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Insulting, patronising or a nice compliment.
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I've recently starting working in a school, I'm training to be a TA. On my first day at break time I was in the staffroom and a women came in and said....''You only look like a bit of a kid yourself, what you doing in here?'' I laughed and joked...''I'll take that as a compliment''. She got her drink and walked out.
I know it sounds daft but that comment has made me all self concious now. Usually I'd be chuffed to bits at someone saying I looked young but in that context I found it a bit rude. Am I being silly?
I know it sounds daft but that comment has made me all self concious now. Usually I'd be chuffed to bits at someone saying I looked young but in that context I found it a bit rude. Am I being silly?
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It wasn't really in a jokey tone at all, it was a bit strange to be honest.
I guess it's easy to take things the wrong way when you dont know someones personality though.
I'd let it go. You'll get to know her or know about her in due course. If she continues to make comments that you find uncomfortable & especially if it's only you she's doing it to, have a quiet word with her & explain that you'd prefer her to stop doing it & why.
It will become clear as you get to know people, when they are joking/being friendly and when they are not.
Also whether they tend to be bitchy or nice etc etc.
It would be a shame to judge this person on one comment.
If it turns out that she was being insulting and is this type of person, then you can think again.
For now, I would take it as a compliment simply because thats the easiest way to live with it based on lack of personal knowledge.
I think you'll need to develop a much thicker skin if you want to work in a school. Dont mean that in a nasty way
Of course if you want to "repay the compliment" to her, next time you see her in the staffroom, before you get your drink and walk out, you can say something like "I though this was a school not an old people's home".
Haha no I wouldn't do that .
I'm ust going to asume (untill I know otherwise) that she was being nice, it is quite flatering really. If she wasn't then she's the one with the problem not me.
Admittedly I dont have a very thick skin. I'm working with little kids though so the ''cutting'' comments they come out with usually make me chuckle, to myself obviously, as far as they're concerned I'm livid!