This is something that me and my friends have discussed at length (well the handful of friends that are left on the shelf like moi) and it seems that it is so hard finding a decent bloke these days. Single blokes may feel the same way about finding a decent girl but I swear the older you get, the harder it becomes to find someone genuine. Most men are either in a relationship or too immature to take a relationship further than sex.
Why take my number if you're not going to call? Why take me out for a drink when you clearly don't want me for more than one night?
Men I am interested in are never interested back and the men that I have no interest in would move heaven and earth for me.
When I was younger, I just assumed that falling in love, having kids and settling down was a given but now I'm not so sure ........ relationships don't happen for all people and maybe I'm one of them.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not desperate to settle down as I love doing my own thing and having my own space but it would be nice to pull someone nice sometimes!
What does everyone else think?
I can totally relate to what your saying. I'm happily single at the moment, but i sometimes think it would be nice to have someone to share things with. All the guys i meet only ever seem to be after one thing etc, and i'm fed up of falling for guys and getting my heart broken everytime. Beginning to wonder where all the nice guys are...
This is something that me and my friends have discussed at length (well the handful of friends that are left on the shelf like moi) and it seems that it is so hard finding a decent bloke these days. Single blokes may feel the same way about finding a decent girl but I swear the older you get, the harder it becomes to find someone genuine. Most men are either in a relationship or too immature to take a relationship further than sex.
Why take my number if you're not going to call? Why take me out for a drink when you clearly don't want me for more than one night?
Men I am interested in are never interested back and the men that I have no interest in would move heaven and earth for me.
When I was younger, I just assumed that falling in love, having kids and settling down was a given but now I'm not so sure ........ relationships don't happen for all people and maybe I'm one of them.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not desperate to settle down as I love doing my own thing and having my own space but it would be nice to pull someone nice sometimes!
What does everyone else think?
Well to be absolutely honest, speaking from a male perspective, I have never had a problem "pulling". In fact, I don't "pull" as such, mostly women who are interested just make it obvious, and it goes from there sometimes.
Well to be absolutely honest, speaking from a male perspective, I have never had a problem "pulling". In fact, I don't "pull" as such, mostly women who are interested just make it obvious, and it goes from there sometimes.
Please don't take this personally, but in my experience most guys that say that are living in a bit of a fantasy world.
I have a friend, really I do, who is 36, lives and works in London, Australian, single, absolutely gorgeous, smart, funny and kind and she finds it impossible to meet men.
Can you give her my e-mail address?
I've got a couple of pictures if she'd like to see them.
Oh - and I'm friendly, caring, reliable, genuine and honest.
How many guys do you know who say exactly what I have just said ? (out of interest)
I have a *lot* of guy friends. I find the ones that say they have to make no effort in pulling are the ones that don't make much effort to pull. It's the guys that make a real effort to talk to and charm us girls that have the success.
This is something that me and my friends have discussed at length (well the handful of friends that are left on the shelf like moi) and it seems that it is so hard finding a decent bloke these days. Single blokes may feel the same way about finding a decent girl but I swear the older you get, the harder it becomes to find someone genuine. Most men are either in a relationship or too immature to take a relationship further than sex.
Why take my number if you're not going to call? Why take me out for a drink when you clearly don't want me for more than one night?
Men I am interested in are never interested back and the men that I have no interest in would move heaven and earth for me.
When I was younger, I just assumed that falling in love, having kids and settling down was a given but now I'm not so sure ........ relationships don't happen for all people and maybe I'm one of them.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not desperate to settle down as I love doing my own thing and having my own space but it would be nice to pull someone nice sometimes!
What does everyone else think?
Are you me?? :eek:
I agree with most of that, except ~I did always want to be married with kids, and now it looks highly unlikely. I just don't know what to do anymore.
Now I'll read the rest of the thread to see if anyone has posted a solution.
