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How can you tell if your partner loves you?
Gooseberrylove
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I sometimes thing grand gestures of love are misleading its more the day to day stuff.But what are the signs that your man or woman deep down loves you.How does it manifest and show itself?
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Or holds you hair back whilst you vomit after knocking back too many mojitos.
That, my friend, is true love.
I get the second line in your post but not the first!:eek:
Any more subtle ways of telling?
Hmm.........
he passes up a night out with the boys to stay in with you and watch a 'rom com' and eat GU puddings.
personally I prefer to ask someone if they love me rather than trying to figure it out from a series of gestures
I may be jumping the gun but it sounds like you may be wondering whether your partner loves you or not
But I guess things like watching anything they hate you want to watch just to keep you happy.
But if they say it, then that's generally enough for me.
I dont have a partner im just planning ahead!
If you read the opener again youll see im not looking for gestures-thats my point.
I think all this shows that he loves me, I can only really go off my experience. I think you know if your partner loves you or not, if they make sacrifices for you in life.
right....then I would say you're an impossible quest because love between two people varies depending on who the individuals are, and therefore the signs of that love will also vary
hell, if it were that easy to figure out when someone loves us, then 90% of the angst in the world would go away
I did read your opening post thank you and you say "grand gestures" not "gestures"
a grand gesture to me wouold be for example lots of weekends away, taking out adverts in papers to proclaim their love, repeated expensive presents, that sort of thing
gestures would be things like cooking you're favourite food when you're ill even though their no good at cooking or sitting through an episode of SCd with all your girlmates because he knows you love it and then dropping them off home because they're drunk or noticing the fridge needs clearing out and doing it themselves rather than leaving a note for you to do it. kind of every day things
The toilet reference confused me as in my home the toilet room is seperate from the bathroom.
How much are doing household chores and love for your partner linked?
That may just mean that he fancies an evening of rumpey pumpey
That's true, we just assume (maybe even delude ourselves) that they do, maybe it's just enjoying company. How do you know they're not just settling?
I guess you ultimately just have to believe them when they say it. And not think about it too much, I mean surely it only matters in the starting out phases anyway?
BIB: it matters quite a lot if you're years into a relationship and they suddenly stop loving you.
I suppose but then surely it's more than subtle things by that point? I would've thought, and obviously I've not been in a 10 year+ relationship so don't know. But by then it's less about knowing they love you and more about you realising something is wrong in the relationship. More fighting, less time together.
Maybe it does come as a surprise to some, but I always fiigured there would be signs of some sort. That's perhaps naivety on my part.
I would take a very dim view of it if my boyfriend did that. And I certainly wouldn't take it as a sign that he loved me.
That was it for me. It might have been the fact that a hero of mine was on the radio - it was only him I wanted to talk to about it.
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