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Old 19-06-2006, 12:37
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Would you?

There's a gig I really want to go to next month, but I literally can not find one person who wants to go with me. The thing is though, I really don't mind going by myself, that's how much I want to see this band, and it doesn't bother me. But is it the done thing? I just don't know. It's at the Astoria in London, and from what I can tell, it's in the cosy, small bit, so I think maybe that'll make it more ok, it's not like it's in a big arena or anything.

Have you been to concerts alone?
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Old 19-06-2006, 12:43
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Yes once, and quite honestly either people will start talking to you (or vice versa) or they are so wrapped up in the music they won't notice you and certainly won't care you are by yourself. So go for it and...... enjoy
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Old 19-06-2006, 12:43
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I haven't been to one before but i don't think i would mind if i couldn't find anyone to go with me (although my hubby would come and see anything with me). If it is someone you are a big fan of and you are fairly confident you should have no problem in chatting to other fans sat next to you. I always end up chatting to people because you know you have something in common with them.

Who are you going to see?
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Old 19-06-2006, 12:55
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I wouldn't worry about going by yourself I've gone to loads of gigs alone and you can either strike up conversations with other fans or take the opportunity to really let your hair down without looking like a fool infront of people that know you
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Old 19-06-2006, 13:06
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I went to see Kylie last year by myself - met loads of people in the queue waiting outside & had a great time! You'll be absolutely fine. IMO it's always better to go by yourself rather than dragging someone along who won't enjoy it as much as you!
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Old 19-06-2006, 13:21
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I dont think I could go to a concert alone, I tend to panic in big crowds on my own. Lucky my kids are always up for being dragged along if need be
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Old 19-06-2006, 13:23
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I've been to quite a few gigs alone - I just seem to have really varied taste in music to a lot of my friends and seem to end up at a lot of gigs alone - but still enjoy them loads! ...

The last one was Snow Patrol at Cardiff Uni a few weeks ago - amazing gig and managed to get right to the front...

On the whole it would be good to get friends or other people you know to go along - as all you want to do afterwards is tell people how amazing/rubbish it was and it's not the same if they weren't there!

I'm sure i've seen websites online for finding people who have tickets for future gigs and you can get in touch before hand and meet new like-minded-music-mates!

Do a google search... Let me know how you get on...
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Old 19-06-2006, 13:52
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go for it... I've replied to a similar thread ages ago, and I think that going to gigs alone is great...

personally, I always push forward anyway so I always get separated from whoever I go with, but I've actually been to plenty on my own... I actually kind of prefer it, means I can concentrate more on the music.. it's less fun to drag someone along who's less interested, and who will probably end up playing with their phone all night or something...

you can always start talking to someone nearby anyway, since you're all going to be into the same music! I had a great conversation with a couple of Irish guys before Tool at Hammersmith Apollo last week... certainly killed some time before the show
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Old 19-06-2006, 14:22
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Tend to agree, I have been to loads of concerts alone. You often find you'll get chatting to the person next to you about the artist you are going to see. So I wouldn't worry too much about it. Go to the concert and enjoy yourself
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Old 19-06-2006, 14:37
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I've been to loads of concerts on my own. Face it, when you're in there and the music is playing you can't exactly have a conversation can you? There's no problem in going alone, plus you know you're not with somebody who maybe doesn't like whoever is on, so you're with like-minded people and can just go nuts if the mood takes you
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Old 19-06-2006, 15:01
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I am going to see Will Young in Brum on my own next September. No problem for me as I have always gone to the cinema or theatre on my own when it is something I want to see and no-one else wants to go. As it happens someone I know (vaguely) is sitting next to me!
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Old 19-06-2006, 15:37
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Originally Posted by twilight2005
I dont think I could go to a concert alone, I tend to panic in big crowds on my own. Lucky my kids are always up for being dragged along if need be
If I ever get to have kids, that's exactly what I'm gonna do!!
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Old 19-06-2006, 16:12
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i hate going to gigs alone but somtimes you jsut gotta. most of my friends dont share my taste in music
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Old 19-06-2006, 17:33
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Originally Posted by Dominatrix_Bex
I had a great conversation with a couple of Irish guys before Tool at Hammersmith Apollo last week... certainly killed some time before the show
Ooh I went to that gig last week as well, on the first night, snap!
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Old 19-06-2006, 20:06
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Ive never gone to a gig on my own but I would. I dont mind the thought of the actual gig on my own but the only bit that bothers me is while youre waiting for the band to come on stage. I'm shy and cant imagine striking up conversation with a stranger yet I'd feel an idiot if I ended up standing there alone among groups of people.
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Old 19-06-2006, 20:10
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Originally Posted by sleepydove
Ive never gone to a gig on my own but I would. I dont mind the thought of the actual gig on my own but the only bit that bothers me is while youre waiting for the band to come on stage. I'm shy and cant imagine striking up conversation with a stranger yet I'd feel an idiot if I ended up standing there alone among groups of people.
that is the great dilemma... one side you think "we are all fans of the same band" but then on the other hand the person might think "why is this tosser talking to me? where are their friends?"
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Old 19-06-2006, 20:41
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Originally Posted by missglitter
Would you?

