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Old 03-01-2017, 20:35
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But to the OP if you want to go by yourself then do it, don't let anyone stop you. Wish I had the self confidence to travel alone too.
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Old 03-01-2017, 20:36
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I'm 32 and still use it occasionally, obviously when I find something funny or letting other posters know I'm not being serious.
I usually go with the more obvious haha.

Each to their own though.

But to the OP if you want to go by yourself then do it, don't let anyone stop you. Wish I had the self confidence to travel alone too.
I can relate to this. I'd love to travel, but I don't think I'd want to go solo.
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Old 03-01-2017, 20:48
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I can relate to this. I'd love to travel, but I don't think I'd want to go solo.
If travelling abroad on your own feels like too much do you think you could manage a couple of days away in this country?

It can be very liberating to wander around a new city where nobody knows (or cares) who you are and you can do exactly what you want. It seems a shame to miss out on seeing things you want just because you don't know anyone who wants to go with you.
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Old 03-01-2017, 20:49
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I usually go with the more obvious haha.

Each to their own though.

I can relate to this. I'd love to travel, but I don't think I'd want to go solo.
Think I'm just used to saying 'lol' I type it without thinking, but I don't say it as much now, have started using 'haha' as well

I do have bad anxiety, can't even walk in the city without feeling like people are staring at me, so I can imagine travelling alone would make the anxiety attacks come on worse. Maybe one day I should at least try.
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Old 03-01-2017, 23:04
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I didn't read it anywhere. I'm living the knowledge. It may be circumstantial and dependant on location, but I don't know any adults that still use the term; in my years, it was a teen phase.
"I'm living the knowledge - I don't say "lol" any more".
Well look at you - how cool and grown up you've become 😎
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Old 04-01-2017, 14:23
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If travelling abroad on your own feels like too much do you think you could manage a couple of days away in this country?
It's not so much the destination for me. I think I'd just get bored. I'm guess I'm more an introvert than an extrovert; am fine with friends, family and people I know, but never quite sure how to go a about striking up a conversation with a total stranger. Some people have no problem with it. I am not one of those people.

I sometimes go for walks and cycle rides by myself; and I feel good for doing so, though company is preferable.

I do have bad anxiety, can't even walk in the city without feeling like people are staring at me, so I can imagine travelling alone would make the anxiety attacks come on worse. Maybe one day I should at least try.
I have no experience with anxiety, so I can't speak on experience here. Is there a cause for yours? At least one that you're willing to state here?

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Old 04-01-2017, 16:46
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Think I'm just used to saying 'lol' I type it without thinking, but I don't say it as much now, have started using 'haha' as well

I do have bad anxiety, can't even walk in the city without feeling like people are staring at me, so I can imagine travelling alone would make the anxiety attacks come on worse. Maybe one day I should at least try.
The big problem I still have is eating alone, it's strange because I travel a lot on business and find myself eating alone in hotels across the world often.

But when traveling for leisure it seems different, lunchtime is fine, you stop in a café where there are lots of professional men and women having dinner many alone

But of an evening go down to dinner where there are lots of families eating together you feel kind of isolated by yourself. So I often stay at business hotels when I'm travelling even for leisure
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Old 04-01-2017, 18:43
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I have no experience with anxiety, so I can't speak on experience here. Is there a cause for yours? At least one that you're willing to state here?
Hard to say really, it certainly got worse as I got older and spending so much time on my own doesn't help. My anxiety can get so bad I feel dizzy and unable to speak.

Since school people made fun of the way I look and talk, still happens occasionally. So that makes me feel anxious when I'm around strangers and meeting new people because my mind just tells me they're all staring at me and making fun.
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Old 04-01-2017, 18:47
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Since school people made fun of the way I look and talk, still happens occasionally. So that makes me feel anxious when I'm around strangers and meeting new people because my mind just tells me they're all staring at me and making fun.
Do you mind me asking what's wrong (if anything) with the way you look and talk?
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Old 04-01-2017, 18:58
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Do you mind me asking what's wrong (if anything) with the way you look and talk?
I've always had a bit of a speech impediment and as for my looks I know I'm not the best looking, been told enough times as well

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Old 04-01-2017, 19:08
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I've always had a bit of a speech impediment and as for my looks I know I'm not the best looking, been told enough times as well.
Well, which is it? A Lisp, Stuttering? Tourette's? Do you walk around swearing at people?

