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Old 16-10-2007, 16:58
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2 months ago my 38 year old wife joined the local Hockey club.
3 weeks ago I came home early from work to find her in the shower with one of her younger team mates.
She said it was a mistake and we made up and everything went back to 'normal'.
We have always been 100% faithful to each other after 21 years of marriage.[2 kids].
Last Sunday I received a phone call form a fellow Hockey player saying my wife had left the club in her car with 2 women and that her car was parked in a clearing in a wooded area with the bonnet up and this caller went to investigate and heard giggling from over a wall and down in this wooded area was my wife with these 2 women.
She went on to describe in graphic detail what these 2 women were doing to my wife.
When she came home she went straight in the shower, saying they were not working at the club and I later noticed scratch marks on her back....she said these came from the Hockey match when the ball went in some brambles.
I know she is lying to me and I can't bear it......What should I do ?.
I am at the end of my tether...Can't sleep properly....She has never been like this and I can't believe her behaviour.
Please help... thnks , Mike 41..South Gloucestershire.


P.s She has just told me she has an away match on Sunday and that she is taking her car as she has to give some people a lift to the game.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:02
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I think you already know the answers, to all the questions running around in your head. But it all depends on what you want the solution to be.

Not wishing to rub salt into the wound is she taking the car so that you have no way of following her
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:05
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Come on, you have to take advantage of this situation. No seriously, get in there.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:06
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Nice

Get in there
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:09
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What should I do ?.
Explain to your horny wife that you are an emotional wreck, and only a foursome would make you feel better.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:09
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*waits to read housewife's advice*
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:09
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I've got to be honest, if that was my bugger, she'd be out on her ear.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:11
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I've got to be honest, if that was my bugger, she'd be out on her ear.
Some sense!

Any form if infidelity should not be tolerated if one of the parties isn't happy with the situation.

Who cares if it's a woman with a woman or another man! If you feel betrayed I would confront her. If not what is the alternative? Live in denial ... hardly the happy marriage/relationship then!
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:12
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this post sounds like an extract from a bad porn movie....sounds like the OP wants some attention.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:14
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2 months ago my 38 year old wife joined the local Hockey club.
3 weeks ago I came home early from work to find her in the shower with one of her younger team mates.
She said it was a mistake and we made up and everything went back to 'normal'.
We have always been 100% faithful to each other after 21 years of marriage.[2 kids].
Last Sunday I received a phone call form a fellow Hockey player saying my wife had left the club in her car with 2 women and that her car was parked in a clearing in a wooded area with the bonnet up and this caller went to investigate and heard giggling from over a wall and down in this wooded area was my wife with these 2 women.
She went on to describe in graphic detail what these 2 women were doing to my wife.
When she came home she went straight in the shower, saying they were not working at the club and I later noticed scratch marks on her back....she said these came from the Hockey match when the ball went in some brambles.
I know she is lying to me and I can't bear it......What should I do ?.
I am at the end of my tether...Can't sleep properly....She has never been like this and I can't believe her behaviour.
Please help... thnks , Mike 41..South Gloucestershire.


P.s She has just told me she has an away match on Sunday and that she is taking her car as she has to give some people a lift to the game.
Your wifes gay (or at least bisexual) - boot her arse out for cheating on you, explain to the kids you still love them, still remain good friends with the wife.

Thats the only advice I can think of - I thought this was the obvious thing to do?
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:16
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TBH once she's had a sweet taste from the furry cup, you may as well call it a day cos she won't be back for more of yours...sorry
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:16
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I really think you need to talk to your wife - I don't think people are being very nice here, if he'd found her with another bloke you wouldn't be saying this. OP although it may be difficult you've got to tell her everything that you've heard/are thinking.

Why did the other hockey player call you and tell you - how did she get your number - do you know them too?
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:18
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TBH once she's had a sweet taste from the furry cup, you may as well call it a day cos she won't be back for more of yours...sorry
LOL!
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:20
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first post......graphic "dear deirdre" raunchy marital problems...I suppose we have to give him the benefit of the doubt....nah - can't be arsed

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Old 16-10-2007, 17:21
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this post sounds like an extract from a bad porn movie....sounds like the OP wants some attention.

Does seem a bit strange that someone joins just to post their first thread in advice and a pretty sensational thread at that.

But then, it could be an existing DSer who doesn't want his own username used.

Or it could be someone who has lurked for years and has just joined today or this month because he wants advice.

