That's what the OP was trying to find out. What reasons could there be for someone to not even attempt to breastfeed in the first place, having never done it before. I don't think many people have actually answered that.
The OP could have simply said
"why does a woman decide to not even attempt to breastfeed" without all the emotive - and provocative - undertones
Woman moaning about everything the female body has to go thru with pregnancy and birth only for sore boobs to kick in. Cue everyone giving her advice on how to send the milk back. I just kept thinking, try giving ur son the milk ur body is desperately trying to tell u to give him! Because if u want the best for him that's what you'd do.
I understand that bf is hard but I do think people should at least try. Unless it's medically impossible or you've got serious emotional issues around it then I don't understand why u wouldn't. This girl was boasting about it before hand, daring midwives to try n make her, I'm going in with my bottle n that's it etc I just don't get it :S
It soon becomes a thinly veiled breast versus bottle debate, you cannot simply filter out "medical and emotional reasons" that woman doesn't BF?
I actually think if the OP asks a valid question BUT it was done so with the pious I managed to successfully breastfeed[/I] so everyone else should opinion.
Both my SIL's have 3 children and neither have BF any of them. I've never felt the need to ask why, it's not something that crossed my mind?
Granted they didn't post it over FB [that in itself is an issue - you post something and you open yourself up to criticism} but women do choose not to BF without trying it and who are we to question the reasons?
At the risk of getting a slating i will answer the op's question from my point of view. I did not breast feed as the whole idea of it revolted me, it still does 23 years after i decided not to do it. Even typing about it turns my stomach. Every woman has a choice and should not be condemned for it, some of my friends breastfed and some didn't, i expect pretty much as the same as now, although it does seem nowadays that there is a lot more pressure to do so.
At the risk of getting a slating i will answer the op's question from my point of view. I did not breast feed as the whole idea of it revolted me, it still does 23 years after i decided not to do it. Even typing about it turns my stomach. Every woman has a choice and should not be condemned for it, some of my friends breastfed and some didn't, i expect pretty much as the same as now, although it does seem nowadays that there is a lot more pressure to do so.
I felt exactly like you. Whether those thoughts had any influence on my body, I will never know but I had no milk.
I failed as a Mum apparently, but he still went to university at Cambridge
I felt exactly like you. Whether those thoughts had any influence on my body, I will never know but I had no milk.
I failed as a Mum apparently, but he still went to university at Cambridge
Mine went to uni too lol, Regarding the milk I am not sure i did either, I know i never had any pains / discomfort that they say you get when you are not breastfeeding Either way there was never going to be a chance of me doing it, still shuddering at the thought.
I felt exactly like you. Whether those thoughts had any influence on my body, I will never know but I had no milk.
I failed as a Mum apparently, but he still went to university at Cambridge
You don't have to answer this but I'm curious, was there a medical reason you had no milk? I've heard of people having low milk supplies but not no milk.
There's a few people in this thread that have mentioned low milk supplies and I remember reading an article a while back which said something about there being a link between women who struggle to conceive and being able to successfully breastfeed. Something to do with there being medical advancements in helping women conceive but they'd then have the issues with feeding once the baby was born. I've always wondered if there was any truth to it.
You don't have to answer this but I'm curious, was there a medical reason you had no milk? I've heard of people having low milk supplies but not no milk.
There's a few people in this thread that have mentioned low milk supplies and I remember reading an article a while back which said something about there being a link between women who struggle to conceive and being able to successfully breastfeed. Something to do with there being medical advancements in helping women conceive but they'd then have the issues with feeding once the baby was born. I've always wondered if there was any truth to it.
Well knock me down with a feather!
I posted earlier in this thread about not producing enough milk for my baby. My husband and I tried to conceive for 4 years which resulted in IVF.
I have never heard of this connection but it could explain why because I have always wondered why I wasn't producing enough breast milk when other people I knew never had that problem.
Wish I'd have read that article:(
Well knock me down with a feather!
I posted earlier in this thread about not producing enough milk for my baby. My husband and I tried to conceive for 4 years which resulted in IVF.
I have never heard of this connection but it could explain why because I have always wondered why I wasn't producing enough breast milk when other people I knew never had that problem.
Wish I'd have read that article:(
It could be a connection - I've never heard of it before at all, but it's very interesting - but my own problem with producing milk was anxiety, which apparently is a biggie too. I heard that the anxiety of "Oh god, am I feeding my baby enough milk??" can be a big enough psychological block.
It's more of a minefield than the pro-breast-feeders would have us think, is what I'm trying to say, yet all most of them seem to do is try to brow-beat new mums into doing it, or making them feel (even more) inadequate if/when they can't.
Well knock me down with a feather!
I posted earlier in this thread about not producing enough milk for my baby. My husband and I tried to conceive for 4 years which resulted in IVF.
I have never heard of this connection but it could explain why because I have always wondered why I wasn't producing enough breast milk when other people I knew never had that problem.
Wish I'd have read that article:(
Interesting - my son was conceived with IVF and I didn't produce enough milk
also I was in hospital on bed rest for 7 weeks and had pre eclampsia and he was prem - apparently 75% more chance of PE if IVF pregnancy
I breast fed both of mine but I know some people who didn't. I wouldn't ever tell them they should have breast fed and I never asked them why they didn't. I did think that breast feeding was more convenient though, but I didn't say that to anyone.
that`s an interesting connection and quite logical when you think of it. is it something to do with hormones?
I didn't produce enough milk the first time I could barely get 4 oz a day out and the second time even less no.2 was put on formula milk from a sippy like cup from the midwife the second day as she said he was literally starving and was angry at the nurses in the hospital for not giving him some formula before I went back to the midwife led unit of my local hospital.
