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SexbombSexbomb Posts: 20,005
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I don't know if it's down to my age but i am still a pretty young bloke but I just don't have the feelings much lately, sex when I think about it at the time is good but when I feel about doing it I'm put right off it thinking its horrible and not right. Masturbating I feel more comfy with but even these feelings I get put off sometimes and don't feel like it.

Used to be every couple of days I might have a fumble but now it's more like once a week :o

I'm not exactly in the best of health so wondering if that is something to do with it or just that I'm middle aged. My doctor asked did I want to try Viagra but that put me off.
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    BunionsBunions Posts: 15,048
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    Erm .... good to share and all that :o
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    vosnevosne Posts: 14,131
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    Apt username for the thread..:D
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    Miss XYZMiss XYZ Posts: 14,023
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    Damn, vosne beat me to it!!
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    vosnevosne Posts: 14,131
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    Miss XYZ wrote: »
    Damn, vosne beat me to it!!

    Now you're rubbing it in. OP's not getting beaten to it :(
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    getzlsgetzls Posts: 4,007
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    Sex is all right, but it's not as good as the real thing.;)
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    dee123dee123 Posts: 46,317
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    Uh-huh. Why do you think we care?
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    OvalteenieOvalteenie Posts: 24,169
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    I'm concerned that you're not in the best of health and you're still a pretty young guy - you should be. Ill health or unhealthy lifestyle factors can have an effect - obesity, smoking, diabetes, etc. How is your mood? - depression can also reduce sex drive. Address underlying causes before Viagra. Please see your GP for a review.
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    trayhop123trayhop123 Posts: 886
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    you say your a young guy , then later on in the same post ,,,, middle-aged ???
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 32,379
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    trayhop123 wrote: »
    you say your a young guy , then later on in the same post ,,,, middle-aged ???

    His profile says 42, hardly young:confused:
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    Rowan HedgeRowan Hedge Posts: 3,861
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    woodbush wrote: »
    His profile says 42, hardly young:confused:

    I have this picture in my head of Sexbomb being a big chubby hairy tattooed trucker who likes a little black dress.:eek::p
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    OvalteenieOvalteenie Posts: 24,169
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    woodbush wrote: »
    His profile says 42, hardly young:confused:

    It's all relative. 42 is quite young in health terms. It's a young age to start getting ill health.

    But it's an age when your lifestyle & diet starts catching up with you. I know guys in their 30s and 40s who can either look in their 20s or in their 50s.
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 32,379
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    Rowan Hedge wrote: »
    I have this picture in my head of Sexbomb being a big chubby hairy tattooed trucker who likes a little black dress.:eek::p

    That's not what his twitter picture shows:D
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 32,379
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    Ovalteenie wrote: »
    It's all relative. 42 is quite young in health terms. It's a young age to start getting ill health.

    But it's an age when your lifestyle & diet starts catching up with you. I know guys in their 30s and 40s who can either look in their 20s or in their 50s.

    I definitely look in my 60s:D
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    juliancarswelljuliancarswell Posts: 8,896
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    "Don't knock Masturbation. It's sex with somebody you love."

    Woody Allen
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    HypnodiscHypnodisc Posts: 22,728
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    I'm not sure why your doctor would prescribe you Viagra.

    It doesn't make you more interested in sex, it merely induces the necessities in men who physically struggle to get it up.

    It's a myth that it makes you aroused, it merely helps get and maintain an erection when aroused by something else. If you aren't in an arousing situation the Viagra will have absolutely no effect.

    If you seriously have problems a therapist of some sort would be of more use.
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 578
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    Take Zinc and lose a little weight maybe OP ?
    Unless of course you dont have any weight issue.
    I found that after losing a lot of weight my sex drive returned, the problem for me is that I am now at the stage where I have lost enough weight for women to get attracted but not enough for me to be totally comfortable in the sack :D

    I soon will be though ;)

    It may be a mental issue, just need to speak to a sex counsellor type person - I bet your GP can get you in touch with someone if that is the case.
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    juliancarswelljuliancarswell Posts: 8,896
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    "Don't knock Masturbation. It's sex with somebody you love."

    Woody Allen
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    HypnodiscHypnodisc Posts: 22,728
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    juliancarswell wrote: »
    "Don't knock Masturbation. It's sex with somebody you love."

    Woody Allen

    You already posted that.
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 70
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    the longer you wait the better it feels, well as long as you don't wait 10 years but if u masturbate once a week then that one day that you do it is worth all the wait ;)
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    SJ_MentalSJ_Mental Posts: 16,138
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    Your hand is always ready and willing, Never answers back and is always a cheap date. ;)
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 7,182
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    Are you saying you feel guilty about sex or guilty about masturbation or both? Or neither? Or what?
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    mushymanrobmushymanrob Posts: 17,992
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    vosne wrote: »
    Apt username for the thread..:D

    ha ha... my thoughts too..

    i kinda know what you mean.... im 56, and find the act of intercourse now rather tiresome. its not like it was when i was younger. its too much trouble now all that jigging about..

    i disliked viagra... it does the job in as much as it gives you an erection, but it doesnt give you the urge, and without the urge its pretty pointless. cialis is better.
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    djfunnymandjfunnyman Posts: 12,608
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    Rowan Hedge wrote: »
    I have this picture in my head of Sexbomb being a big chubby hairy tattooed trucker who likes a little black dress.:eek::p

    Yeah I have that same picture
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    Jane Doh!Jane Doh! Posts: 43,307
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    Sexbomb wrote: »
    I don't know if it's down to my age but i am still a pretty young bloke but I just don't have the feelings much lately, sex when I think about it at the time is good but when I feel about doing it I'm put right off it thinking its horrible and not right. Masturbating I feel more comfy with but even these feelings I get put off sometimes and don't feel like it.

    Used to be every couple of days I might have a fumble but now it's more like once a week :o

    I'm not exactly in the best of health so wondering if that is something to do with it or just that I'm middle aged. My doctor asked did I want to try Viagra but that put me off.
    Are you happy with your sex drive? If so, don't worry about it. Sex drive decreases with age in a lot of people, and for a whole variety of other reasons too. If you're happy with the way things are, it doesn't matter what everyone else gets up to. I've not had sex since I left my ex in 2005 and that suits me fine.
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    mushymanrobmushymanrob Posts: 17,992
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    Jane Doh! wrote: »
    Are you happy with your sex drive? If so, don't worry about it. Sex drive decreases with age in a lot of people, and for a whole variety of other reasons too. If you're happy with the way things are, it doesn't matter what everyone else gets up to. I've not had sex since I left my ex in 2005 and that suits me fine.

    i think its easier for women to 'turn off' then men tbh... the male sex drive is normally greater then the female (generally, not exclusively).

    but... erm... are you talking about sex (intercourse) only or are you including diy?

    the op can get testosterone levels checked at the docs, if they are low that can be addressed with testosterone gel or injections.
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