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Ladies - do you think I could be dateable?
SirMickTravis
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And if not what do you think I might need to do to change your mind? I've recently started working which I haven't for a long time and which I long considered a hindrance to my dating prospects. In all honesty I don't really have any desire as such any more but I do feel lonely and would benefit from some more company. Having had my day off today I had no idea what to do with it and just ended up walking around town for a few hours. I then came home and have spent the rest of the day online. I've recently got into Star Wars again and all the crazy speculation about the plot for the new movie. Otherwise I'm listening to music. Whatever enhances my mood.
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*parp*
I have a friend I see about once a month but I think you're right that the two go hand in hand. Having lost the desire for dating I've also lost the desire to meet new friends. It may be a medication thing. I just don't think I click with many people though.
I understand - maybe join a group with an interest you share?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hr0-ZCb0nr4
I'm not a *lady, but I'd say that the chances of you getting a date at the moment are negligible. You would come across as too desperate, and women run a mile from that. You don't even have to say anything - the vibes coming from you would be enough.
As soon as your interest starts to wane, or you become pre-occupied with another interest, they will find you.
* not even a gent, just a common bloke ^_^
Ha ha
Well, it will if they like Star Wars.
to be fair I think most women I know know that all the men they know love Star Wars
Yeah okay, perhaps I'm withdrawing back into my childhood a bit. However I struggle to muster much enthusiasm for anything. I don't know why because I haven't given it much thought for the last 10 years but I've being engaging wth Star Wars again. There's a new movie coming up and plenty to speculate about. I spent much of my day yesterday wandering about not knowing what to do. I think today I might go and buy a crossword puzzle book and sit in a quiet cafe if I can find one.
Whatever you do, don't put that on any potential dating website profile.
I think it's more important to look and feel happy. Casual confidence is more appealing than the "man on the prowl" vibe or the "I really want a girlfriend" vibe. That doesn't mean make no effort. Get yourself out there and put yourself into situations where you're more likely to interact with new people.
I think everyone can be 'dateable'. But just make sure you aren't coming across as desperate and that you're only interested because you don't want to feel lonely.
As women will, quite rightly, run a mile if they sense that.