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Old 02-07-2008, 21:54
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If you were the judge, what would you do.


I would have sent him back to his real parents, because when he's older that's probably where he'd rather be.

They would have had to have given visitation rights to Ashley anyway, and it would have confused Arther in the long run.

There was a real case, where both the babies were still alive obviously and the mothers are thinking of raising the babies as one family.
But both the mothers still think of the baby that they got as their own. They don't feel maternal love for their own natural child.

It's weird, because I always thought that carrying a child for nine months would make you love and know it.
Strangley enough I think it's more taking care of the baby after birth that makes the real bond.

Therefore a mothers love doesn't begin at birth for most.
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Old 02-07-2008, 22:00
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Arthur should have stayed with the Dolands. Biological or not, Mel and Greg were Arthur's parents. I hate seeing the Thomas' with the baby, he isn't their son.
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Old 02-07-2008, 22:07
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Arthur should have stayed with the Dolands. Biological or not, Mel and Greg were Arthur's parents. I hate seeing the Thomas' with the baby, he isn't their son.
Yes but if this were real don't you think Arthur would rather know his biological parents.
It may be harsh, but in reality if a mother gives birth to a child, it's hers for life.
Plus the hospital made the mistake, shouldn't they be sued.
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Old 02-07-2008, 22:16
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Yes but if this were real don't you think Arthur would rather know his biological parents.
It may be harsh, but in reality if a mother gives birth to a child, it's hers for life.
Plus the hospital made the mistake, shouldn't they be sued.
It can be Arthur's choice whether he wants to be with his biological parents when he grows up, but the thing is Laurel and Ashley are always going to get that opportunity whereas Greg and Mel aren't. The baby that they cared for for nearly a year has been snatched away from them and they'll be lucky to ever see him again.
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Old 02-07-2008, 22:33
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It can be Arthur's choice whether he wants to be with his biological parents when he grows up, but the thing is Laurel and Ashley are always going to get that opportunity whereas Greg and Mel aren't. The baby that they cared for for nearly a year has been snatched away from them and they'll be lucky to ever see him again.
That would just cause more pain for all involved.
Think about it, if you knew that your real baby was across the street and being cared for by someone else what would you do.
Mel and Greg can have more children of their own.
It was a terrible thing to happen to them, having their child taken away. It happens to hundreds of people who foster children. The difference is they know that the child isn't really theirs.

It's still a liberty that no one can take. Even if the child is older they still favour the natural mother. If she's able to get herself together. If she has problems or something. Which I don't think is right.

The thing is the Thomas's aren't abusive, and they deserve their child back.
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Old 03-07-2008, 00:23
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Yes it was the right thing to do. Laurel and Ashley are good parents, and the child is biologically their's and is too young to remember this when he is older therefore the logical answer is for Arthur to be in the custody of Laurel and Ashley regardless of the painful circumstances.
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Old 03-07-2008, 01:40
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I think it was right to send him back to the Thomas'. If he had been a lot older and had spent years growing up believing the Doland's were his parents I'd have said it would have been better to leave him with Greg and Mel rather than uprooting him. As it is now, the chances are Arthur won't have any recollection of the time he spent living with the Dolands.

You have to think about the bigger picture and what is the best choice for Arthur.

1. To stay with the Dolands only to discover years down the line he wasn't really their child (there's no assurances it would be kept secret, I mean what if Arthur needed some sort of treatment which relied on a blood relative?) This would leave him with questions such as why didn't his real parents fight for him? Not to mention him being robbed of the chance to know his biological family and realising his whole life had been built on a lie.

2. To be returned to his biological family at an age where he will be too young to remember what happened years down the line and if he did find out he'd know he was loved and wanted and his family had wanted him back.

It's not about what either sets of parents want in my opinion. Yes it is upsetting for the Dolands, but the primary concern should be Arthur and not just what is best for him in the here and now but what is best for him in the future too.
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Old 03-07-2008, 01:48
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I think it was right to send him back to the Thomas'. If he had been a lot older and had spent years growing up believing the Doland's were his parents I'd have said it would have been better to leave him with Greg and Mel rather than uprooting him. As it is now, the chances are Arthur won't have any recollection of the time he spent living with the Dolands.

You have to think about the bigger picture and what is the best choice for Arthur.

1. To stay with the Dolands only to discover years down the line he wasn't really their child (there's no assurances it would be kept secret, I mean what if Arthur needed some sort of treatment which relied on a blood relative?) This would leave him with questions such as why didn't his real parents fight for him? Not to mention him being robbed of the chance to know his biological family and realising his whole life had been built on a lie.

2. To be returned to his biological family at an age where he will be too young to remember what happened years down the line and if he did find out he'd know he was loved and wanted and his family had wanted him back.

It's not about what either sets of parents want in my opinion. Yes it is upsetting for the Dolands, but the primary concern should be Arthur and not just what is best for him in the here and now but what is best for him in the future too.
Exactly. A lot of adopted children feel that their real parents never wanted them.
Being with his natural parents is best.
But what should they tell him about Daniel when he's older.
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Old 03-07-2008, 22:19
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I believe Arthur should be with his birth parents, as he is very young and will adapt, particularly as the family overcome their current difficulties, they do need help with this, not just Gaby.

In Corrie, the boys were much older and very rightly had a choice although the story was handled very insensitively and now it may as well never have happened. Nobody seems to have suffered any trauma from such a life changing revelation. It beggars belief.

I hope Emmerdale follow it through properly.

From my experience as an adoptive parent, each case is very individual, some adapt, some don't. But generally the younger the child is at the time of adoption, the more chance of success.
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Old 04-07-2008, 00:25
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Horrible situation. Well done, Emmy for handling it so well. I feel so sorry for MelandGreg.
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