd probs say no.... but I'm 26 now and I need to be doing stuff like this on my own...

Please help!
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Old 02-01-2017, 18:01
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If you are 26 then what has it got to do with your mum and dad? You are a grown up so can make your own decisions.

I love going on holiday on my own as you get to do exactly what you want with no arguments.
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Old 02-01-2017, 18:04
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If you are 28 then what has it got to do with your mum and dad? You are a grown up so can make your own decisions.

I love going on holiday on my own as you get to do exactly what you want with no arguments.
I'm 26 lol, but I'm in the same boat, I'm one of them who likes to go clubbing, I'm not stupid and I can take really good care of myself, my mum is quite protective of me which is kind of embarrassing..... but I'll try and talk to them...
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Old 02-01-2017, 18:09
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I'm 26 lol, but I'm in the same boat, I'm one of them who likes to go clubbing, I'm not stupid and I can take really good care of myself, my mum is quite protective of me which is kind of embarrassing..... but I'll try and talk to them...
Are you an assertive or retiring character?

I only ask, because it sounds as though you still feel the need to ask your parents (seek permission) to do things.

If so, try just telling them that you are going on holiday, without the question.
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Old 02-01-2017, 18:15
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Are you an assertive or retiring character?

I only ask, because it sounds as though you still feel the need to ask your parents (seek permission) to do things.

If so, try just telling them that you are going on holiday, without the question.
I can be anxious sometimes, but this is something I've always wanted to do, I'm pretty sure that they can let me fly to Scotland then I could fly to Ibiza....
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Old 02-01-2017, 18:20
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I can be anxious sometimes, but this is something I've always wanted to do, I'm pretty sure that they can let me fly to Scotland then I could fly to Ibiza....
Then just let them know that you are going, rather than making it sound like a question to them
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Old 02-01-2017, 18:22
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I am assuming it took a lot of guts to actually post this, so I guess you have the guts to actually do something...just do it

No one on this site can help you make that decision. What are your fears

Travelling
Your parents
Fear of the unknown

all can be conquered...be strong and good luck
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Old 02-01-2017, 18:38
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I am assuming it took a lot of guts to actually post this, so I guess you have the guts to actually do something...just do it

No one on this site can help you make that decision. What are your fears

Travelling
Your parents
Fear of the unknown

all can be conquered...be strong and good luck
All they want to know is that I have enough money and I book all inclusive. Im not really worrying about anything I just want to go away and have a good time!!
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Old 02-01-2017, 18:54
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Hi all!

I'm seriously thinking of going to Ibiza on my own, I don't want to go with friends as last year they were miserable... I've also spoken to a friend who went on her own a couple of years ago and she had a brilliant time.. but I'm scared of asking my mum and dad as they'd probs say no.... but I'm 26 now and I need to be doing stuff like this on my own...

Please help!
unless you are expecting your parents to foot the bill why do you need their permission?

I was actually your age when I went to Ibiza on my own, I was just breaking up with someone and needed some space, saw a late deal in the travel agents as I was walking past, had holiday to use so off I went.

was easy to meet folk to talk to and I could do as I please, tough thing with holidaying with friends is you have to compromise and can't do as you please

only scary thing is I was sat on a bench near the harbour one afternoon after taking a walk and an old Spanish man sat down next to me, couldn't understand a word and when he got up he put his arm through mine and tried to drag me off with him :-o obvs he wasn't very successful
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Old 02-01-2017, 18:59
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All they want to know is that I have enough money and I book all inclusive. Im not really worrying about anything I just want to go away and have a good time!!
Unless you never plan on leaving the hotel the I wouldn't bother booking AI. If you are going to be out and about all day exploring and having a good time then I would just go B&B. It not as if there are any shortage of places to eat.

Parents, especially mothers, will always worry about you. It's part of their job in life. I'm 45 and my mum still worries about me when I go anywhere.
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Old 02-01-2017, 19:06
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Unless you've given them cause for concern in the past, I can't really see why they would be worried about their 26 year old grown daughter travelling by herself. My son started travelling at 18, interrailing around Europe - he's now 24, and currently in Finland after attending a New Year wedding.

Just go ahead and plan it - perhaps you could involve them a bit when you choose your accommodation / destination just so your parents feel reassured that you'll be somewhere safe and maybe you can keep in touch regularly when you're there. That's a good thing when you're a parent - hearing from your child regularly to know that they're ok
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Old 02-01-2017, 19:15
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All they want to know is that I have enough money and I book all inclusive.
Why on earth would they care about whether you book all-inclusive or not? Are they worried about you going to different restaurants or something?
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Old 02-01-2017, 19:23
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unless you are expecting your parents to foot the bill why do you need their permission?

I was actually your age when I went to Ibiza on my own, I was just breaking up with someone and needed some space, saw a late deal in the travel agents as I was walking past, had holiday to use so off I went.

was easy to meet folk to talk to and I could do as I please, tough thing with holidaying with friends is you have to compromise and can't do as you please

only scary thing is I was sat on a bench near the harbour one afternoon after taking a walk and an old Spanish man sat down next to me, couldn't understand a word and when he got up he put his arm through mine and tried to drag me off with him :-o obvs he wasn't very successful
I had a really rubbish year last year, I fell out with someone I thought was a best friend and then my other friends who I went to Ibiza made my life hell, which is one of the reasons why I would like to go on my own.

