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Having Kids And Working
So like.......do you have kids and work? Or do you just have one, or none?
I was wondering after that guy(I have forgotton his name already! ) said how he missed his son, I thought it was quite sweet personally, that he could admit he wasn't the best one for the job because of that. Also, do people without kids in the workplace sometimes resent those that do? Like, if they get time off for taking kids to dentist/doctor etc? |
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A few months after I was born my single mother was working six days a week (night shifts) as a nurse.
Luckily, my Grandmother helped out.
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He was right to be fired really becuase if he was going to perform like that for the rest of the time then he might as well not be there, i understand too that he missed his son, so it was best he was let go.
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I have a 7 month old baby, I haven't gone back to work yet... its more a case of not being able to afford to go to work (and pay childcare) than of not being able to afford not to work. And I'm glad of it too.
But yeah, mums get stick for having to take time off if their kids are ill etc...I've seen that. |
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You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Depends if you have an understanding/flexible employer but then there's always the colleagues that resent the extra time off the parent has to have at the drop of a hat, the inability to work over and other people having to cover their role aswell as there own. I've seen it and experienced as one of those colleagues who have had to cover another role far too frequently and have heard of many others moaning about it too. Now I'm a mom myself and looking at going back to work I'm really conscious of it to the point of paranoia that I can't be flexible, I'm going to have to take time off if my son is ill, need the school holidays off etc etc.
It's very hard to get a balance. It's almost like you have to sacrifice one or the other to either be a great parent or have a successful career. I choose great mom first and foremost and now I just need to find a career that will fit round that. I think it's even harder and a lot more pressure for men, they are expected to put their jobs first otherwise they will just get nowhere. However pro-family companies claim to be - if their employees can't work until 10pm, travel or go away for conferences etc when they need to they just won't get anywhere. Last edited by Rugby Rose : 04-04-2007 at 23:20. |
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for me it's a question of not being able to afford not to work! To be honest I would anyway, I need mental stimulation
I was very supported and pretty lucky when it came to going back to work - I know it's more difficult for others and don't take my good fortune for granted |
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I found it very difficult. Balancing the guilt was my main issue. I have a commitment and loyalty to my colleagues and I want to do my job well but I have an even bigger commitment and loyalty to my children. I felt guilty because I didn’t feel I was doing both well. I felt really stressed and my boss didn’t really understand. In the end I changed jobs. I now work less hours, more flexibly and I am able to work at home but it is a less demanding position and I earn less. I was lucky, because situations changed and we were able to cope with my pay cut – It really is difficult and I admire those who cope with it successfully.
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) said how he missed his son, I thought it was quite sweet personally, that he could admit he wasn't the best one for the job because of that. 
