Originally Posted by
Dia_rear:
“They are in it tomorrow, these are from the episode we missed the other day, the day after that I have already uploaded,
I see Chanelle went on her Myspace today and just added another 20 friends,
Reading into the way she was with him on that clip I think her attitude to him had changed since she came out of the house, Chanelle had plenty of time to look at You tube etc to see all the stuff he had done behind her back, although she would have liked it to have worked out she was never going to be the walk over she had been in the house, He expected her to be the same compliant girl who was in there with him, like he said after her visit to the house he thought she had moved on, He also said he felt like he had been left in her wake.
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Chanelle in the BBH had been very worn down by illness and by constant emotional and psychological pressures of Z's inconsistency and the unpredictability of BB and other HM's - she had nothing to distract her from these pressures, not even a book. Chanelle was clearly deeply in love with Z so she was vulnerable and compliant to him in those circumstances. However, even by the time that Chanelle returned to the House as a guest she had more than regained her self confidence, she recognised her huge public popularity and his equally huge unpopularity, - I recall there being suggestions of threats against him. In the course of that visit Chanelle contrasted strongly with Z, she appearing strong, confident, and gorgeous while he looked rough, lacking confidence and far from attractive. By contrast to the last time he had seen her Chanelle was the strong person offering him support that was far more than he could have expected - and far more than he had ever offered her. Subsequently he remarked to another HM that he feared that he had lost her and that she had left him far behind.
On finals night. Z was clearly anxious about what he was going out to - and when he actually left the House it was Chanelle who led the crowd's cheers for him and actively provided support for him throughout. Initially Z had some success in obtaining paid work in conjunction with Chanelle, but although she continued to be inundated with work he obtained little paid work of significance. In a interview that Z did with a magazine he was asked how he felt about Chanelle earning much more than he did. Z tried to dismiss the matter, but it was clear from his agent's interjection, (suggesting that Chanelle did not earn more), that this was a cause of tension. (The agent's suggestion was also plainly absurd.)
With the relative lack of paid work Z not only had lower earning power than Chanelle but also had less oportunity to achieve the same level of self confidence. Added to this, he was also disadvantaged by the fact that Chanelle is far more articulate both in public and private, a fact that was apparent within BBH and since.
As we have seen from the time Chanelle left BBH she has consistently worked hard, and this was particularly notable following the NOTW matter when Chanelle mantained a determined professional attitude to her work in spite of the the way she must have felt emotionally. By contrast Z appeared to keep a very much lower profile.
Overall since leaving BBH Chanelle has shown herself to be a strong and confident young woman with a clear sense of her responsibility to familiy, friends, fans and professional commitments. By contrast, whatever the details of Z's behaviour with other women in the course of his work and his failure to return home when expected, it is apparent that he did not show the same level of reliable responsibility.
Although, as we saw on finals night, Chanelle was willing to make very considerably effeort to support and encourage the man she loved, in any confrontation between the two of them she would be the stronger one of them in every aspect except brute force. Without doubt to someone who wants to view himself as a mans man this relative weakness with his partner would be likely to undermine his sense of masculinity - for the partner to reduce her achievements would be no remedy, only greater success in his own work would overcome this sense of failure within that relationship. The other alternative is to end the relationship - and either to avoid relationships or to ensure that any new relationship is with a less successfull and/or lower profile partner.