Maybe try SANDS people there are going through similiar and it it might be a help to you and the people there are used to reading posts like the one you have just made.
Also it is specifically for people in your situation and you will be freer (that looks weird) to post without unwanted comments.:)
Just to point out that I wasn't aware that Sands existed until after I'd posted this thread, but thankyou, I'll definitely turn to them for advice in the future.
Just to point out that I wasn't aware that Sands existed until after I'd posted this thread, but thankyou, I'll definitely turn to them for advice in the future.
It's good to talk to other people who are going through the same thing but I suppose it can be a bit hard going at times as you can imagine. All the best to you.
Just remembered that there might be a local SANDS support group in your area and a contact number for a person ( I think they call them a local befrienders) who you can phone for just a chat, maybe the hospital will have contact numbers etc.
This is completely heartbreaking. I'm so so sorry you've had to go through that but so pleased you got to hold your little boy. Be strong, he'll always be with you in your heart xx
Wow, people lose perspective far too easily.
Part of me hopes this thread is removed so the op doesn't have to read the pathetic bickering over an incredibly sad part of her life.
Wow, people lose perspective far too easily.
Part of me hopes this thread is removed so the op doesn't have to read the pathetic bickering over an incredibly sad part of her life.
That's the problem with posting about such an personal and emotive story on General Discussion on DS.
Specialist forums, websites and blogs will always offer more support and useful information.
I couldn't do it, I believe that it's not my life to take. Whatever happened, I would let the pregnancy progress until either the baby passed away before birth, or was born and died later on. If the baby did survive then I would accept that it was my child and I would look after him/her no matter what.
What other people choose to do is up to them, I'm talking about what I would do, not what I think others should.
The thread has moved on from the original question. I assume you didn't get to read the latest posts by the OP before you posted?
If you've read the whole thread and still posted that then it's not appropriate imo.
The thread has moved on from the original question. I assume you didn't get to read the latest posts by the OP before you posted?
If you've read the whole thread and still posted that then it's not appropriate imo.
this is general discussion and the poster is answering the question posed i don`t see how it`s any more inappropriate than the op [or the entire thread] is.
So happy to see most of last nights posts were removed.
Nooway I would suggest you look towards forums that are more specific to your needs.
I used to go on a pregnancy forum that had a whole sub-forum for miscarriage, still born and neonatal death. I found it very useful when I was suffering recurrent miscarriage.
I would also suggest you contact SANDS and I am hoping your hospital have offered you support and counseling. There will also be a proper postmortum I would assume.
The thread has moved on from the original question. I assume you didn't get to read the latest posts by the OP before you posted?
If you've read the whole thread and still posted that then it's not appropriate imo.
Even if mariets had read the latest posts, her post still isn't inappropriate. If it was then the mods would have removed it along with the myriad of other posts they removed last night.
The thread has moved on from the original question. I assume you didn't get to read the latest posts by the OP before you posted?
If you've read the whole thread and still posted that then it's not appropriate imo.
Its appropriate to the thread title!! The thread got hi-jacked somewhat but Mariets post is relevant
Nooway, I have just read your post from last night, wanted to send you love and best wishes. Glad it went as well as it could have and that you have come through the other side now. So sad but you know you have done the right thing.
I think it is if someone puts up a post about how they wouldn't have made the decision the OP did after she announces the baby has died. If that isn't insensitive in the extreme I don't know what is.
I think it is if someone puts up a post about how they wouldn't have made the decision the OP did after she announces the baby has died. If that isn't insensitive in the extreme I don't know what is.
RIP baby Nicholas.
So because Nooway made a decision then no one else is entitled to an opinion of what their decision would have been? Did you read the title of the thread?
I think it is if someone puts up a post about how they wouldn't have made the decision the OP did after she announces the baby has died. If that isn't insensitive in the extreme I don't know what is.
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Just to point out that I wasn't aware that Sands existed until after I'd posted this thread, but thankyou, I'll definitely turn to them for advice in the future.
Aww that's lovely, thank you Xxx
It's good to talk to other people who are going through the same thing but I suppose it can be a bit hard going at times as you can imagine. All the best to you.
Just remembered that there might be a local SANDS support group in your area and a contact number for a person ( I think they call them a local befrienders) who you can phone for just a chat, maybe the hospital will have contact numbers etc.
Part of me hopes this thread is removed so the op doesn't have to read the pathetic bickering over an incredibly sad part of her life.
That's the problem with posting about such an personal and emotive story on General Discussion on DS.
Specialist forums, websites and blogs will always offer more support and useful information.
Yes, it really should have gone in Advice, not GD.
The thread has moved on from the original question. I assume you didn't get to read the latest posts by the OP before you posted?
If you've read the whole thread and still posted that then it's not appropriate imo.
this is general discussion and the poster is answering the question posed i don`t see how it`s any more inappropriate than the op [or the entire thread] is.
Nooway I would suggest you look towards forums that are more specific to your needs.
I used to go on a pregnancy forum that had a whole sub-forum for miscarriage, still born and neonatal death. I found it very useful when I was suffering recurrent miscarriage.
I would also suggest you contact SANDS and I am hoping your hospital have offered you support and counseling. There will also be a proper postmortum I would assume.
xxxxx
Its appropriate to the thread title!! The thread got hi-jacked somewhat but Mariets post is relevant
and grossly insensitive and badly timed. :mad:
Hardly "grossly insensitive".
I think it is if someone puts up a post about how they wouldn't have made the decision the OP did after she announces the baby has died. If that isn't insensitive in the extreme I don't know what is.
RIP baby Nicholas.
Thats just your reading of it. There was clearly nothing detrimental intended
This is getting ridiculous.
So because Nooway made a decision then no one else is entitled to an opinion of what their decision would have been? Did you read the title of the thread?
She said she didn't read the whole thread.
Yes. It's ridiculous.