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Found my boyfriend on a dating website
scar_tissue
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I can see he last logged in 14th April this year although it does say he is attached.
He did mention being on a dating website at the start of our relationship but that was 8 months ago so I decided to have a nose with a made up profile and found him.
It also says he is looking for any gender - which I had no idea he is bisexual!
Should I talk to him about this? I have no idea why is he still on a bloody dating website and has logged in recently. I was half expecting it to say he last logged in at the beginning of September when we first started dating, but no...
He did mention being on a dating website at the start of our relationship but that was 8 months ago so I decided to have a nose with a made up profile and found him.
It also says he is looking for any gender - which I had no idea he is bisexual!
Should I talk to him about this? I have no idea why is he still on a bloody dating website and has logged in recently. I was half expecting it to say he last logged in at the beginning of September when we first started dating, but no...
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Seeing as it says he is attached, I think I can forgive him. I still want to talk to him about this though but it's hard to without being thought of as a sneak and him possibly turning it back onto me invading his privacy.
I thought about having a little flirt to see how he'd reply but that would just be too sneaky and I can't bring myself to do that.
If it's been 8 months, what made you decide to have a nose? Sounds like something else happened to instigate you to do it?
As I said in my previous post we'd had a disagreement over how often we see each other, he's happy with staying over once a week whereas I want more so I decided to look on there to see if he's still got a profile on there and he has.
Good luck with it, I know it can't have been easy finding out this information and though it's not a good idea to snoop around, it's also not acceptable to be dishonest with a partner.
A dating website is a dating website... you don't go on there to find friends, but to date! So, even though he states he is attached on there, his intentions don't look innocent to me.
He might have just had a few chats, but I bet flirty chats, sorry to be blunt. I went through the same cr@p with an ex boyfriend doing stuff behind my back and it's hell, so I wouldn't tolerate this sort of thing... no way.
I think I will do this although I am not seeing him till Thursday so will have to have it playing on my mind till then arrgh!
Theres only 2 reasons he's on there why I can think of - he's either keeping his options open or he's looking to have his ego stroked.
Or he met some people he is not compatible with romantically and they get on purely as friends?
On a dating website?
This is quite possible OP.
Yea, I have done this in the past, Some people are better friends than partners. It does happen
This happens a lot.
I think you do have an idea why he's still on there and why he restricts his relationship with you to one night a week. He has also conceàled a truth about his sexuality. You're not really in his life at all, are you?
EDITED , I think after 8 months he should be more into you or he isn't going to be
I don't think he's cheating on me. I know he sits at home a lot listening to music because I can tell by his last.fm and he said he would talk to me about me moving in with him next time I see him, as I accused him of not being serious when he asked me to move in with him back in January.
But yes the sexuality is a concern because he didn't tell me so I will have to bring that up some time.
You seem quite good at keeping tabs on him....
Well it makes me a bit suspicious when he doesn't want to see me that much for no good reason. It's not difficult just to tap in a website, I don't even have to do that as I downloaded the app which tells me which of my friends are online.
So are you a member there as well?
She set up a fake profile to check on him