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8 year old daughter sleeps with partner
Northcroft
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Hi all
What do you think of this?
My partner has an 8 year old daughter who lives here 4 days, then with her dad and his partner for 4 days.
When she's here she sleeps with my partner, despite having her own bedroom.
When I first met my partner 2.5 years ago, her daughter slept in her own bed, she'd get up in the night but my partner always put her back in her bed.
But for the last year she's been sleeping every time she's here with my partner
This doesn't exactly amuse me, and if I say anything I get the "she comes first, she was here before you" spiel
In my eyes, she should be in her own bed at age 8
At her dads she shares a room with her dads partners daughter who's the same age
Thoughts?
What do you think of this?
My partner has an 8 year old daughter who lives here 4 days, then with her dad and his partner for 4 days.
When she's here she sleeps with my partner, despite having her own bedroom.
When I first met my partner 2.5 years ago, her daughter slept in her own bed, she'd get up in the night but my partner always put her back in her bed.
But for the last year she's been sleeping every time she's here with my partner
This doesn't exactly amuse me, and if I say anything I get the "she comes first, she was here before you" spiel
In my eyes, she should be in her own bed at age 8
At her dads she shares a room with her dads partners daughter who's the same age
Thoughts?
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This all over again? :yawn::yawn:
Everyone (admittedly you could count them on the fingers of 2 hands) ive asked about this particular issue says its strange.
But, only 2 out of them have been parents.
So im asking the good people of here what they think.
I was given lots of abuse, the advice i got was gratefully received
I'm again, just asking this particular question.
Nothing else.
I don't think it's THAT strange, to be honest. The parent just needs to try and wean the daughter off and get her sleeping on her own again. If your partner doesn't want to do that then that is the problem.
True, she doesn't even try and put her in her own bed
She's been here 2 nights, both in bed at 8.30
If you have an issue then have you spoken to her about it ?
You call that a "partner"
Excuse me DS'rs.
YOUR PARTNER DOESN'T WANT SEX WITH YOU.
Stop bothering her and us. She's reduced herself to making herself unwashed to get rid of you.
TAKE THE HINT SEX-GOD.
The daughter is probably unsettled, being shared out like a toy is not going to be easy, so yes maybe she wants to be with someone. When my ex and I split my son slept with me for a year, eventually he stopped.
8 to me is pushing it a bit.
Maybe the arrangement of care isn't suiting her? It could be an insecurity thing
Most children need one base 'home' and a good relationship with the other parent and regular access. Some kids can do the half share but a lot find it confusing
How long are you wiling to let this go on? Until this poor girl leaves home and her mum can't drag her into bed between you? You don't have to put up with this dreadful relationship. You don't have to be nasty about it, just put this poor little girl before your terrible life with her mother and explain to your girlfriend that it isn't a healthy relationship and at the very least you need a break to evaluate what you want to do.it will be hard initially but to be brutally honest what you describe sounds like a relationship you'd see on Jeremy Kyle , and who the hell wants that?
I don't think it is necessarily this. It may just be an over-protective mother worrying about her daughter.
It may even be her daughter resenting you as a "new" dad, and subconsciously trying to manipulate her mother into giving you less attention.
your partner does need to understand that her actions are damaging your relationship. it depends whether you both want to fix it. maybe being more reassuiring would be better than being confrontational. It sounds like you are concerned, rather than angry, if you are talking about it here, over an extended period
If this has been going on for at least a year, the mother just doesn't want to deal with the problem or has little interest in sharing a bed with you when it comes to intimacy.
when its time to turn TV off on a school night, i will usually put him in his own room, sometimes i leave him..
maybe its a security thing
Lol, nope not had a bath since August/September
And isn't playing poker any more with that bloke