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Sexual Harassment on the street
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I was on my way to college and leaving the station A man approached me giving leaflets out (he is there every wednesday) I said no thanks he then followed me down the street saying " can i have your number ?" i said i am taken and he asked me to go for lunch " i ignored him i was trying to cross the road i stood there and he turned and went back up the street i thought he was going to follow me all the way to college ! It was scary its not like it was a one of i have to see this man every Wednesday.
I am hoping he will leave me alone but what if he doesn't !
anyone else have the same issue
I am hoping he will leave me alone but what if he doesn't !
anyone else have the same issue
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How on earth did you meet your current attachment? Did you first correspond for 10 years from separate concrete cells wrapped in bubble wrap?
It's a wonder anyone has a relationship nowadays with all this utterly stupid and damaging false accusation and attention seeking.
She was followed, let me follow your mother/sister down the street and demand a lunch date with them pal...let's see how open and tolerant you are then.
Strangely enough I was sitting in my car with the window open at the train station waiting for my son. Suddenly this old guy pulls up in a white van and starts talking to me. So I turned up my car radio and closed the car window until he drove off.
For goodness sake she didn't say he demanded she go to lunch. And just how far did he follow her? Just long enough to ask two questions and get rebuffed before turning and going back whence he came.
He has done it three times now but this time it worse I think he must do it to others do i am thinking of doing an anonymous tip off but he did leave me after a while so i am not to sure.
I am 21 but could pass for about 16 he looks about late 30's he is eastern European maybe that is normal in there countries but i don't know.
Your OP doesn't make it sound like the third time. If it is as scary as you say then report it.
about 100 yards.
First time i shrugged it off but he always crosses the road to try and give me a leaflet.what about if he seeks revenge ?
Honestly! He's trying to get you to take a leaflet. The best thing to do instead of looking like a scared rabbit and hurtling off is just look straight ahead, walk normal speed and just say 'No' in a firm way to each and any question. If he lays a hand on you, or stands in your way to try and impede you then report it as soon as you can (not 999 though) or if near the station turn on your heels and go back and ask the staff there if they can help you.
Otherwise imo you're getting yourself stressed over something I don't think you need to.
What planet do you live on where somebody pursues somebody else for 100 yards for the sole purpose of handing them a leaflet?
I assure you as a man there is only one thing this man wanted to give the OP and it's not a leaflet.
What a bloke following a girl asking for a date? :eek:
Funny that that has been going on just fine for hundreds of years and no one was stupid enough to call it sexual harassment. :rolleyes:
It's called normal trying to hook up with someone.
What has this silly self-important world come to when people abuse laws that are put in place for REAL problems just to force people to do as they say. It's that that should be criminalised.
A nasty control mindset abusing laws that were put there for real problems. Selfish and insulting to people really affected and insulting to innocent people they make false sexual harassment accusations about.
Blokes can't go following women like that. It is intimidating. Maybe a bit of commonsense from blokes wouldn't go amiss.
I am the innocent one there is no one to walk with i do sometimes see a lad on train who walks the same way i may get him to walk with me if i see him.
It is indeed intimidating. when I was younger I'd have been petrified to be honest especially if it was an older bloke. Some women just are not comfortable with wolf whistles, comments, being followed by strange men. The 39 year old me would happily tell him "aw, look mate, you're boring me now. Approach me again and I'll shove your testicles down your throat, now do one".
Yes out here in the real world we call that trying to pick someone up. (I didn't invent it, it's been going on since Adam and Eve!)
I think the new generation live way too much on facebook to the point that really meeting people is a skill they can't handle any longer.
The worst part being that because of their own self-importance they think that it's them that is normal and able to abuse any law they like to get what they want. :rolleyes:
All because he didn't use the correct way to approach someone and that is to ask for a friendship request on Facebook. :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:
Typical male response. It is the third time, so he is clearly not getting the message and refusing to take no for an answer. It is harrassment. He is also considerably older - and clearly doesn't have much in the way of brain cells.
And if your way of hooking up with someone is harrassing women in the streets - I suggest you work on improving your communication skills.
What is getting what she wants - to be left alone by creepy blokes in the street. Not unreasonable I would say.
Don't complain as such but Inform the police about how his behaviour, which was not a one-off, makes you feel; ie uncomfortable; and ask if an officer could have a quiet word to explain this to him.
How anyone of you would have coped in the real world before Facebook is not worth thinking about.
It really is insulting to victims of genuine abuse and innocent people who this new generation so readily make false accusations about.
Enjoy your self-pity and self-righteous control by abusing laws.