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How has she played with his head??

She is bisexual, not lesbian.

She is attracted to both sexes and her feelings are most likely genuinie.

Get over it

Blahhhhhhhhhhhh

Jeeze... now Lee is saying that he is gutted that Adele has a g/f! Pillock. Adele is squirming like mad and trying to cool his feelings - she has got herself into a situation she is seriously regretting, yet has the nerve to keep digging by saying that she really really fancied him from day one... now she is saying she's never had sex with either a man or woman! She is waiting for the right person! She never lets people touch her, ever.... in her words. I think she is sooooo mixed up. Now she is saying she has a g/f to avoid being pressurised into having sex with a man. She says she is totally confused about her feelings, but thinks she is still normal. She asks Lee not to tell anyone. Lee says it's 'private shit'... YET SHE IS SAYING THIS ALL OVER THE INTERNET!!!! B I G M I S TA K E !!!! Lee respects her for that, OK. Lee shagged a bird while her b/f was downstairs, and kept going back for more! He can't believe she is still a virgin. His brain is totally scrambled now! He says he is really frustrated. Adele admits she doesn't see herself with a girlfriend long term, but with a man she trusts. She is in for a very rude awakening. But when she is now hit by the fact she has given all her secrets away to millions... will she still feel OK about it. Lee just keeps harping on about feeling frustrated and it being so hard to deal with, and how gutted he is especially as he has made a fool of himself on TV... His head is in his hands because he, I suppose, has publicly fallen madly in love wih her and his testosterone levels are massive - GET OVER IT LEE, GROW UP AND START BEHAVING LIKE A MAN, NOT A DEJECTED 15 YEAR OLD!!! Now Adele is saying her g/f is great... BUT! How is this poor g/f feeling now? Pretty shattered I'd think...
I suppose I admire Adele for her openess - Lee is not helping by saying it's OK - he just keeps repeating it's madness - implying I think that she is mad - he cannot understand her reluctance to having sex with anyone - viz HIM!
OH BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Is this gonna make the tabloid headlines Saturday or Sunday?!!!! Adele is a bisexual virgin, and Lee's bollocks are at bursting point, but she has given him the big E!
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Maybe that's why they call me *evil* Chris

Think i might have to change my name from Angel to The Real Wrong,
somehow it doesn't quite work though does it

I know a girl who has a boyfriend but is a member of the LGB society at uni. She is bisexual but in a different-sex relationship at the moment, but that doesn't make her straight.

To use only two labels 'gay' or 'straight' is often comforting if we want to make ourselves feel like we belong to a certain group, but they by no means provide an exhaustive means to categorise people!

I really hope you are joking. You say that the sex of the person someone sleep with determines their sexuality? And you say that there's no such thing as bisexual?

Get. A. F*cking. Grip.

I'm sorry if that offends, but do you really really believe what you wrote?

Same goes for you sir-drinks-a-lot, you can't base a judgement on someone on their sexuality, and don't bring god and the bible into this discussion. I'm sure there's plenty of other people on here who would be happy to get into the sexuality/religion debate like I would but here isn't the place.

Questions posted by MizzChief


"How has she played with his head??"

By not telling him she had a lover straight away and letting him
think he was in with a chance.

"She is bisexual, not lesbian."

I did not mention her sexuality. It is irrelevant to my point.

"She is attracted to both sexes and her feelings are most likely genuinie".

What feelings GET REAL
they have only known each other five minutes

"Get over it
Blahhhhhhhhhhh

Get over what???

I too know bisexual people who are in both kinds of relationships - either same sex or different sex, and have had both kinds of relationships in the past.

If I have to label myself I would probably choose queer - as in something that isn't straight. That way noone can argue and I don't have to define it further

Bloody 'ell, now IM confused!!!

I think its all part of Adele's game plan to be honest. Probably hoping to be the Helen/Paul of BB£.....i dont think!!

Ahhhh, now that WAS true love.....

Sorry but I don't think she's played with his head, if he cared about his girlfriend he shouldn't be thinking he had a chance with her anyway! Did he ever ask her if she was single? Does he care? We don't know.

As for feelings - I would guess that she fancies him. That doesn't take long to tell...

When i say Adele played with his head im not implying Sympathy for Lee whatsoever.
He deserves to be ripped to peices anyhows.
I think she was testing him out and he blew it.
Maybe she does fancy him but it must surely be only
a physical attraction as the lad hasent much else going for him
imho
He cant possibly be the nice person she's looking for. He was
gagging for it from the word go and with a 3 year relationship outside thats he shows scant regard for.

I think you need to get real... If you are a mature adult and your sexual partner is the same sex how can u not be gay? What is the problem with that? "My sexual partner is same sex, but I am not gay". Really? Of course there are bisexuals, but as far as i am concerned a bisexual is gay... if u wanna say u are bisexual then fine... but as long as you have gay sex you are also gay. I have no problems with anyone being gay, but I do have a serious problem with people who are doing gay ppl a diservice by implying they are better than gays because they have sex with anyone, which makes them somehow more normal.

You have quite obviously not thought this through properly. Who you are currently having sex with does not define your sexuality.

So I'm doing gay people a disservice by not necessarily wanting to call myself gay? Really. Well thank you so much for telling me I'm a bad person.

