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“Originally posted by Big Knickers
Are you saying that Alex has the monopoly on moaning? I don't think so. Yes he did rant the first week, but I think he had some good points and was just trying to get certain things straight. I didn't hear anyone saying "but we like sitting in someone elses wee on the toilet seat". Unfortunately the hm's who agreed with him chose to keep their mouths shut and let him take all the crap (so to speak). ”
The problem with Alex's hygine huff was not what it was about, or what he wanted people to do, but how he did it. Instead of saying "look, we have to live together and I'd really rather not be thinking of you lot weeing in the shower when I'm in there, so couldn't you just hang on or go before you go in there?"...when people then teased him or whatever he needed to not get angry (despite staying polite it was obvious he was angry) and instead have a rational argument to deflate people making fun...something like "you do know that the u-bend on a shower isn't really designed to deal with effluent" or "Geesh, imagine if we all did that, the place would stink"...someting, anything rather than just seeming to freak out over the idea.
All through, it's not that anything Alex has raised as an issue has been wrong, but time after time he fails to think how his words will impact the other person and fails to therefore choose his words sensitively...for someone who is very sensitive himself this doesn't sit well with others, and he's old enough to realise that.