Edit: I'm 44, female, with no baggage (that I'm aware of)
I have a *lot* of guy friends. I find the ones that say they have to make no effort in pulling are the ones that don't make much effort to pull. It's the guys that make a real effort to talk to and charm us girls that have the success.
Yes ~ I agree that once a connection is established, and it's obvious there's some "spark", then it's a 2 way thing, or should be.
But I like to be sure there is an interest shown first before I make any sort of move. Even then I'm only dipping my toes in the water at first.
I've been with the same person on and off for years but inbetween I've had no trouble really, and even now its quite easy still to pull even when I dont mean to If it means anything I'm 20.
I don't have a problem with being single most of the time, and now having been single for 5 years, I do wonder whether or not I would be able to adapt to having to consider someone else!
But as ludovica says, sometimes it would be nice to have someone to talk to, or to give you a hug when your feeling a bit down, or even just to kick out of bed (in the nicest possible way) on a Sunday morning to go and make you a coffee.
This thread was written for me! Having been on my own for over 7 years, apart from a year long relationship, and dating, I also would find it very difficult, if not impossible, to adapt to living with a man again. And having just had my 44th birthday, it is impossible to meet a bloke who wants more than one night. I don't want one night stands, but can't seem to find anyone who wants more than that.
And the thing is, a lot of my friends are in the same situation, and ages range from late 20s to late 30s, so it is not just me being older.
Where are all the single men of my age?
And before anyone says anything, I don't go out looking all desperate, with a fishing rod and a shark fin on my back! I can cope on my own, but a bit of male company would be nice.
I must be one of the unique few, but I am completely use to being ignored by people.
I am single to, I am not sick of it, would be good to meet some genuine people once in a while, instead of the fake ones.
I am one of those, what you see is what get, simple as that.
I am probably too straight talking for my own good and do tend to make sweeping statements, but at least I am honest about. Not my problem that I have varying views on the same topics.
We cannot all have a one tracked mind, which thankfully I am too crazy to have a one tracked mind, which is a good thing well to me anyway.
I must be one of the unique few, but I am completely use to being ignored by people.
I am single to, I am not sick of it, would be good to meet some genuine people once in a while, instead of the fake ones.
I am one of those, what you see is what get, simple as that.
I am probably too straight talking for my own good and do tend to make sweeping statements, but at least I am honest about. Not my problem that I have varying views on the same topics.
We cannot all have a one tracked mind, which thankfully I am too crazy to have a one tracked mind, which is a good thing well to me anyway.
Crazy is good
I'm too soft for my own good though, i let people away with too much, and i end up getting hurt
I could never treat men the way some have treated me! One in particular :mad:
I don't like being single.....But young enough to hopefully meet Mr Right eventually
I'm too soft for my own good though, i let people away with too much, and i end up getting hurt
I could never treat men the way some have treated me! One in particular :mad:
I don't like being single.....But young enough to hopefully meet Mr Right eventually
This case sound familiar. I guess I am too compassionate and forgiving of people to, and you speak of a certain person, well I think we all can.
This is terrible thing to say but I will apologise before I say it.
First impressions may seem good at first, however it sometime takes, you days, weeks, months or possibly even a year or so before you actually realise who or what you have got yourself involved with.
Without sound trivial, that can apply to someone you consider a friend but later find out differently.
Anyway I cannot stop being me, I do not put an act on for a soul. I imagine if anyone won the lottery tomorrow 10 million pounds plus, you would see how many fake people suddenly would to come out of the woodwork wanting to be friends, that can apply to friends, acquaintances and even family who never wanted to know much about you before.
I did say I speak my mind, sorry people, thats just me.
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I can totally relate to what your saying. I'm happily single at the moment, but i sometimes think it would be nice to have someone to share things with. All the guys i meet only ever seem to be after one thing etc, and i'm fed up of falling for guys and getting my heart broken everytime. Beginning to wonder where all the nice guys are...
