Originally Posted by missfrankiecat:
“Because women are too stupid to understand why they don't like someone? "Poor little things ...they don't even know their own thought processes." ”
“Because women are too stupid to understand why they don't like someone? "Poor little things ...they don't even know their own thought processes." ”
It's interesting that you thought that might be the reason. I wasn't in anything I said, and as I mentioned in a later post, I don't even know my own reasons (I mean the real, causal ones) for not liking Emma or her dancing.
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“You don't have to be a mind reader to work out a few clues about a personality...you can just try listening to what the person says. It isn't, I would suggest, an unjustified assumption to form an opinion that Rachel, placid and polite as she appears, is not the brightest and has nothing original or amusing to say. That's not a reason to hate her, or denigrate her undoubted dancing skills but it's a perfectly valid reason not to warm to her personality, which has nothing to do with her looks. Equally, if you don't value intelligence or wit as a quality in men or women, then obviously her lovely looks may weigh more heavily with you. But don't accuse others of lack of insight into their motivations!
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“You don't have to be a mind reader to work out a few clues about a personality...you can just try listening to what the person says. It isn't, I would suggest, an unjustified assumption to form an opinion that Rachel, placid and polite as she appears, is not the brightest and has nothing original or amusing to say. That's not a reason to hate her, or denigrate her undoubted dancing skills but it's a perfectly valid reason not to warm to her personality, which has nothing to do with her looks. Equally, if you don't value intelligence or wit as a quality in men or women, then obviously her lovely looks may weigh more heavily with you. But don't accuse others of lack of insight into their motivations!
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There are a number of cases of people who seem to lack wit or warmth or whatever in public, yet are known to have plenty of it in more personal circumstances, contrary to mind-reading assumptions that you can, for example, just try listening to what the person says when you see them on tv.
And that people believe they have insight into their motivations doesn't mean they're actually able to correctly identify them. People are affected by a range of cognitive and other biases that they usually don't consider, for instance.




