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Friend changing plans at the last minute. What would you do?
I'm staying with family tonight, as i'm half way through a 250 mile journey to see another friend who has invited me to stay tomorrow night. Everything was planned so that i'm leaving my family tomorrow morning when they go out, and then i will continue the rest of my journey to see my friend tomorrow.
Now my friend has just messaged me saying some friends of his that he hasnt seen for a long time are in town and want to take him out to dinner tomorrow evening. Unfortunately, i'm not invited, but I can still come up late tomorrow night if I want to.
All this means basically I will be hanging around all day waiting to see my friend if I choose to go.
What would you do?
Now my friend has just messaged me saying some friends of his that he hasnt seen for a long time are in town and want to take him out to dinner tomorrow evening. Unfortunately, i'm not invited, but I can still come up late tomorrow night if I want to.
All this means basically I will be hanging around all day waiting to see my friend if I choose to go.
What would you do?
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I'll tell you what I would do. I would spend extra time with family then turn round and go back. Then re-write the Christmas card list.
I agree. That is no way to treat a friend.
Also why the Hell couldn't you join your friend and his mates for dinner???
And me!
You shouldve told the second lot that you already had plans and that you couldnt make it
or you shouldve rung me and asked if it was okay if they joined us for the day and even then thats kind of taking th episs and makes you look bad if you had of said no
but to blatantly tell you that he has made alternative plans after youve already travelled half way is saying he prefers to spend time with them and theyre more important than you or he has the undeveloped id of a small squid ie always chasing the green grass of someone or somewhere else.
You need to telephone him and not let him off with a text, telephone him and say im heading home/youre not worth it/were not friends anymore/eff off out of my life
thats it, yes it sucks to lose a friend but youre showing him you wont stand for it and youre worth so much more than a friend like that, so stick it to him/her and dont let them get away with it.
If I had a friend like you prepared to travel over 200 miles to visit me I would value you like gold dust, thats a fact.
Call him at the very last minute to cancel (see how he likes it), tell him you'll see him another time.
The very least he could have done was to invite you out along with his other friends.
At a later date (so as to not ruin your day now), I would contact him to say that what he did, after all your efforts to go to meet him, was lousy.
I cant go to dinner with his friends as they dont like me for reasons i wont go into as they arent relevant. They are also taking him for a thankyou dinner although I would be happy to pay for myself if I had been invited.
So ive taken the advice on board and said im not coming tomoro.
Thanks all.
You've made a good decision, hope you have a good day whatever you decide to do.
If you agree to come after his meal, be prepared for another 'change of plan' which could result in him staying out for drinks, making a full night of it, and switching his phone off, leaving you pretty screwed.
The morale of the story - he sounds like a bit of a shitty guy. Spend extra time with the family or make other plans back home.
The OP has already said that he can't go to dinner with them because the friends don't like him. Also, he has decided not to meet up at all and has told the friend that.
Right decision there, IMO.
Hahaha that would be brilliant!
250 miles for a brush off!
I wouldn't have given him the courtesy of a call.
I'd have waited for him to call and ask "Where are you?" and then asked him if that was a serious question.
Utterly self centred.