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If your OH was ill would you put them in a nursing home?
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If your OH was so ill that they couldnt look after themselves would you put them in a nursing home or would you look after them yourself?
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is there no end to this liberal DS madness?
There is no sense in me being OH's main carer if I wasn't able to give him the required care?
I do think that you might be able to get something called 'respite care' for them about 2 weeks out of the year which I think you would have to take just to re-charge your batteries.
I do not regret it at all, I am glad I was able to help him.
A nursing home would be the last resort.
*hugs*
I would be the same but can't think about it at all. I'm an only child and so close to my parents. i speak to them every day and see them as much as I can. I would care for them and it crushes me to think fo them suffering or geting ill.
My gran ended her days in one of those - it wasn't a good end.
That's what my mum did. No point in being around people who aren't qualified to administer morphine when you need it.
:D what others:eek:
Not sure if I would describe it as liberal madness but I agree that people are made to feel guilty even if they consider using a home. However, if you manage to get a good home the care could be better than you could give at home. I think it would depend what the condition was in reality, I think looking after someone with dementia is extremely hard work especially when the individuals cannot even be left long enough for the carer to have a bath. there is little support for people in this position and there will be less with the proposed cuts
I'm disabled so it would be impossible if he needed any lifting or even any support in walking as he's over a foot taller than me and could easily tip me over. I couldn't keep him at home if doing so was a risk to both of us.
Having said that, I can't imagine how I could ever live apart from him.
a relative or unpaid carer can administer morphine if able without any official training. There are also systems in place for paid carers to administer morphine and other medications if needed in peoples homes
Ancient Mum wouldn't have accepted it from a family member, and I wouldn't have allowed some of the paid carers to do it, unfortunately. One was great; the others, not so much.
The other side is it means having to give up work, and becoming a welfare 'scrounger' that this forum loves to belittle.
Well, my mother didn't nurse her parents, and her parents didn't nurse their parents...because they died younger and before they needed long term care.
And my MIL didn't nurse her parents, and her parents didn't nurse their parents...becuase they died younger and before they needed long term care.
My mum is in sheltered housing and has said that she is happy to go into a home should the need arise. The last thing she wants is me to be her carer. She is a proud woman and values the relationship we have and does not want it to be changed in the way it would should she need nursing.
My MIL on the otherhand - well, all SHE thinks about is herself and I tell you, it'll be a cold day in hell before I give her a bed bath.
My OH on the other hand, I would do anything for.