I have read somewhere previously that sometimes with C section patients as they don't go through labour and birth the same way that the hormones released for breast feeding don't kick in the same way
Interesting - my son was conceived with IVF and I didn't produce enough milk
also I was in hospital on bed rest for 7 weeks and had pre eclampsia and he was prem - apparently 75% more chance of PE if IVF pregnancy
PLease, please dont post things like this. It could easily scare people. We have no idea what your 75% claim is. Whether the rate of PE in IVF sits at 1 in 1 million as opposed to or 0.25 in 1 million, or if it means 75% of people who take IVF ecperience PE. Bandying about an unqualified statistic like that could scare people.
PLease, please dont post things like this. It could easily scare people. We have no idea what your 75% claim is. Whether the rate of PE in IVF sits at 1 in 1 million as opposed to or 0.25 in 1 million, or if it means 75% of people who take IVF ecperience PE. Bandying about an unqualified statistic like that could scare people.
It's not an unqualified statistic. Do some research.
You don't have to answer this but I'm curious, was there a medical reason you had no milk? I've heard of people having low milk supplies but not no milk.
There's a few people in this thread that have mentioned low milk supplies and I remember reading an article a while back which said something about there being a link between women who struggle to conceive and being able to successfully breastfeed. Something to do with there being medical advancements in helping women conceive but they'd then have the issues with feeding once the baby was born. I've always wondered if there was any truth to it.
I don't mind answering at all. No, there was no medical reason. I conceived normally and easily too. Having said that, I had none of the normal signs of pregnancy. No tender breasts, no darkening of the areola, no cravings, no sickness, wasn't tired, didn't need to wee more often.....nothing. I bought a sleep bra for when my breasts got larger and they never did. I didn't even put any weight on except for baby. I went home 5 days after the birth in my size 10 jeans.
I grew a baby and that was it
So maybe there is something in the hormone theory and for some reason mine never kicked in as it should.
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The OP could have simply said
"why does a woman decide to not even attempt to breastfeed" without all the emotive - and provocative - undertones
See below
It soon becomes a thinly veiled breast versus bottle debate, you cannot simply filter out "medical and emotional reasons" that woman doesn't BF?
I actually think if the OP asks a valid question BUT it was done so with the pious I managed to successfully breastfeed[/I] so everyone else should opinion.
Both my SIL's have 3 children and neither have BF any of them. I've never felt the need to ask why, it's not something that crossed my mind?
Granted they didn't post it over FB [that in itself is an issue - you post something and you open yourself up to criticism} but women do choose not to BF without trying it and who are we to question the reasons?
Funny.
I think you should look at the science before posting further ;-)
So tell us what exactly is wrong with formula ?
Please just stop! How we all survived into old age and in huge numbers on formula milk must be a miracle? Do some research.
Formula is a safe and nutritious alternative to breastfeeding. That's not the same as saying breast isn't best. Is this really controversial?
No it's a sign of how the nanny state and the health police have taken over people's senses!
Where did he go? I thought he was going to drop some new groundbreaking science on us.
Typical pro-breastfeeding dirty tactics.
I failed as a Mum apparently, but he still went to university at Cambridge
Mine went to uni too lol, Regarding the milk I am not sure i did either, I know i never had any pains / discomfort that they say you get when you are not breastfeeding Either way there was never going to be a chance of me doing it, still shuddering at the thought.
You don't have to answer this but I'm curious, was there a medical reason you had no milk? I've heard of people having low milk supplies but not no milk.
There's a few people in this thread that have mentioned low milk supplies and I remember reading an article a while back which said something about there being a link between women who struggle to conceive and being able to successfully breastfeed. Something to do with there being medical advancements in helping women conceive but they'd then have the issues with feeding once the baby was born. I've always wondered if there was any truth to it.
Well knock me down with a feather!
I posted earlier in this thread about not producing enough milk for my baby. My husband and I tried to conceive for 4 years which resulted in IVF.
I have never heard of this connection but it could explain why because I have always wondered why I wasn't producing enough breast milk when other people I knew never had that problem.
Wish I'd have read that article:(
It could be a connection - I've never heard of it before at all, but it's very interesting - but my own problem with producing milk was anxiety, which apparently is a biggie too. I heard that the anxiety of "Oh god, am I feeding my baby enough milk??" can be a big enough psychological block.
It's more of a minefield than the pro-breast-feeders would have us think, is what I'm trying to say, yet all most of them seem to do is try to brow-beat new mums into doing it, or making them feel (even more) inadequate if/when they can't.
Interesting - my son was conceived with IVF and I didn't produce enough milk
also I was in hospital on bed rest for 7 weeks and had pre eclampsia and he was prem - apparently 75% more chance of PE if IVF pregnancy
I didn't produce enough milk the first time I could barely get 4 oz a day out and the second time even less no.2 was put on formula milk from a sippy like cup from the midwife the second day as she said he was literally starving and was angry at the nurses in the hospital for not giving him some formula before I went back to the midwife led unit of my local hospital.
I have read somewhere previously that sometimes with C section patients as they don't go through labour and birth the same way that the hormones released for breast feeding don't kick in the same way
PLease, please dont post things like this. It could easily scare people. We have no idea what your 75% claim is. Whether the rate of PE in IVF sits at 1 in 1 million as opposed to or 0.25 in 1 million, or if it means 75% of people who take IVF ecperience PE. Bandying about an unqualified statistic like that could scare people.
I grew a baby and that was it
So maybe there is something in the hormone theory and for some reason mine never kicked in as it should.