I'm one of them who loves music so I'll most likely be at ocean beach or Ibiza rocks or what ever.

I've just spoken to mum and she's told me to have a think about it. It looks promising 😂
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Old 02-01-2017, 20:27
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I have had a few holidays on my own, including going to Jamaica and Canada which were brilliant. I also went to Fuerteventura alone where I did have a scary experience of a wierdo following me around for a while, despite me going to different parts of the beach, he found me day after day. I snoozed one day to find him sitting on my towel next to me on the beach.......that aside I loved the holidays, just doing what I wanted, when I wanted. It was the "me time" I desperately needed.
Personally I would not have gone to bars or clubs on my own, perhaps that may give the wrong impression? ( I am very cautious after being attacked in Marbella before this) I was quite happy chatting to people in the hotel, or having a quiet meal and reading.
My only advice would be to not put yourself in a position of being vulnerable, stay where there are plenty of people, don't walk alone anywhere at night etc. All the usual things to stay safe.
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Old 02-01-2017, 22:22
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I had a really rubbish year last year, I fell out with someone I thought was a best friend and then my other friends who I went to Ibiza made my life hell, which is one of the reasons why I would like to go on my own.

I'm one of them who loves music so I'll most likely be at ocean beach or Ibiza rocks or what ever.

I've just spoken to mum and she's told me to have a think about it. It looks promising 😂
At your age I had already travelled to many countries.

I would just shop around and book something, then announce you are going on holiday on such & such date. I found it helpful to go half board rather than all inclusive, as after breakfast I was out most of the time, then returned for evening meal before changing & going out again

My friend advertises or answers ads for holiday buddies of the same sex, if you would be interested in something like that? If they are like minded, they book up either sharing a room or booking a room each & plan some days out together.

All inclusive is only good value if you plan to spend most of your holiday inside the hotel.
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Old 02-01-2017, 22:34
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I would recommend staying in a hotel for your first trip, it will give you a feeling of little more security and you will talk to people at the breakfast area ,bar etc.
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Old 02-01-2017, 22:42
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All they want to know is that I have enough money and I book all inclusive. Im not really worrying about anything I just want to go away and have a good time!!
All inclusive is great if you have young teens in tow who will eat like gannets all day.
If you're young and travelling solo you don't need the regimentation of set eating times in the same place each day - enjoy exploring and eating at leisure and watching eye candy pass by 🍷😜
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Old 02-01-2017, 23:50
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All inclusive is great if you have young teens in tow who will eat like gannets all day.
If you're young and travelling solo you don't need the regimentation of set eating times in the same place each day - enjoy exploring and eating at leisure and watching eye candy pass by 🍷😜
Everyone 3 or 4 years I go on one of my 'relaxation' holidays where I go all inclusive in a resort and barely leave the hotel all week. All I do is sit by the pool/beach, read my books, drink cocktails and generally relax. It's great.
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Old 03-01-2017, 18:24
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Slightly wonder by your stating that you are 26 but still seem to be asking permission of your mother and father. You're and adult and you don't need permission from parents

As a young 20-something I did lots of Euro-rail tours on my own and holidaying by yourself can be a great way to see things as you're free to go about and visit and see things without having to get friends or partners to come along and not just stay in the hotel room
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Old 03-01-2017, 19:01
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I'm 26 lol, but I'm in the same boat, I'm one of them who likes to go clubbing, I'm not stupid and I can take really good care of myself, my mum is quite protective of me which is kind of embarrassing..... but I'll try and talk to them...
If you're 26, you're old enough to know that you don't need to use the term 'lol' in your life anymore.
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Old 03-01-2017, 19:18
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If you're 26, you're old enough to know that you don't need to use the term 'lol' in your life anymore.
So 'lol' isn't allowed but emoticons are?
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Old 03-01-2017, 19:18
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So 'lol' isn't allowed but emoticons are?
That is correct!

...not that it's a matter of what is allowed or not, but 'lol' commonly associates with immaturity. Emotions (or emoji's) reflect an emotion, or have a more specific use.
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Old 03-01-2017, 20:11
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That is correct!

...not that it's a matter of what is allowed or not, but 'lol' commonly associates with immaturity. Emotions (or emoji's) reflect an emotion, or have a more specific use.
Where did you read that? because not really convinced it's true.
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Old 03-01-2017, 20:27
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Where did you read that? because not really convinced it's true.
I didn't read it anywhere. I'm living the knowledge. It may be circumstantial and dependant on location, but I don't know any adults that still use the term; in my years, it was a teen phase.
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Old 03-01-2017, 20:31
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I didn't read it anywhere. I'm living the knowledge. It may be circumstantial and dependant on location, but I don't know any adults that still use the term; in my years, it was a teen phase.
I'm 32 and still use it occasionally, obviously when I find something funny or letting other posters know I'm not being serious.

I follow a lot of adults on twitter who still uses it as well, fair enough if that's what you believe but it can also reflect an emotion.
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