well, tending to have more sympathy for people in general does not make you Mother Teresa. There will always be someone whose points of view are so different to your own, that you find it difficult to find sympathy for them.
well, tending to have more sympathy for people in general does not make you Mother Teresa. There will always be someone whose points of view are so different to your own, that you find it difficult to find sympathy for them.
I've been following this thread...can understand Hobbit's comments/replies but unfortunately can't say the same about yours, I've re-read a couple of times but still scratching my head here
well, tending to have more sympathy for people in general does not make you Mother Teresa. There will always be someone whose points of view are so different to your own, that you find it difficult to find sympathy for them.
Difficult to find sympathy is one thing.
Positively gloating that someone you don't even know is dying from cancer, is another thing entirely.
I dont have sympathy for anyone that wishes cancer/death on someone.
Yes jade was racist etc, but her and shilpa cleared the air before she died, she was also only 27 and left 2 little boys.
I feel sorry for the OPs husband, as he shouldn't have to put up with racism from anyone.
Hey, I have masses of sympathy for Jade Goody and her children, it was a completely tragic story. I have also acknowledged that the comments against her were bad. But I equally sympathise with the OP and her abused background, and have found many posts on here equally as wrong as the posts against JG.
I feel disgusted you have had to endure the sick abuse from your family QG,
sounds like your father is a tyrant who has perverted your brother.
Its time to get tough,it nice to get friendly advice on here but you need help from people /organisations who have experience in this sort of thing,
Not only will they advice you, they will bring a bit of clout to your situation,you wont accept being fobbed off.
Do you live in council accommodation.
Why can't you move.even a few streets away would help.
You have right 100% on your side.
It's time your so called Father and family realized they aren't dealing with a little girl who has to do what they say.
they are dealing with an adult who has rights, these rights have been seriously
abused, It's time to make them fear the consequences of their actions.that's the only way to stop the evil treatment you have had to endure.
I dont disagree, but I find some comments on here equally as bad. Just hypocritical really.
Hmm, maybe, but no more hypocritical than the OP is being. She can laugh and gloat about someone having cancer but gets outraged when someone says something nasty to her husband.
I've been following this thread...can understand Hobbit's comments/replies but unfortunately can't say the same about yours, I've re-read a couple of times but still scratching my head here
Its really quite simple. I am trying to at least have an understanding of why perhaps the OP made comments against someone who was dying. I am not condemning her as I feel for her and the dreadful abuse that she has endured as a child. I would not want to blame anything 'bad' or 'wrong' she may have said simply on her abuse alone. I am trying to understand an alternative view point that is not oppressive towards the OP. We are all unique and individual. One comment should not be blamed on the abuse suffered. The OP has the right to be separated from that abuse and not oppressed by it.
Hmm, maybe, but no more hypocritical than the OP is being. She can laugh and gloat about someone having cancer but gets outraged when someone says something nasty to her husband.
perhaps your abused past has made you quite negative and hold grudges? I prefer to seek answers, understand our behaviours, and move forwards.
Hey, I have masses of sympathy for Jade Goody and her children, it was a completely tragic story. I have also acknowledged that the comments against her were bad. But I equally sympathise with the OP and her abused background, and have found many posts on here equally as wrong as the posts against JG.
What I dont understand is why she had to bring up her background when the post was about her husband.
I do have sympathy for people being abused - I never said I didn't, but when someone gloats at the suffering of someone else, thats a bit low.
The OP has the right to be separated from that abuse and not oppressed by it.
Absolutely, but she has to want to be separated from it. The OP has a history of posting many many references to her childhood abuse and very little else. It sadly seems to dominate her life as it is now.
Perhaps the fact that nobody has ever really been punished for the abuse is the problem and it has been suggested many many times that she contacts the police to see what action can be brought. There are many examples of abusers being brought to justice after longer time periods.
This whole thread is really quite uncomfortable to read.
From the opening post, which I feel sorry for the ops hubby.
To the shocking shocking posts about jade goody. That all past me by on here, I cant actually believe how nasty people were about someone, famous or not, dying of cancer. Truly vile comments in those threads. People should be utterly ashamed of themselves back then. How can anyone justify gloating about another human dying? How?
To the posts attacking each other regarding abuse and race.
To everything.
This thread is just naff.
Its a conflict of feelings regarding this. I think past posts should have nothing to do with present ones though.
In my eyes, Jade wasn't even racist on BB - it was Danielle Lloyd and that bint from S club 7 who were the culprits yet they seemed to get away with it To celebrate the fact that Jade had cancer is disgusting and anyone who behaved like that should take a long, hard look at themselves tbh. RIP Jade.
