Independence (or to be free of dependents, whichever way you look at it), freedom, no commitments...
Some people (whatever their gender or orientation) aren't wired for relationships.
Yeah I feel constrained in relationships - I just like organising my own life.
Don't get me wrong, I do feel lonely occasionally, but if I ever feel the need to procreate then I'm sure a mutual arrangement can be made with someone.
Yeah I feel constrained in relationships - I just like organising my own life.
Don't get me wrong, I do feel lonely occasionally, but if I ever feel the need to procreate then I'm sure a mutual arrangement can be made with someone.
But you'd have to make a relationship with the child. Being Dad is one of the biggest committments there is. A cold 'I have procreated' followed by 'I feel constrained in relationships' just won't do.
But you'd have to make a relationship with the child. Being Dad is one of the biggest committments there is. A cold 'I have procreated' followed by 'I feel constrained in relationships' just won't do.
I'm sure I could fulfill the emotional needs of the child.
I'm sure I could fulfill the emotional needs of the child.
But HOW when you reject relationships completely? (which I agree you are totally entitled to do) But the fact remains that the most demanding relationship of all is the one formed with children.
See, I don't really believe that avoiding relationships is a matter of logic and intellectual decision making - it's a personality trait. As I said earlier, people either have the capacity for relationships and sharing a life, or they don't.
Why would you be able suddenly to change your personality for a child?
Women are irrational nagging hormonal frigid ****s. Why would anyone in their right mind want to live with 1? A wise man once told me never trust anything that bleeds once a month for no reason
Someone also said that some men are wise and some are otherwise.
My husband is a devoted video game player (he takes his holidays around releases of video games) and plays them as many hours a day or week as he pleases. He doesn't drink beer, but he could if he wanted.
And he and I won't be having children.
The secret to this - and I know this will come as a shock to some - is only to marry someone who has the same ideals, goals and life plans as you do.
That is the general idea, only not always possible as men do tend to put on such an act to impress at first, later on they revert back to the teenager they always were and destined to stay.
Whoah. Strap in, everyone, it's gonna get turbulent in here.
It's true though, gay men must have the most sexual partners than any other sexuality and it makes it hard to have a relationship, when in a small town nearly every gay man has shagged every other gay man.
Is this a joke thread? Being single is brilliant. You can do what you want, eat what you want, watch what you want on tv, get up when you want, go where you want. Ive been in enough relationships to know that all they do is limit what you can do. You end up doing stuff you dont enjoy just to keep someone else happy. Not the way I want to live my life. And I know too many people who are unhappy with their relationships...saddled with kids, massive mortgage to house those kids, high pressure job to make the money to keep that house, going home at nights and getting moaned at, asking for permission to go out, asking for permisiion to spend their own money!! and being forced into spending Sundays at B+Q rather than sitting with their feet up watching the footy. The question should really be, why the hell would any bloke in their right mind want to get married? Lets face it, even sex gets boring after a while.
so you've never been out clubbing with a group of straight guys?
Believe me gay men can find sex a lot easier that straight men, I could walk out this house and get shafted within half an hour......Mind that's probably because there is a cruising site just over the road haha
I'm over 40 and never been married or had any kids. Been in an eleven year relationship previously so I've done my time in that sense. Now I would only consider ever living with or marrying a woman if she was my soul mate.
saddled with kids, massive mortgage to house those kids, high pressure job to make the money to keep that house, going home at nights and getting moaned at.
Yup. A nightmare scenario which I've done my best to avoid.
You know what? I previously defended marriage and all that bollocks. When you check on your wifes email and find an email from her to some bloke called "Rick" saying "Do you fancy a **** on Monday", you realise that the single guys are right.
I'm now more interested in what Schead is going to do. That's brutal, and another reason to be single. You must feel like you've just been kicked in the bollocks x 100.
I can understand why some women choose to be single.
I can also understand why many gay men are single.
But what I don't understand is why some straight men choose to be single. I do know some of them in their 40s and never married and not intented to (they mostly could find somebody if they make an effort and not having unrealistic expectation). I don't want to ask them why (it's a men thing of not talking that kind of thing). Anyone could thnk of why?
There could be a number of reasons for a man not wanting a relationship. This isn't to say that they wouldn't be okay with a bit of 'fun' now and again. I'm just guessing with that bit though. But yeah, there could be a number of reasons why they don't want anything that remotely resembles a commitment.
Previous relationships just didn't work out. Now that i've been on my own for a long time I've come to value my freedom and not having to worry about anyone else. Is that a bit selfish? Maybe, but i'm happy.
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Yeah I feel constrained in relationships - I just like organising my own life.
Don't get me wrong, I do feel lonely occasionally, but if I ever feel the need to procreate then I'm sure a mutual arrangement can be made with someone.
But you'd have to make a relationship with the child. Being Dad is one of the biggest committments there is. A cold 'I have procreated' followed by 'I feel constrained in relationships' just won't do.
I'm sure I could fulfill the emotional needs of the child.
I read it to mean they won't have a relationship with anyone under 17.
But HOW when you reject relationships completely? (which I agree you are totally entitled to do) But the fact remains that the most demanding relationship of all is the one formed with children.
See, I don't really believe that avoiding relationships is a matter of logic and intellectual decision making - it's a personality trait. As I said earlier, people either have the capacity for relationships and sharing a life, or they don't.
Why would you be able suddenly to change your personality for a child?
Someone also said that some men are wise and some are otherwise.
No it's because most gay men are **** who shag anyone willing
Whoah. Strap in, everyone, it's gonna get turbulent in here.
Really? That's got me thinking about turning the other way.
That is the general idea, only not always possible as men do tend to put on such an act to impress at first, later on they revert back to the teenager they always were and destined to stay.
It's true though, gay men must have the most sexual partners than any other sexuality and it makes it hard to have a relationship, when in a small town nearly every gay man has shagged every other gay man.
Believe me gay men can find sex a lot easier that straight men, I could walk out this house and get shafted within half an hour......Mind that's probably because there is a cruising site just over the road haha
I doubt baby P would have agreed with your mum (had he survivived).
I'm now more interested in what Schead is going to do. That's brutal, and another reason to be single. You must feel like you've just been kicked in the bollocks x 100.
There could be a number of reasons for a man not wanting a relationship. This isn't to say that they wouldn't be okay with a bit of 'fun' now and again. I'm just guessing with that bit though. But yeah, there could be a number of reasons why they don't want anything that remotely resembles a commitment.
Not going to touch that one with a barge pole. Which is going against type apparently.