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Doesn't look like anything drastically wrong with you to me. I wouldn't say I'm the best looking guy around either (average at best), but I suspect you're letting the naysayers get to you more than you should?
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Old 04-01-2017, 19:15
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Well, which is it? A Lisp, Stuttering? Tourette's? Do you walk around swearing at people?

Doesn't look like anything drastically wrong with you to me. I wouldn't say I'm the best looking guy around either (average at best), but I suspect you're letting the naysayers get to you more than you should?
I wish it was swearing at people lol (sorry) Nah I just have difficulty saying certain words or pronouncing it clearly. Personally I wouldn't say I am hideous, just how people have made me feel. But when enough people beat you down, it's hard getting back up.

Feel like I've hijacked this thread sorry op.
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Old 04-01-2017, 19:19
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I wish it was swearing at people lol (sorry) Nah I just have difficulty saying certain words or pronouncing it clearly. Personally I wouldn't say I am hideous, just how people have made me feel. But when enough people beat you down, it's hard getting back up.
Yeah, I can sympathise with that, though more often than not, the people kicking you down are doing so only because it helps them cope with their own demons. It's easier to slate other people rather than looking in the mirror, right? Whatever these naysayers are saying to you, there's a good chance they're dealing with their own shit and see you as an easy target. Don't take any notice of them; they aren't worth the time of day (and yes, I know that's easier said than done, but I'm an optimistic fella).

Feel like I've hijacked this thread sorry op.
My apologies also.
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Old 04-01-2017, 19:19
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The big problem I still have is eating alone, it's strange because I travel a lot on business and find myself eating alone in hotels across the world often.

But when traveling for leisure it seems different, lunchtime is fine, you stop in a café where there are lots of professional men and women having dinner many alone

But of an evening go down to dinner where there are lots of families eating together you feel kind of isolated by yourself. So I often stay at business hotels when I'm travelling even for leisure
I know what you mean; whenever I holiday alone I tend to just pick up a snack for dinner in the evenings rather than go for a full meal. I'm ok sitting outside having lunch by myself watching the world go by but I struggle to enjoy a evening meal alone.

Unless i'm staying all-inclusive somewhere then I have no issue just going down to the buffet and eating something before sitting in the bar with a book and cocktail.
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Old 04-01-2017, 21:24
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The big problem I still have is eating alone, it's strange because I travel a lot on business and find myself eating alone in hotels across the world often.

But when traveling for leisure it seems different, lunchtime is fine, you stop in a café where there are lots of professional men and women having dinner many alone

But of an evening go down to dinner where there are lots of families eating together you feel kind of isolated by yourself. So I often stay at business hotels when I'm travelling even for leisure
Which is why all inclusive is not the best solution. Eating alone on a lovely warm evening at a pavement cafe, at a time you choose, a venue you like the look of, whilst reading a book or people watching, wouldn't be considered strange compared to a solo diner in a busy, family orientated hotel restaurant.
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Old 04-01-2017, 22:43
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Which is why all inclusive is not the best solution. Eating alone on a lovely warm evening at a pavement cafe, at a time you choose, a venue you like the look of, whilst reading a book or people watching, wouldn't be considered strange compared to a solo diner in a busy, family orientated hotel restaurant.
Also, "solo young woman always hanging around in the hotel bar" might have her intentions misinterpreted (or, say, want an excuse to avoid another guest).
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Old 04-01-2017, 22:54
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Also, "solo young woman always hanging around in the hotel bar" might have her intentions misinterpreted (or, say, want an excuse to avoid another guest).
I guess it depends on the type of hotel, usually Business hotels there may may be one or two women there, usually with a laptop and are there because they'd rather be downstairs than just in the room.

To be fair I've never really had problems sitting in a hotel bar with a book or a laptop, usually that's a good indication that you'd prefer not to be disturbed though there's sometimes going to be one or two who don't take the hint
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Old 04-01-2017, 23:20
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Also, "solo young woman always hanging around in the hotel bar" might have her intentions misinterpreted (or, say, want an excuse to avoid another guest).
Some female friends who travel solo take a cheap blingy ring with them which they can pop on to ward off unwanted attention.
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Some female friends who travel solo take a cheap blingy ring with them which they can pop on to ward off unwanted attention.
And, of course, quickly pop off.
Or they could just deal with it assertively.
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