Absolutely, but she has to want to be separated from it. The OP has a history of posting many many references to her childhood abuse and very little else. It sadly seems to dominate her life as it is now.
Perhaps the fact that nobody has ever really been punished for the abuse is the problem and it has been suggested many many times that she contacts the police to see what action can be brought. There are many examples of abusers being brought to justice after longer time periods.
I agree, and would hope for this too. But if you read literature on sexual abuse, non reporting is not uncommon. I dont know the psychological reason as to why, but the literature is out there.
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I think it is perfectly clear.
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Which caused me to say
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well, tending to have more sympathy for people in general does not make you Mother Teresa. There will always be someone whose points of view are so different to your own, that you find it difficult to find sympathy for them.
I've been following this thread...can understand Hobbit's comments/replies but unfortunately can't say the same about yours, I've re-read a couple of times but still scratching my head here
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Difficult to find sympathy is one thing.
Positively gloating that someone you don't even know is dying from cancer, is another thing entirely.
I dont have sympathy for anyone that wishes cancer/death on someone.
Yes jade was racist etc, but her and shilpa cleared the air before she died, she was also only 27 and left 2 little boys.
I feel sorry for the OPs husband, as he shouldn't have to put up with racism from anyone.
Hey, I have masses of sympathy for Jade Goody and her children, it was a completely tragic story. I have also acknowledged that the comments against her were bad. But I equally sympathise with the OP and her abused background, and have found many posts on here equally as wrong as the posts against JG.
I dont disagree, but I find some comments on here equally as bad. Just hypocritical really.
sounds like your father is a tyrant who has perverted your brother.
Its time to get tough,it nice to get friendly advice on here but you need help from people /organisations who have experience in this sort of thing,
Not only will they advice you, they will bring a bit of clout to your situation,you wont accept being fobbed off.
Do you live in council accommodation.
Why can't you move.even a few streets away would help.
You have right 100% on your side.
It's time your so called Father and family realized they aren't dealing with a little girl who has to do what they say.
they are dealing with an adult who has rights, these rights have been seriously
abused, It's time to make them fear the consequences of their actions.that's the only way to stop the evil treatment you have had to endure.
The oddest thing about that post is the fact that her 17 year relationship has been in suspended animation for 2 years
http://forums.digitalspy.co.uk/showpost.php?p=33769784&postcount=15
okay I'm probably nitpicking now.
Its really quite simple. I am trying to at least have an understanding of why perhaps the OP made comments against someone who was dying. I am not condemning her as I feel for her and the dreadful abuse that she has endured as a child. I would not want to blame anything 'bad' or 'wrong' she may have said simply on her abuse alone. I am trying to understand an alternative view point that is not oppressive towards the OP. We are all unique and individual. One comment should not be blamed on the abuse suffered. The OP has the right to be separated from that abuse and not oppressed by it.
What I dont understand is why she had to bring up her background when the post was about her husband.
I do have sympathy for people being abused - I never said I didn't, but when someone gloats at the suffering of someone else, thats a bit low.
That's a very simplistic ideal, which may work for some, but for others could be a real struggle.
Not negative, no, and I don't bear grudges often. Considering my recent past, I've had to be rather introspective and I know what makes my tick.
So no, you have entirely the wrong impression of me.
Absolutely, but she has to want to be separated from it. The OP has a history of posting many many references to her childhood abuse and very little else. It sadly seems to dominate her life as it is now.
Perhaps the fact that nobody has ever really been punished for the abuse is the problem and it has been suggested many many times that she contacts the police to see what action can be brought. There are many examples of abusers being brought to justice after longer time periods.
From the opening post, which I feel sorry for the ops hubby.
To the shocking shocking posts about jade goody. That all past me by on here, I cant actually believe how nasty people were about someone, famous or not, dying of cancer. Truly vile comments in those threads. People should be utterly ashamed of themselves back then. How can anyone justify gloating about another human dying? How?
To the posts attacking each other regarding abuse and race.
To everything.
This thread is just naff.
Its a conflict of feelings regarding this. I think past posts should have nothing to do with present ones though.
Maybe this thread is all worn out now?
Who believes the OP, who doesn't?.
Would clear the air rather than having posts dragged up from years back and over exagerated responses to those posts as well.
Me, I think the OP is a fantasist. It's sad so many people are giving them so much attention. I'm even beginning to wonder if they are female.
I agree, and would hope for this too. But if you read literature on sexual abuse, non reporting is not uncommon. I dont know the psychological reason as to why, but the literature is out there.
:eek:The plot thickens.