I've spent time doing things for the LGBT community, at uni and in general. I can tell you know that there are people who don't like to classify themselves based on who they have sex with. Some people classify themselves as 'curious'. Well, fine, whatever. You, however, are as good as saying that bisexual people are those that are gay but don't have the courage to say it.

I'm probably not the only person here to be offended by that.

Indeed. To pigeon hole everyone who's ever had a same-sex relationship as gay is no more valid than to pigeon hole everyone who's ever had a opposite-sex relationship as heterosexual. There are people who are gay, there are people who are straight, and there are people who are somewhere in between.

One of the oft-used definitions of gay/straight is that if you most often fantisise and most often have sex with same-sex partners then you are "gay", and if you most often have sex and most often fantisise about opposite-sex partners you are "straight" - that does provide two clear groupings of people if that's what people want to do - but it doesn't mean there's no such thing as bi-sexual, it merely allows for a grouping of those people into one or other "side". In my opinion, that creates false divisions between people - people are people, people have sexualities - but that doesn't impact at all on what sort of person they are or how they act, and to group people into two groups encourages stereotyping, segregation, and the propogation of bigotry.

Call it what you want - straight, hetero-leaning bi-curious, bi, homo-leaning bi-curious, gay... there we go, just off the top of my head i've come up with five different groupings and i'm sure if I put my mind to it I could come up with a hundred more. It's pointless to try and pigeonhole people, and not fair on them at all.

That's my opinion on it anyway. Complex issue.

Mark

Oh Cerberus... you're clearly such an expert and know so much more, better, bigger, than anyone else can. I humbly defer to your expertise in this area of sexuality that no one else could know as much or more about, or have thought through as thoroughly as you and your peers in your many meetings and working parties on behalf of anybody who is anything and does not wish to be labelled as one thing or another or anything in particular as it might be offensive to some.

There's no need for that at all, I was merely pointing out that what you said was offensive.

That's all I'm saying just now otherwise I'll probably get myself banned.

It's not the label that's offensive - it's the pigeon holing. If someone identifies themselves as gay, they're gay, if someone identifies themselves as straight, fine - so why is it ok to say anyone who is in between is gay? That's why it's offensive.

It's not offensive that they're being called gay (well, at least, I wouldn't take someone calling me gay as offensive I'd just correct them), but to say that someone has to be labelled as gay because they have, at some point, had a same-sex experience is just wrong, and that's where the offence comes in.

Mark

If you want a balanced and neutral opinion read Mark Hughes.
He lays down some fundamentals.

Re: Adele shocker, ah...

I cannot understand how a discussion on Big Brother has come to this. It sems to come from a lack of understanding.

No one has the right to say what sexual orientation the other is. If a married guy who loves his wife has sex with a guy - is he gay - of course not. If a guy says he's bisexual - let us respect that that is the description he has of his sexual orientation, with out gettin into an arguement that he's wrong to define himself that way.

back to Big Brother - if someone sems to be stating that we should vote Adele out because she is a lesbian or bisexual, then that is homophobia - it cannot be defended - and I assume that that individual willl be banned form DS, just as someone who makes racist comments would be - for contraveneing the terms and conditions. It is simply not acceptable.

Lets put it simply... you're a complete ****

erm I think you'll find that you are wrong and racdism and homophobia are not tolerate either ina decent society or in DS. No ris advocating hatred and punitive action to people because fo their sexual orientation - so you find yourself voted out of DS.

This sort of comment is not at all welcome here. ANY further comment even close to this will result in your posting rights being permanently removed.

This is your first and only warning. We will not allow homophobic religious crap to be posted to this forum.

Mark

I'm more shocked by the fact that Adele is a virgin!!!

Yeah, that's just wrong. We should vote her out for that!

First, there are many many gay men married and living otherwise straight lives. Straight and gay and bisexual ARE labels and that is what we use as humans to pigeon hole people into various categories, like it or not, we do, you do, everyone does. It's a simple way we humans do things, and we always will. I am, you are, he is, she is, they are..... whatever.

Many gay ppl are proud to stand up and be labelled. You see, it's a form of identification. It's not intended to be a dirty label which what some ppl assume it is to be labelled as gay, or even bisexual. You ppl would have the whole scene go back in the closet and have the straight community go back to labels like shirt lifters and benders because you think all labels, even gay and queer, are non-pc. I can just see it on the equal opportunities forms. How would you describe yourself... oh no... we can't do that, then we have to have labels for ppl. Hmmm.... maybe we can have symbols instead of words because ppl do not want to label themselves for what they are?

When you are comfortable with your sexuality you will not find the label offensive, altho' you would if you are still having problems with it. Just don't then start telling the world that you are uncomfortable with the label, so we should all stop labelling.... and then what?

As for homophobia, what is all that about? This is not a discussion about homophobia, just your interpretation, why? It did not harm Anna or Brian to be GAY, they didn't mind the label? I for one do not respect or like or dislike any character in the house because they are gay or straight or bisexual or virgins or whatever.

Whatever sexual persuasion you are, go on, give yourself a label, stick it on a poster, live with it, be proud of what you are and stop pussy footing around with intellectual philosophical discussions about the whole unfairness of being pigeon holed.