Originally Posted by Cornchips:
“High mach doesn't mean what you think it means at all. Zac is a realist - it means any decisions he makes are tempered by realism and honesty with himself as to how he is feeling, what will happen, what might happen. Chan on the other hand is a romantic. It has nothing to do with imbalance in the relationship at all. It has to do with perception within the relationship. You can both feel exactly the same about each other - however one person sees that level as being happy ever after - the other sees it more cautiously and doesn't wish to label it.
IMO he cared so much about her in teh house he could see how "the house" and what that was doing to him was affecting her and the relationship and he tried to put all that on hold until they got out. That is totally acceptable imo and certainly doesn;t mean he cares about her less.
He didn;t use her in the house to get ahead - if anything his relationship with her held him back.
I am high mac and I can tell you now i would never "do over" a friend or family to get where i want to be. It does however make me someone who is capable of making very tough decision when necessary and doing what I perceive to be the best in the long term - which doesn't always sit well with those around me. Doesn't mean I am "doing them over" though. Zac is the same.”
Interesting.
The problem with Zac and Chan specifically of course, was that he was unable to articulate his feelings and reasoning sufficiently to Chan about cooling things until they got out, and therefore she automatically assumed that cooling things meant finishing the relationship off for ever, and as she was becoming very attached to him, she was unhappy about that prospect and tried to hang onto him until it became untenable for her.

i suspect that because they had also been so very cuddly and touchy feely all the time, she missed that when they were in their -off periods.
So did he of course, which is why their 'off' periods never lasted very long.
Do we think it could ever have worked in the house or was it always doomed to failure?