Well to be absolutely honest, speaking from a male perspective, I have never had a problem "pulling". In fact, I don't "pull" as such, mostly women who are interested just make it obvious, and it goes from there sometimes.
Me too - and I am bored with being single now, frankly
Please don't take this personally, but in my experience most guys that say that are living in a bit of a fantasy world.
I just wish there were more confident guys who weren't after one thing
Well I'm not lying. Why should I ?
How many guys do you know who say exactly what I have just said ? (out of interest)
Can you give her my e-mail address?
I've got a couple of pictures if she'd like to see them.
Oh - and I'm friendly, caring, reliable, genuine and honest.
Reminds me of the well-known phrase 'Sane when single'.
I have a *lot* of guy friends. I find the ones that say they have to make no effort in pulling are the ones that don't make much effort to pull. It's the guys that make a real effort to talk to and charm us girls that have the success.
Are you me?? :eek:
I agree with most of that, except ~I did always want to be married with kids, and now it looks highly unlikely. I just don't know what to do anymore.
Now I'll read the rest of the thread to see if anyone has posted a solution.
Edit: I'm 44, female, with no baggage (that I'm aware of)
Yes ~ I agree that once a connection is established, and it's obvious there's some "spark", then it's a 2 way thing, or should be.
But I like to be sure there is an interest shown first before I make any sort of move. Even then I'm only dipping my toes in the water at first.
It's always worked for me anyway.
Obviously I don't do anything though ...
Ah I see I thought you were talking about sitting back and letting the woman do all the work!! Yes it does help to suss us out a bit first.
There's enough threads on it already.
Or mini-skirt and dye your hair blonde or brunette.
This thread was written for me! Having been on my own for over 7 years, apart from a year long relationship, and dating, I also would find it very difficult, if not impossible, to adapt to living with a man again. And having just had my 44th birthday, it is impossible to meet a bloke who wants more than one night. I don't want one night stands, but can't seem to find anyone who wants more than that.
And the thing is, a lot of my friends are in the same situation, and ages range from late 20s to late 30s, so it is not just me being older.
Where are all the single men of my age?
And before anyone says anything, I don't go out looking all desperate, with a fishing rod and a shark fin on my back! I can cope on my own, but a bit of male company would be nice.
I think the topic is being narrow minded, forget the pulling bit, just saying hello can cause offense these days.
You even get strange looks if you say good morning.
The only person that does not act too strangely depending on whether they understand is the bus driver.
This also seems to apply at work, someone will stare at you but will not actually say anything.. All far too strange..
I must be one of the unique few, but I am completely use to being ignored by people.
I am single to, I am not sick of it, would be good to meet some genuine people once in a while, instead of the fake ones.
I am one of those, what you see is what get, simple as that.
I am probably too straight talking for my own good and do tend to make sweeping statements, but at least I am honest about. Not my problem that I have varying views on the same topics.
We cannot all have a one tracked mind, which thankfully I am too crazy to have a one tracked mind, which is a good thing well to me anyway.
Crazy is good
I'm too soft for my own good though, i let people away with too much, and i end up getting hurt
I could never treat men the way some have treated me! One in particular :mad:
I don't like being single.....But young enough to hopefully meet Mr Right eventually
This case sound familiar. I guess I am too compassionate and forgiving of people to, and you speak of a certain person, well I think we all can.
This is terrible thing to say but I will apologise before I say it.
First impressions may seem good at first, however it sometime takes, you days, weeks, months or possibly even a year or so before you actually realise who or what you have got yourself involved with.
Without sound trivial, that can apply to someone you consider a friend but later find out differently.
Anyway I cannot stop being me, I do not put an act on for a soul. I imagine if anyone won the lottery tomorrow 10 million pounds plus, you would see how many fake people suddenly would to come out of the woodwork wanting to be friends, that can apply to friends, acquaintances and even family who never wanted to know much about you before.
I did say I speak my mind, sorry people, thats just me.