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Giving presents to siblings on birthdays
bryemycaz
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Does anyone else do this? as I have a friend who gives her eldest a present on her youngest's birthday and vice versa. So they do not feel left out, personally I do not agree with this. As it is only setting them up for further trouble down the lline. My two know that their birthdays is their special day and they accept that the other one does not get a present because it's their brothers/sisters day.
Looking online it does seem that there are a lot of people who do this. My friend says she does it to stop a major temper tanturm spoiling the birthdays.
Christmas is different of course they understand they both get presents that day.
Looking online it does seem that there are a lot of people who do this. My friend says she does it to stop a major temper tanturm spoiling the birthdays.
Christmas is different of course they understand they both get presents that day.
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On a similar note, we've just had a new baby. A couple of friends, as well as sending a present for the newborn, sent a little something for my two other kids as well. Nice touch I thought - though not expected or necessary.
The point of a birthday is it is that one persons day to feel special. Especially for kids!
I have done that as well, I also make a fuss of the older child when visiting the newborn one.
Quite.
The whole point of a birthday is for it to be a special day for the kid with the birthday. Though it's usually tough luck if you get a birthday too close to christmas, my sister always felt hard done to because of this
I also don't agree with people who have birthday party's having to buy people who are invited presents also, My cousin does this, she has 3 children and a 4th on the way, barely has a penny to scrape together.
But says she has to buy presents for those coming because the others will be left out, well it isn't there bloody birthday
"Failure in parenting"? LOL. What ridiculous hyperbole.
Never said failure in parenting
Birthdays in my family are a great family occasion with perhaps a party, or a meal out for all our children. The birthday boy/girl gets their presents and is the center of the day. Thankfully my children love eachother dearly and really enjoy birthdays of their own or their siblings.
If your children cannot cope with a brother or sister having birthday presents without the need for a "jealousy" present then your parenting is not up to par. Were you mad with jealousy when your siblings recieved a birthday gift?
We ways buy a birthday gift on behalf of our children to present to their sibling if they have not made one to give, an they find a lot of happiness and pleasure giving that gift.
I've always really enjoyed birthdays, perhaps because of the jealousy prezzy, perhaps just because - I still get excited over them!
What happened to party's that consisted off, Sausages on Sticks, Cheese & Pineapple, Sausage Rolls, Sandwiches, Jelly and Ice Cream, Cake.
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This seems to come from the same style of parenting that advocates prizes for all, no one can be disappointed or display any negative emotion, buying kids things they want to avoid “a scene” because it’s more convenient, avoiding the social lessons the child needs to learn such as dealing with jealousy and disappointment because it’s easier to get them to shut up their moaning than think long-term about the child’s development.
I said it because children have to learn early as possible they need to share and not expect everything to be about them, spoiling a child IMO is a failure in parenting. Not preparing them for the outside world where not everything will be geared to giving them a treat when someone else has one.
Which is true, everything has to be PC these days
That reminds me of this blogpost I've seen some friends sharing on facebook recently - essentially the blog writer is teaching her kids *not* to share:
http://www.sunnyskyz.com/blog/365/This-Mom-Perfectly-Explains-Why-She-Does-Not-Teach-Her-Kids-To-Share#z4FLHmE0fbJ7lS6r.01
Utterly ridiculous, in my opinion.
Why would you want to encourage jealousy between your kids?
Sometimes, and I am an example of it too, people turn out fine despite their parents, but why encourage bad parenting is all I am saying really. When some things can so easily be done better.
Always willing to learn myself.
I don't think I actually said that anyway, if I am willing to learn that makes a mockery of the idea I think everything I do is right surely ?