There's a gig I really want to go to next month, but I literally can not find one person who wants to go with me.
What gig is it? If it's someone good then I'll come with you.
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Old 19-06-2006, 20:57
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Originally Posted by missglitter
Ooh I went to that gig last week as well, on the first night, snap!

cool! they were f**king amazing weren't they?!

what is the gig you're wanting to go to next month by the way???
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Old 19-06-2006, 21:44
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Most of the gigs I've been to I go on my own.

Sometimes my wife comes with me - but we usually can't get babysitters.

I don't really know anyone else who wants to go & to be honest it leaves me free to decide if I want to be in the crowd, down at the front or back where it's less crowded.

Some bands I've been to see on my own:
Rush
UFO
Peter Green - Splinter Group / John Mayall's Bluesbreakers
Robert Plant (twice)
Blue Oyster Cult
Coheed and Cambria
Patti Smith (twice)
The Sensational Alex Harvey Band

I've enjoyed them all.
The SAHB concert was last Friday & today I saw someone at work who had bene there - they hadn't liked it & I was so glad I had been there on my own instead of having them moaning beside me about how it wasn't their taste.

Go for it - go to the gig & enjoy it. Treat yourself before or after it, get something nice to eat & relax. Move at your own pace.
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Old 19-06-2006, 23:19
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I've been to loads of gigs on my own. No problems at all!

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Old 19-06-2006, 23:23
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I think I replied to a similar thread saying the same thing, but if you really want to see a band then you won't be spending time talking to the people you'd be going with anyway. If the standing alone bit beforehand really worries you you could always just turn up late-ish, just before the band are on
I've been to gigs alone and always have a good time regardless, I've also had people just start talking to me who are on their own when I've been with friends- it's no big deal really, it shows dedication
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Old 20-06-2006, 00:01
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I frequently go to gigs alone. At first because I don't know too many people locally who share my taste in music, but more recently I've found I often actually prefer to go alone.

I can stand where I want, wander around without worrying about losing/ignoring/upsetting people I'm with and just get on with enjoying myself in a totally selfish way without feeling I'm in any way responsible for anyone elses good time.

I always feel as soon as you join the queue to get into a venue, you're among friends and I've met and chatted to loads of friendly, interesting, entertaining people - some of whom I've kept in touch with.

Don't be scared to go alone - it's great.
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Old 20-06-2006, 09:12
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I think it depends... "Smaller" city-based gigs are really good to go to on your own... But I don't think it's as good going to festival or "bigger" gigs like Glasontbury, T in The Park, Creamfields, etc... For that sort of thing i think having some mates around is probably better and maybe safer... especially for those times in between sets and band-changes...
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Old 20-06-2006, 10:44
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If you're that worried make up a fake laminate, have about six camera's around your neck, and look busy!
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Old 20-06-2006, 14:44
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Originally Posted by the_quarterback
I think it depends... "Smaller" city-based gigs are really good to go to on your own... But I don't think it's as good going to festival or "bigger" gigs like Glasontbury, T in The Park, Creamfields, etc... For that sort of thing i think having some mates around is probably better and maybe safer... especially for those times in between sets and band-changes...
No, I don't agree.
For the last couple of years my Glastonbury companion has been my son who goes off to do his own thing being far more interested in circus and 'performing arts' than music.

I've had some of my favourite festival moments sitting on my own in a field watching the world go by and waiting for something to happen.

Maybe there's something about being on your own that makes people feel that you're more approachable or something (or maybe they just feel sorry for me) but I've never really felt short of company.
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