I could be being very gullible here but I will err on the side of caution and assume this is a genuine thread.

OP if your wife's infidelity is something that you cannot tolerate then you know the answer to the situation. If you think your marriage is worth saving then you must sit her down and talk to her about how her behaviour is effecting you and if you agree to give her another chance then you will need to set limits, such as she must quit the Hockey team. Now I don't normally advocate telling your OH that they must or must not do something but she has broken your trust and if she genuinely wants to work at the marriage then she will agree to quit the Hockey team as this is where the temptation appears to be coming from.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:22
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I really think you need to talk to your wife - I don't think people are being very nice here, if he'd found her with another bloke you wouldn't be saying this. OP although it may be difficult you've got to tell her everything that you've heard/are thinking.

Why did the other hockey player call you and tell you - how did she get your number - do you know them too?
I know the person who called...I see her when I sometimes pick the kids up...she knows my wife as her son plays for my sons' football club
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:26
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I know the person who called...I see her when I sometimes pick the kids up...she knows my wife as her son plays for my sons' football club
She wouldn't be stirring for any reason would she? I think you need to sit down and ask your wife if this happened - just be completely honest and see what she says - you may not like the answer but it's got to be better than not knowing...
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:28
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TBH once she's had a sweet taste from the furry cup, you may as well call it a day cos she won't be back for more of yours...sorry
How charming!!

The poor bloke's in emotional turmoil (unless he is a troll, in which case he is probably writhing with mirth) and all most of you lot can say is 'Lucky you!!' or whatever. Really nice, that.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:29
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I know this is my first post on here.
I just wanted to get some advice and this forum is the best around.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:30
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2 months ago my 38 year old wife joined the local Hockey club.
3 weeks ago I came home early from work to find her in the shower with one of her younger team mates.
She said it was a mistake and we made up and everything went back to 'normal'.
We have always been 100% faithful to each other after 21 years of marriage.[2 kids].
Last Sunday I received a phone call form a fellow Hockey player saying my wife had left the club in her car with 2 women and that her car was parked in a clearing in a wooded area with the bonnet up and this caller went to investigate and heard giggling from over a wall and down in this wooded area was my wife with these 2 women.
She went on to describe in graphic detail what these 2 women were doing to my wife.
When she came home she went straight in the shower, saying they were not working at the club and I later noticed scratch marks on her back....she said these came from the Hockey match when the ball went in some brambles.
I know she is lying to me and I can't bear it......What should I do ?.
I am at the end of my tether...Can't sleep properly....She has never been like this and I can't believe her behaviour.
Please help... thnks , Mike 41..South Gloucestershire.


P.s She has just told me she has an away match on Sunday and that she is taking her car as she has to give some people a lift to the game.
You have 2 choices, learn to live with it or prepare for divorce.

If you learn to live with it chances are that she'll leave or she'll demand a divorce anyway, so personally I'd prepare for divorce. My advice to you would be to get together as much proof of her infidelities as you can (Statements, photographs, tape recordings etc.) so that it can't be dismissed when it goes to court. When you think you've got enough go and see a solicitor and get divorce proceedings started and then think about changing the locks to the house.

Then sit down with your children and have that awkward conversation with them.

You should also be wary of sexually transmitted diseases if you're still having sex with your wife.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:31
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I know this is my first post on here.
I just wanted to get some advice and this forum is the best around.
Glad you've joined - ignore the cynics - people are a bit suspiscious
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:33
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She wouldn't be stirring for any reason would she? I think you need to sit down and ask your wife if this happened - just be completely honest and see what she says - you may not like the answer but it's got to be better than not knowing...
Then why did she run in and go straight in the shower ....and where did those scratch marks come from?........Time to confront her and see where we stand.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:38
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Assuming this isn't a wind up, & God knows truth can be stranger than fiction, you obviously need to talk to your wife.

She could just be experimenting - she may regret not having done so when she was younger. It doesn't mean she's gay or even bisexual.

The issue here isn't so much her sexuality - but honesty & fidelity.

The woman who let you know - I would put money on her fancying you - and bear in mind what she said could all be hooey.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:43
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sorry but silly women - typical
they say men should be faithful, like you are but its ok for them not to be and do what they like. shame - im really sorry mate i really am
just wish people would have a simpler life and be honest and faithful.
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Old 16-10-2007, 17:46
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liar liar pants on fire
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